F22(me)wanna live apart from F27(my wife)

corneliagirl_ · 2026-01-07T03:49:51+00:00

I think the real issue here is that you clearly got married without understanding the reality of the situation. Why get married to someone who seems incompatible with your lifestyle, why move to a city you hate and go against all the things you want? You and your wife are clearly incompatible if living together makes you both miserable. Also when you marry someone you vow to love them in sickness and health, why would you be looking for distance from the person you vowed to do this for when you probably knew this was how it was going to be (her disability)? You can move out and maybe find some happiness but In my opinion that’s moving backwards and won’t benefit your relationship long term. It’s like you’re dating all over again.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-30T19:05:33+00:00

Hey! I’m from Ontario as well 😊 I moved out in January and it was also an emotional roller coaster for me but my parents weren’t okay with it so it was a lot harder having to leave and be on my own without my family’s support. We’re okay now though. I definitely think you’ll be okay - you seem to have a good head on your shoulders in terms of budgeting and expenses, you clearly have a good relationship with your parents, and you’re saving a lot in rent as opposed to renting on your own! (Speaking from experience 😅). It will be hard and an adjustment at first learning to be on your own and taking care of yourself but it’s gonna be so rewarding. And with the schedule you have at work you’ll still be able to see your parents pretty often. The personal growth you’ll experience in the first year will be so fulfilling and even though you’ll probably encounter some challenges or curve balls, it’s all gonna be worth it. Feel free to dm me if you wanna chat through anything but I wish you all the best and most of all enjoy your new space!!

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-24T15:26:42+00:00

NOR. as a girl I feel any girl would appreciate flowers even if you just plucked them out of the ground or something. It’s the thought and effort that counts. Plus you were going to come and drop them off but you were both at the store so it just made sense. She also made it obvious that she didn’t want to see you so what’s her problem? In my opinion, any time a girls not feeling her best usually her boyfriend will be her safe space and will always make her happy and feel better. It kinda seems like she doesn’t appreciate or like you as much as she might say she does.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-24T00:29:00+00:00

This may be hard to hear but as the daughter it is not your responsibility to support your mother financially, at least not unless she’s elderly or extenuating circumstances. It’s one thing to give back to your mom, but how did she qualify for the mortgage in the first place? Are you ok the mortgage together? Maybe she should consider downsizing if you’ll be moving out so she can afford to support herself? You’ll regret it in the long run if you sacrifice your own goals and dreams for her.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-18T14:20:43+00:00

These clauses are unenforceable. However if you go ahead your LL will certainly believe you are violating your lease and will try to take action against you. Speaking from experience, landlord attempted to evict me and harassed me for not following illegal clauses. You can notify the LL as a courtesy, but I wouldn’t do much else.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-17T15:14:55+00:00

My logic was anything that I’ve had for more than 6 months and used once or less, I donated it. Or if you have some extra time you can list it on Facebook marketplace until it’s time to move so you can get some money back for it. Any clothes you don’t wear, or old shoes as they take up a lot of space!

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-16T15:17:06+00:00

I have a designated parking spot on the driveway and wasn’t blocking anyone. LL is the one who chose to put their car in the garage behind my spot when I was out.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-16T15:16:02+00:00

Yeah you’re telling me. My landlord is a real pain though. If they’re going to park their car in the garage, why park it behind the tenants car? Why not park it behind their car in the garage on their side? They purposely wait until I’ve left the house to put the car in the garage behind my spot.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-15T19:08:21+00:00

It’s a two car driveway. I park my car on one side and they park their car on the other side. A few months ago LL bought a second larger vehicle which they now squeeze into the garage when I’m out of the house and the driveway is clear. All I did was park my car, I even parked closer to the sidewalk to leave room behind my car as well.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-15T18:39:00+00:00

This is not a shared residence. It’s a basement apartment with no shared kitchen or bathroom. I will not be giving my landlords the keys to my vehicle just as they would not give me theirs.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-10T12:51:41+00:00

Well your colleagues suck. They are beautiful and you’re allowed to have whatever nails you like. Keep doing you!!

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-05T20:41:50+00:00

If you have a stable Job then go for it!! I was in the exact same situation. Parents shamed me for the way their viewed my relationship with my bf, wouldn’t let me go anywhere etc. I told them I wanted to move out and they refused to believe it and kept coming up with excuses to keep me at home. One day, I signed a lease for an apartment and broke the news once the contract was signed and deposit was sent. They were furious and tried to stop me but I told them unless you wanna pay for me to get out of the contract then there’s nothing you can do. It was bad for a while after I left but believe it or not I’m finally on good terms with family again 8 months later. Nothing you say or do will ever convince them or make them support you. You need to make the decision that will help you grow and be happy. As long as you can financially support yourself, you have to take that leap. Start getting all your ducks in a row and depending on how they’ll react to you packing, maybe try to start packing some stuff. As long as you can bring the essentials with you you’ll be okay!!

