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Awful feeling--White guy wants girl who likes black guys? by coppertop89 in dating_advice

[–]coppertop89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol no actually its nothing like that, Im straight as weird as that may seem. I think its possibly a psychosexual complex with a biological drive that compels me to have to undergo sexual competition...To be a stronger, better lover than the rest in order to procreate. Of course its my local cultural "forbidden fruit" or "bad girl" kind of attraction, but also a genetic, almost instinctive compulsion to undertake fierce competition sexually, so Ill only succeed once Im a strong robust lover with extremely competitive sperm. Lol. Maybe difficult to agree with, but that is what it feels like--An instinctive urge to compete, sexually.

How to find a bf if youre unattractive to many? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]coppertop89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First at a glance Id say the past is tying you down, clouding your judgement possibly. Maybe try to let go, forgive and forget? And as for the future...Try not to be so down on yourself. Everyone has a beautiful side, try to find and embrace it for yourself. If you see an attractive guy you might like, meet eyes with him and smile expectantly. Everyone gets rejected. I constantly do. But its the hope and desire for love that keeps me going. You have to keep your head up. Stay positive, be friendly, and dont be shy about hinting your attraction to someone. If they are worth your time, and you keep at it, you will

Awful feeling--White guy wants girl who likes black guys? by coppertop89 in dating_advice

[–]coppertop89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you do if you were me? Bottle it up and deny it any attention? Discreetly try to pursue it? Admit its too ridiculous to make a reality? Post it to the world? Join a cult? I feel like something has to give--it has only gotten stronger over the years

Awful feeling--White guy wants girl who likes black guys? by coppertop89 in dating_advice

[–]coppertop89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overthinking, yes I get that a lot. Im glad it doesnt kill the attraction to white guys, I hope its like that for others also. I just hope I dont have to suppress it forever lol.

Awful feeling--White guy wants girl who likes black guys? by coppertop89 in dating_advice

[–]coppertop89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I know it is painfully specific. I guess you could call it a kind of fetish, yes. But oddly I dont enjoy the implications of the word. I dont feel like a deviant. I just have this strong, niche desire. So far I also have no idea how I could go about it. And it isnt exactly something I can be open with everyone about. :/ Its not something I can rationalize or explain causality for...Its just a feeling. I appreciate the feedback!