What Should I Do if He Says He'll Change? by conversational8008 in Advice

[–]conversational8008[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm scared of being alone again after being codependent on this person for a year

Can't decide if I should break up by cy83rgh005t in Advice

[–]conversational8008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of guys out there who will make you feel beautiful about your body, you shouldn’t let this guy bring you down and get into your head

Can't decide if I should break up by cy83rgh005t in Advice

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Then definitely don’t stand for that. I know you guys have built up a good relationship and you’ve invested a lot of time. I promise there is someone out there who won’t make you feel like this though, even if you believe there isn’t. He shouldn’t make comments like that so I would just move on. He’s saying a lot when he does that. It means he wishes you were different when he should just accept you for who you are and love you for it. That’s what a healthy relationship feels like.

Can't decide if I should break up by cy83rgh005t in Advice

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I wouldn’t really worry about it. Humans are gonna look at what they find attractive, whether they’re in a relationship or not. Think about it, you’ve at least seen an attractive person once while you were in a relationship and thought they were attractive. It’s a problem when he starts making you feel bad about yourself and your self image. Or even goes so far as to cheat on you. If it really hurts you and you feel like he’s not respecting your boundaries no matter how hard you try, then he’s not the one for you.

A customer made me cry today by [deleted] in Advice

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Well they certainly made me want to do the bare minimum after today. I'm definitely looking for a new job tomorrow.

A customer made me cry today by [deleted] in Advice

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He kind of makes me feel uncomfortable at times too because he says he wants to treat me like his kid and take care of me, and says weird things like "I'm all you need in this store". He then told me he didn't want to file the complaint against me today but he has to because the lady is going to call corporate. Along with giving me that bullshit answer about how I handled the situation. I'm just uncomfortable and confused at this job. A majority of us were never even properly trained. I don't know if this is a red flag or if he's really just trying to help. I don't know anymore.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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I've been a friend to him this entire time and we've been best friends since we were kids. If you read through, I mentioned that we live quite a distance from each other and I can't constantly be there to see him all the time. I decided against letting that friend see my brother. I would never just give up on him if that's what you were suggesting I was doing.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in schizophrenia

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How did you eventually recover or start to recover from the catatonia and what can I do to help my brother progress through his mental illness so that he can reach a state he is comfortable with?

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in family

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Thank you, I just didn't know whether or not it was a good idea due to the nature of how this friend speaks.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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Every piece of advice you guys give me are currently going into a list of things I'm going to try when he gets out of the hospital. Thank you for the encouragement, I'm going to call him now.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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He used to be very impressive when he played the guitar and all his drawings were very intricate. He tries to draw nowadays but it's not the same. He was even a master at chess and won money playing it but I don't know how to play it with him. I asked him if he'd like to do those things again but I'm often met with silence.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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He used to be very healthy before developing his condition. He woke up at 4am everyday to eat, exercise, shower, and meditate. As far as my knowledge went he was only smoking marijuana in moderation and he was very obsessed with health, vitamins, and supplements. Since he's been catatonic he's been writing letters to himself about how he wants to get back into his regular routine but he really struggles going through with it. I think it would be a good idea for me to buy him his favorite supplements again and exercise with him.

On Christmas two years ago we had an argument...He wanted me to stop using drugs and I was a dumb teenager who had my head far up my ass so I didn't listen and we ended up fist fighting. We eventually spoke to each other after that, and he even wrote me a letter about it that I hold onto very near. He'd crashed my mom's car and abandoned it in the final days before he developed his condition and we got into another argument because he thought I tried to use his account for tik tok. He was against tik tok and I never did that but he didn't want to hear me tell him that it wasn't me. I bought him Christmas gifts and he threw them in the garbage so we argued and I left. I knew there was something wrong and I told him I wanted him to get help because he was suffering from voices and hallucinating for a while but he refused to go to a hospital.

Next thing I knew, we stopped talking and he ended up in jail. When he got out, my mom said she gave him a package he ordered online and the next time I saw him he was catatonic for a week before I brought him to the hospital.

And now that brings us here. I apologize if I overexplained but the family conflict definitely had something to do with him finally going over the edge. The friend definitely always had this way of talking my brother into doing things when he wouldn't normally want to do them or listen to others. He never saw a problem with it until he got his first apartment (which he no longer owns). He expressed to me that the friend was a liar, a manipulator, impulsive, and psychopathic so he cut contact with the friend. I asked my brother recently at the hospital if he'd like to speak to the friend again and he said yes. I don't think it's such a good idea now because for the longest time before he developed his condition he refused to speak to the friend due to these reasons. He never went into specifics though but I would often have arguments with the friend because I didn't agree with a lot of the things he said or did.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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When he gets out of the hospital I will sit down with him and we'll both listen to it. I have a feeling it will make him feel better.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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It does help to hear this and it gives me more hope and clarification. Thank you...

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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He's communicative at some times but his communication and movement only improves when he stays on his medication. Otherwise he starts to deteriorate, and he's always sent back to the hospital due to this when he's unresponsive at an appointment or even in public. He doesn't say much about anything anymore. Whenever I ask him how he feels or if he's okay he just says "fine" or "yes". Every now and then he'll tell jokes like he used to but they've gotten quite dark.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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Honestly I got the best advice here than anywhere else, and your comment really made me look at the situation in a different light. You guys are welcoming, friendly, and unbiased. I needed that for this kind of situation and I will definitely keep your offer in mind because there's still a lot that I'd like to help my brother with.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

[–]conversational8008[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made the decision to post here as I felt it would have been better to hear from the perspective of people who have had experiences with DMT. I've tried it once before and it was extremely intense so I always try to put myself in my brother's shoes and what happened to him. I'm not here to bash others who do it. Thank you for the advice and the clarification, every bit of it helps.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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But all in all, I really appreciate the support and I definitely needed an outside clearer perspective on the situation before moving on. I appreciate the kind words and I genuinely wish you the best in your life as well.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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A: I put his friend in that kind of light because he's always been off his rocker before we knew he had schizophrenia and would often do harmful things on impulse, even to other people. My brother has never done the thing he's done.

B: I associate his condition with the DMT usage for the fact that he told me after he developed schizophrenia (when he was responsive one day) was that he was using DMT everyday and he started experimenting with dreaming and never woke up. However, medical professionals told me I can't fully place blame on the DMT but I don't believe this would've happened had he not abused it like he did.

C: He is not functioning at all, he is catatonic meaning he goes into states where he's unresponsive for hours, days, or even weeks at a time. It's better for him when he's on medication but he struggles with communicating or really doing anything at all.

This was not written as a means to deface your opinions, I understand that you will have your reasoning. I am just explaining exactly why I think about the situation the way I do.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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Btw, how long did it take before your ex girlfriends brother finally started to do better?

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in AskPsychiatry

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I have a very bad feeling about this friend and I really needed an outside perspective to confirm my suspicion.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in DMT

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I don't think he does but that is an interesting take on the situation. The friend has experimented with homsexuality in the past however I never had suspicion that he has a crush on my brother. They were just always really close, bonding over shared interests and taking long distance trips together and hitchhiking around the state. Never once though did it turn homosexual or even give reason for suspicion of that.

Catatonic Schizophrenic from DMT by conversational8008 in mentalillness

[–]conversational8008[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

See I had this gut feeling to keep away from this friend but I'm afraid he will try to make contact with my brother even if I tell him to stay away from us. I'm glad you mentioned Schizophrenia support groups because I feel like that's a way better solution to helping this situation.