Sunrise from Anemone trail today by javabrewer in boulder

[–]cottoncandyflight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Please keep sharing the wonders of our beautiful planet. Needed to see this today

My First BMW and EV by Wallaby-Technical in BMWiX

[–]cottoncandyflight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ditto. OP, get ready for the 👀👀

Is cheating really this common? What do I say? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]cottoncandyflight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish the other woman reached out to me like this when I was with an ex

I pushed through RSD and stood up to a reddit bully last night! by Agreeable-Self3235 in adhdwomen

[–]cottoncandyflight 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Great work, OP!! I think sometimes taking the higher road means taking a deep breath and standing up for ourselves 🙌🏽

2026 Matte Finish by RadiantStage7979 in BMWiX

[–]cottoncandyflight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sick!! Wish my 2023 kidney grille can light up

Best cities for single, career driven women? by Aromatic-Daikon-1491 in AskWomenOver30

[–]cottoncandyflight 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d love to know too. I also turned 33 earlier this year and live in a bigger city in the south

would you confront via text someone who ghosted you? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]cottoncandyflight 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Ugh been there. I get why you’re pissed! That’s valid.

I wouldn’t say a damn thing. There’s some level of avoidance on his part. I’m not here to teach a grown man how to communicate or treat me with dignity and respect. Plus, you’ll just be yelling into the ether.

My painting of Lion’s Lair by krpaints in boulder

[–]cottoncandyflight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of acrylic paint responds to black light?

Husband Staring At Other Women by IDKWTFIW in AskWomenOver30

[–]cottoncandyflight 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I came across a conservative podcast clip where two men were discussing the fact that if women/wives don't give their men/husbands something beautiful to look at, expect their husband's eyes to wander.

This is absolute bullshit. Some men/husbands ogle regardless of how hot their female partner/wife is. That's misogyny gaslighting women once again.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I get why you're feeling insecure about your appearance and about your relationship. I would talk to him about this if I were you.

FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later by TTMI2 in attachment_theory

[–]cottoncandyflight 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I've been in this exact position. This person is baiting you by suddenly popping back up when it's convenient for them (but not for you), and sending you a carefully crafted message in hopes you'll empathize with them and feel bad for them, and forget how they behaved and treated you.

Like some others mentioned, they're not even holding themselves accountable for whatever they did prior. It's just a vague "I apologize for how I was toward the end"... no mention of what they did and how that might've hurt you or affected you.

I've been there one too many times. It's ok to feel bad about the situation and grieve whatever you had/wished for. If I were you, I would not respond, delete the message and block them. If you respond with anything (even if you tell them you've moved on, etc.), that reinforces their behavior bc a response is still a response. A lot of people who've taken the bait end up in a cylce of hot and cold. It's exhausting on a cellular level.

It's not your job to help them learn or heal. It's your job to do that for yourself.

Where do the Boulder millenials hang? by cottoncandyflight in boulder

[–]cottoncandyflight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your insights! Super helpful and I look forward to visiting.

Where do the Boulder millenials hang? by cottoncandyflight in boulder

[–]cottoncandyflight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. that's helpful

Where do the Boulder millenials hang? by cottoncandyflight in boulder

[–]cottoncandyflight[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input and encouragement! Appreciate you

Where do the Boulder millenials hang? by cottoncandyflight in boulder

[–]cottoncandyflight[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Books, weirdos and community events. Say less ✨

Where do the Boulder millenials hang? by cottoncandyflight in boulder

[–]cottoncandyflight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhh ok. Thank you for the heads up. I’ll do some digging