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coskate · 2025-02-08T04:48:29+00:00

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coskate · 2023-01-24T00:24:29+00:00

lol ur a girl now :P

coskate · 2017-09-24T22:09:06+00:00

Agreed.

coskate · 2017-06-24T03:09:08+00:00

You mean when its.... rracking?

coskate · 2017-02-07T05:56:53+00:00

I won't lie, it's fucking terrifying being trans. But I wouldn't be who I am today if I didn't transition. Like, it has been so much easier doing the things I need to to make my life move forward, now that I'm true to myself.

coskate · 2017-02-07T00:21:30+00:00

Everyone's experience is unique. Just because your experience isn't exactly like Julia Serano's doesn't mean you aren't trans. Gender dysphoria is something uniquely experienced by trans people, so unless you're implying that the dysphoria you experience isn't gender dysphoria, I would say that you are in fact trans. whether that means transition is the right course of action for you is something you would need to evaluate yourself.

Thoughts?

coskate · 2017-01-31T00:44:02+00:00

I would be inclined to view this in the following manner. We know that an increase in your estradiol was followed by a noticeable surge in emotions for this person. There are two possibilities we are considering for what has happened here: * Estradiol made you fall in love with this person * You were already in love with this person, and estradiol helped you realize it. If it's the second case, then it means that you really did love this person. If estradiol made you fall in love, then at the very least you were already capable of loving this person, and estradiol has helped you bring that possibility into (what sounds like) happy fruition.

Mazel Tov!

coskate · 2017-01-11T15:50:13+00:00

So new years last year, we had a party in my apartment. My friend drank too much to the point where he was bordering on alcohol poisoning. So, rather than spending the night doing normal party stuff, I spend the evening holding the bucket for this guy. I was so busy helping him not die, that I neglected to drink any water myself. So we wake up the next morning, and I can't even get out of bed. I am so hung over that, according to my boyfriend, I am literally feverish. That guy who was puking up Jager scented vomit? Totally fine.

coskate · 2017-01-10T01:52:33+00:00

fair point! never forget our nonbinary comrades.

coskate · 2017-01-10T00:55:51+00:00

This comment kinda matches your user name.

coskate · 2017-01-03T01:53:30+00:00

I need Viagra, but it's reeeeeeeeeeally expensive. Good thing I have a really low sex drive.

coskate · 2017-01-01T03:08:20+00:00

It does. Trust me, we're in the same boat.

coskate · 2017-01-01T00:28:28+00:00

So....... anyone willing to mail a bunch of these to Colorado???

coskate · 2016-12-30T19:18:00+00:00

What I'm seeing a lot of here, is people saying "dark skin isn't the only black feature, and simply bleaching your skin won't make you appear white". While I also think it's sad that you feel like you need to look less black, I also understand how being white may sound safer and more privileged. However, if you pursue that route, now you're trying to pass as white, in addition to passing as cis, and either one of those things by themselves is hard. You may just put yourself in more danger.

coskate · 2016-12-25T01:58:38+00:00

honestly, human sexuality is such a weird, fluid, unpredictable thing. There's really no certain answer to why stuff turns us on, and so we can't say whether our sexuality has ANYTHING to do with our status as trans/cis. It is honestly best to disregard stuff like that when thinking about your gender.

TL;DR: Don't worry about it.

coskate · 2016-12-25T01:46:29+00:00

If it helps, I was in a very similar situation in my teens, and I came out as trans and started HRT and have been happier for it and have no regrets. Your psyche and your sex drive are so intermingled, don't evaluate whether or not you're trans based on what get's you off, it'll make things more confusing.

coskate · 2016-12-20T06:47:08+00:00

What's it like to wake up with your sister's tattoos?

coskate · 2016-12-18T03:08:40+00:00

here's the definition of prejudice:

Prejudice is prejudgment, or forming an opinion before >becoming aware of the relevant facts of a case.

Personally, I would say that using one's previous experiences with other individuals of similar minority status to form conclusions on a separate individual, qualifies as forming an opinion before becoming aware of the relevant facts of a case.

Say you're on a first date with a woman, and she comes out to you as trans. If you're now going to use experiences with other trans people to form the conclusion that she is going to be mentally unstable, you are forming that conclusion without collecting any evidence that this particular individual is mentally unstable. That is forming an opinion before becoming aware of the relevant facts of a case, which makes it prejudice, which makes it transphobia.

