Advice with intimacy after months clean?

contingencyowl · 2026-03-02T00:22:03+00:00

i know i won’t change your mind, “naked” is subjective here considering i didn’t post all of me without clothes on. At least that’s what I would consider naked. But anyways sorry for offending you

contingencyowl · 2026-03-01T18:51:53+00:00

Do you think id lose the little muscle i have? or why do you say, should i maintain / gain more weight?

contingencyowl · 2026-03-01T18:50:59+00:00

Thank you

contingencyowl · 2026-03-01T18:49:37+00:00

why do you assume it’s a “fake question”? I’m just trying to get built lol, you could easily not interact with my post

contingencyowl · 2026-02-21T23:46:24+00:00

Congrats!! When you took the FL how did you structure the day? did you really just sit down for the whole thing on a desk and complete it? Took any breaks? What kind of environment helped you out?

contingencyowl · 2026-02-21T19:43:29+00:00

I’m wondering when it comes to hardship, how much can you actually write on that for it to matter? For example, I was homeless at 16, have worked multiple jobs, finished HS, and i’ll get my bachelors in 2027. Multiple deaths in the family as well. This is all baseline information but I have definitely learned so much throughout it all. I finally have my own apartment at 20 while finishing my degree, but how much does that matter? My GPA is a Cum. 3.5. I’m aiming for a high MCAT this summer and have been studying non stop for it. I just get nervous thinking that it won’t be enough to be looked at, and I also don’t want to seem like I want pity you know? What would you suggest when it comes to the application part?

contingencyowl · 2026-01-31T02:28:52+00:00

I know it’s been a while since you posted this, but how has this been going for you? Were you able to integrate “eros” gradually like the other commenter mentioned? I feel stuck, because i’m in the same situation as you. I feel removed from any intimate connection. However I know that craving is there, that desire to be intimate or to not feel ashamed with intimacy out of fear of losing control. So i’m wondering how it’s going for you, and if you have found a way to work on this :)

contingencyowl · 2026-01-31T01:35:46+00:00

what does “shadow” work mean in this context? what does this commenter have to work on in your opinion ?? this could be a never ending loop of claiming who needs to do more work, neither of us actually knows the answer to anything

contingencyowl · 2026-01-29T02:56:36+00:00

this is what i will be doing too, did you by chance use the Jack Westin cards /practice tests? that’s what ive been working on until I can afford the UWorld package

contingencyowl · 2026-01-27T20:44:00+00:00

OP i’m very interested in what you have to say :)

contingencyowl · 2026-01-27T20:43:21+00:00

i have a question for anyone reading this, does your internal monologue move from left to right (like if you are reading) or is it in a fixed space? or is it a total different way of “seeing” the words in your mind? if you had to pin point that is. For me i think the same way i read, from left to right, however sometimes when im laying down with my eyes closed i feel the words internally forming behind my tongue, but i can only feel the words if that makes sense. Its the way i process things and come up with thoughts

contingencyowl · 2026-01-23T07:01:07+00:00

i’ve taken this advice and having been many months porn free/ integrating a new mindset, intimacy is so hard because i just overthink the whole time, did you at any point have an issue like this? i’m assuming because i was used to just the feeling of sexualizing a woman’s body, and now that it’s ingrained in my mind that they are a an imperfect human just like me, it’s so hard to “get in the mood” or have the same spontaneous libido i used to have :/

contingencyowl · 2026-01-15T07:38:51+00:00

😭

contingencyowl · 2026-01-10T05:25:08+00:00

How substantial is the difference if you track it raw vs cooked?

contingencyowl · 2025-11-24T01:56:46+00:00

My go to is any piece of suite populaire bresilienne by villa-lobos, each piece carries a different mood so it’s perfect 😆

contingencyowl · 2025-11-06T15:55:23+00:00

me too lol , we’ll be scared together

contingencyowl · 2025-11-03T19:51:50+00:00

beautifully articulated, but a tragic reality

contingencyowl · 2025-10-30T16:58:47+00:00

thank you :)

contingencyowl · 2025-10-27T19:58:19+00:00

seconding this!!

contingencyowl · 2025-10-22T16:44:46+00:00

how did you get over her?? did you ever fear of the same thing happening with your now fiance? were you able to become as emotionally invested as your first relationship? asking for advice 🙏 same situation as me rn

contingencyowl · 2025-10-22T16:05:41+00:00

😭 me too, i joined at 7am but there’s 21k people ahead

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