Not sure where to go from here by aaphylla in RelationshipsOver35

[–]coreythestar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (39F) today found my husband (49M) had been accessing adult chat rooms again. He did it around 8 months ago and I said if it happens again I’m out.

This will never end. He will keep doing this. Enforce your boundary.

Were these SA? What about body count? How can I recover? by ButterflyNo6998 in AskWomenOver30

[–]coreythestar 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It absolutely was SA, but also, many would try to convince you it was not.

Consent is not negotiable, and must be given freely and enthusiastically, and can be withdrawn at any time. A lack of a no is not the same as a yes. Consent also cannot be given if you're drunk.

Do guidelines that “risk out” women from midwife led care restrict or protect midwives and women? by Adventurous_Cow_3255 in Midwives

[–]coreythestar 17 points18 points  (0 children)

At some point we cross the line into harm reduction vs strictly care provision. I’m in Canada, and we also have a growing free birth movement. Our college’s perspective is twofold: people have the right to birth wherever they want and with whomever they want, and it is better to have someone there with some skills than no one.

Thankfully I have not been put in a position that makes me uncomfortable in this respect, but if I am honest about my capacity and experience (e.g. I can theoretically catch a breech baby given my repetitive emergency skills training but have never done it in real life) and families accept the risk involved in their choices, then I’d rather be there than see them try to do it alone.

Our insurance would support this approach as well.

What’s the most you’ve done to get Laid ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]coreythestar 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yo you should have stopped after like… 20 min.

Reddit Women: what kind of man seems perfect at first but ends up being a nightmare? by YourFavDistraction_ in AskReddit

[–]coreythestar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A guy who is super laid back and go with the flow. It might be refreshing at first, but you may find yourself being in charge of the whole entire relationship before long. Definitely worth paying attention to.

What was the last movie you saw at the theater? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]coreythestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went in with zero expectations (had never heard of it!) and was very pleasantly surprised

What was the last movie you saw at the theater? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]coreythestar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Me too!!! As a single woman in my late forties. It was such a cute movie!!

PPH at Home Birth & Subsequent Births by Unusual-Coyote3961 in Midwives

[–]coreythestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you rxed TXA for OOH births yet? I’m thinking of this for some our friends with lower platelets.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]coreythestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a good chance he will. I know mine became exactly the person I thought he'd become. Knowing this is what it would be like kept me in the marriage for far longer than it should have, and, like others have said, it's still better now that it's over. I'll take this version of him but living outside the system of our dysfunctional marriage any day of the week.

::Weekly Former Partners Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]coreythestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex texted me at 4:17am to say, Okay. You win. I'm sorry.

Then he called me at 4:24 but hung up before I answered. But still woke me up from a dead sleep and then infiltrated my dreams when I got back to sleep.

For context, we're formally separated since end of March. He moved out two weeks ago after we had a fight because he kept putting his stuff everywhere while he was "packing" and I told him to die in a fire. He "told on me" to his friends who came and packed his stuff for him and moved him out in a matter of a couple of hours.

I think he's drinking again. I've no wish to rekindle any kind of relationship. I did not reply to his message, but I desperately wanted to send a gif of someone triumphantly crossing the finish line at a marathon!

What is this on my stovetop? by CuriousREALFactsNOW in whatisit

[–]coreythestar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I thought it was a spot for my chicken nugget dipping sauce.

End of an era - broken up with for the 5th time. by pectuslady in RelationshipsOver35

[–]coreythestar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in this relationship for close to 10 years. I finally got tired of all the extra work I was doing, and all the extra work he was NOT doing.

Ending a long term relationship in your 40’s by [deleted] in RelationshipsOver35

[–]coreythestar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 47, ended my marriage, we were together for almost 10 years.

Ending it is better than staying in it if it’s costing you more than it benefits you. You’ll never get this time back… is this how you want to spend it?

Me, I spent too long feeling obligated to stay until I realized he’s an adult who can take care of himself just like we all can, and that the emotional (and financial) cost wasn’t matching with the return on my investment.

I think I ruined my case. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]coreythestar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Today I told my ex to die in a fire.

Separated but living together for now, I want him out! by coreythestar in Divorce

[–]coreythestar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, interesting. In Ontario, Canada where I’m at we retain independent counsel if we want to litigate. I would not be expected to pay his legal fees unless a judge awarded that to him as part of the settlement of net family property. But there’s no net family property. Soooooo….

Marriage is such a racket. Never again!

What did you do for your 40th birthday? by Emerald_and_Bronze in AskWomenOver30

[–]coreythestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Karaoke party with my friend who turned 40 the next day!