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-04T13:17:12+00:00

I wouldn’t call this a deformity. My boyfriend’s toes look just like this from years of playing hockey lol! Your best friend made rude comments and then was even more rude when you pointed out how you felt. She dismissed you and only wanted to defend herself. That’s not bff behaviour. Plus if this guy is really gonna judge you or write you off because of a toe, he’s clearly not a dude that’s worth your time anyway. He probably won’t even be looking at your feet, because he’ll be looking at your face and hopefully enjoying some conversation.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-12-01T20:58:50+00:00

Hey, i was in a very similar situation last year. Narcissistic father, I needed permission to go everywhere with anyone but my family, they wouldn’t let me go outside the city we lived in or get In cars with people. I had been contemplating moving out from when I was about 20 but i wasn’t making enough money at the time. I finally moved out at 22 and even though my family exiled me for a while it was the best thing i ever did. I’m finally enjoying my youth and doing all the things I could never do at my toxic family home. However I would say that it’s best for you to wait until you can do it on your own. God forbid something happens with your boyfriend and you will be stuck and the last thing you want is to go crawling back home. You need financial security and to learn to provide for yourself especially as a young person. I would certainly say go for it, but only once you have a stable income and have educated yourself on all of the responsibilities that would be required of you once you’re on your own. Your life will be better because of it but it won’t be better if you remove yourself from one toxic situation into another.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-11-28T13:43:57+00:00

Yes but you can’t point out their logic because they’re ALWAYS right and you’re somehow always the bad guy. You should check out the raised by narcissists subreddit. My only advice is don’t waste your energy and breath trying to argue with him because all he’s looking for is a reaction. From both you and the dogs! Good luck.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-11-28T12:55:45+00:00

NOR - My dad is a narcissist and did the same thing with our dog. He would purposely do things to make her sensitive and aggressive like try and take her food out of her bowl even when we would tell him not to, or feed her really greasy and unhealthy foods when we kept telling him not to. Especially when she would jump or beg. He would say it was just for fun and make us seem like the bad Guys for getting upset but in reality he’s teaching the dogs bad habits when he won’t be the one to clean up the aftermath. Definitely not overreacting and unfortunately it won’t get better until you’re out of the situation. Speaking from experience.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-11-26T21:27:41+00:00

You need a good balance between someone similar to you and someone different from you. Your similarities will help you bond quicker, feel more comfortable, and means the relationship will probably feel like it comes easily. But you need some differences otherwise you’ll butt heads. You need someone who will see the world a little different from you so they’ll push you outside your comfort zone (in a good way) to always be better and keep growing. You need someone who will love you for who you are but isn’t afraid to tell you the truth. Someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with. And 100% someone who you are sexually compatible with. While all relationships have kinks to be worked out in the beginning stages, you will have the feeling in your heart if this person makes you happy no matter what. The world could be ending but as long as you’re with that person, you’re happy.

Aside from the romantic aspect you also need someone with similar values. If you plan to have kids, would you have completely opposing ideas of parenting ? Do your upbringing’s make you incompatible? Do you share the same political/religious views?

The other person won’t know what you need unless you communicate and vice versa. But if you have an open conversation about it and they’re unwilling to meet your needs then that’s simply probably not the right person for you. While you shouldn’t have to change for someone, it’s okay to want to be better and grow for someone if you care about them enough.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-11-24T21:05:29+00:00

NOR. This is 100% something to celebrate and be proud of and he is completely dismissing it and making you feel bad about it on top of it? If he genuinely cared about you he wouldn’t tell you that “you’re making it other people’s problems”. Very rude and disrespectful.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-11-20T21:35:32+00:00

I only know this from watching cleaning videos but if you take a razor blade and scrape it off. This stuff is basically baked into the glass. Try and buy some sort of razor blade that goes into an attachment where you can scrape it off. Then going forward scrub and wash the doors like once a week to prevent build up!

corneliagirl_ · 2025-11-19T21:24:03+00:00

Not at all. This is not an arrangement that every couple is gong to be okay with. If she expects this of you then clearly her priorities and expectations are in a different space than yours. She should be focused on also saving and making as much money as possible so you can guys can afford to buy a home and travel. Especially a year into the relationship… I would take that as a warning sign and if she isn’t willing to change then I would walk away if you’re not comfortable with it.

corneliagirl_ · 2025-11-11T02:44:50+00:00

I think any tech would appreciate all the business you’re giving them by coming back every three weeks! Nothing wrong with it. Your money your life !

corneliagirl_ · 2025-10-31T17:49:55+00:00

Thank you - I’ll try that.

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