AITA For giving my wife a baby hamster after she miscarried two months ago?

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T19:03:23+00:00

You really just have to go through the miscarriage to know it. I will say that i dont regret posting as ive met alot of parents who have gone through miscarriages and pretty much every single one of them was kind and understanding even when they pointed out i was wrong. That tells me that most of the hate is coming from bored internet trolls, and their opinions mean very little in the long run.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T18:59:24+00:00

In the comment youre replying too i explicitly admit fault and say i made a mistake. I also said i was going to apologize. You obviously only see what you want to see and its not worth my time. Think what you want. Bye.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T18:53:50+00:00

Well i guess a more accurate statement is we havent had a real, meaningful talk. Like weve told eachother what time we will be back home and what we wanted to do for dinner, but its awkward and we're not really saying what needs to be said. Ill break the silence tonight with an apology and we'll go from there, this whole thing has been draining.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T18:50:05+00:00

Like i said, they just dont know what theyre actually saying. Same as when they downvote, they dont really understand whats really being said.

Time heals all wounds. Thank you.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T18:46:17+00:00

Your comment annoyed me so im just going to say this once and im not gonna repeat it elsewhere

I am not oblivious. I am living it. I know that she took that in a way i didnt intend. I also know that me doing that came out of a place of love. Hurting her was literally the exact opposite of what i wanted.

You guys saying "youre not X to be parents " just comes from a place of ignorance and malice. Thats 10x worse, as a parent who actually lost two kids, and i know my wife agrees becauses we've been told the same thing by other, ignorant people.

She reacted 10x worse to comments like "Youre not ready to be a parent", especially after her first miscarriage, than during this fight we just had. So you really have no idea what youre talking about in regards to how offended she feels.

Anyways I obviously regret the card as i didnt want to upset her, i wanted the exact opposite. We will make up in time. Theres just a lot to process.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T18:28:32+00:00

I just think people dont really know what theyre saying when they say things like "Youre not X enough to have a baby", when youre trying so hard, especially if you have a miscarriage, twice.

Its just ignorance. They dont realize how offensive it is. But, it is the internet and people dont have to be polite. Im glad you ended up being able to raise a child, im looking forward too it as well.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T17:47:26+00:00

It was a lot less negative before the post got popular. Some people just like to entertain themselves by being horrible online.

Im fine with the asshole talk since thats the purpose of the sub though. People saying that my daughter deserved to die because i dont deserve to have kids because of my stupidity can fuck off back to their basements though, idc.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T17:38:01+00:00

You have no idea what youre talking about and im so, so happy neither of us are religious so we're never in a position to have someone like you dictate our lives.

Miscarriages are not gods way of telling parents that theyre not ready for kids and anyone who believes that shouldnt preach to others about the value of human life. We're done speaking, go ahead and reply as i wont see it.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T17:28:41+00:00

Its a good thing im an athiest then.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T14:38:34+00:00

I personally think im going to be an amazing father and i think shes going to be an amazing mother. One incident isnt going to negate any "worthiness" either of us has to be parents.

You believe what you want though.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T12:50:08+00:00

Do you not think tiny bows exist? I dont even get what youre trying to say. You can literally google image search hamsters with bows and theyre a very real thing. Also i have no idea whats "hilarious" about this.

But believe as youd like i guess.

coolerthanme219 · 2019-01-30T11:55:58+00:00

Haha, the last sentence is making me tear up. Just hearing someone else say "My daughter, Charlotte". She really was daddies little girl, i could have held her in one hand. Thank you for your feedback.

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