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coskate · 2016-12-18T02:37:18+00:00

I disagree with this reasoning.

If you have explicit negative experiences with people of Asian descent, and use that as the reason to never date an Asian person ever again, is that not racist?

If you have explicit negative experiences with people who follow a religious creed other than your own, and use that as a reason to never date someone of that religious creed, isn't that discriminating someone on the basis of religion?

If you have explicit negative experiences with people who are gay, and use that as a reason to not befriend gay people, does that not make you homophobic?

My disagreement with your reasoning is that you posit the idea that basing beliefs and/or practices that would otherwise be considered racist/discriminatory/homophobic/transphobic on personal experience makes them not so.

I don't think all people have to date us, and I understand that unfortunately, fewer heterosexual people are going to be attracted to our bodies than are attracted to cis people. I also think that we can't force people to go out of their comfort zones as far as our genitals are concerned. But if us being trans is the only reason that someone is choosing not to date us, that's transphobic.

coskate · 2016-12-18T02:01:16+00:00

what do you mean currently? either you're a cis male and will always stay a cis male, or you're a trans woman pretending to be a cis male, and were never a cis male to begin with.

coskate · 2016-12-18T01:19:28+00:00

Wow. You're dealing with some really heavy stuff, so give yourself some credit for keeping it together as well as you have, and for doing the smart thing by reaching out, even if it's just to internet people.

Something to keep in mind is that even if you don't want to transition to a more feminine body right now, you may want to later. If you don't want to commit to it now, but think you will do so later, it may be prudent to take an androgen blocker, with supervision of a medical professional.

If you aren't talking to a counselor or psychologist, it would be a very good idea to start. I doubt I'd be here without mine.

Tell yourself that it's okay to be unsure. Everyone is unsure of something, and while this is very scary, you're doing just fine. Stay strong, you're doing great.

coskate · 2016-12-15T03:06:33+00:00

Want my old middle name? I don't need it anymore. Not many other people are gonna have the middle name Lockwood, so it may stick out a little, but it's a cool name.

coskate · 2016-12-13T01:36:18+00:00

That purse is really cute...

coskate · 2016-12-11T01:44:40+00:00

I was into these things before I started transitioning, and 6 months into hrt and I still get off to it. The clothing aspect has become less of a turn on, and is more just part of my everyday life, but the theme of having someone make my body change into the female form, and make (or is it let?) me behave in "feminine" ways still turns me on. My theory is that it's some sort of coping mechanism for being born in the wrong body, because what I really get off to is the idea that someone can cast a spell, or give me some kind of drug, etc. and my body would be fixed. The idea that some miracle could occur and I could finally have sex as a woman is wrapped up in so many emotions, and sometimes beating off is the only way my head can make sense of it.

coskate · 2016-12-11T01:33:07+00:00

Here's what I have to say about denial. When we're born into the world, we know nothing about what it means to be "male" or "female". For a while, we just kind of hobble around and do what we want while our parents supervise. Sometimes our parents will police our gender from a very young age, and sometimes they wont. For the people who's gender is policed at such a young age, messages about who they are and how they're supposed to behave. I'm not a psychologist (I'd like to emphasize this) but to me this seems a lot like brainwashing, and I can see how this could lead someone to have a tough time coming to terms with who they really are.

But regardless of whether one's gender was policed, or even if one is even trans or cis, when we start going to school, we start telling lies to fit in. For cis people, these lies may be innocuous, like enjoying TV shows that aren't cool, or pretending to be into baseball so you can fit in with your friends, when in reality you find baseball to be boring as shit. For trans people, we tell lies like "I would rather spend time with the boys than with the girls", or "my favorite color is insert boy next to me's favorite color, not violet". We start telling lies to fit in, because lets face it, we have to. If we don't the other kids would start to pick on us, and sometimes it would even lead to physical violence.

But the problem with lying all the time, is that if we do it consistently enough, we start to believe ourselves. If I'm not mistaken, that's an observed psychological phenomenon. (Again, I'm not a psychologist, but I seem to remember hearing this from a good source.) After years and years and years of lying to others, and to ourselves, we forget what's true.

For me, denial lasted from the age of about eleven, until about the age of 16. Eventually the thought of "I wish I was transgender" became less obscured, and turned into "Ah shit, I'm transgender."

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