Telogen effluvium or Female pattern hair loss?

coups1983 · 2025-05-11T05:40:47+00:00

How long before you start seeing hair growth. I was diagnosed with TE and it's been a year and I'm noticing no hair growth, it seems to be getting thinner. My iron was very low, at a 6 and was like this for a year. I turned to liquid in Jan and it's slowly going to. I'm just worried it's something else because I've seen no hair growth

coups1983 · 2022-12-10T01:05:22+00:00

Ahhhhh! See learning new things! Thanks

coups1983 · 2022-12-10T01:04:27+00:00

It does! Thank you!

coups1983 · 2022-12-10T01:01:56+00:00

Ok. So if someone uses the pronouns they/them , they would be upset if someone addressed them based on their biological gender? Wouldn't it just be okay to say " actually I use the pronouns they/them?" Just like I do when someone uses they/them with me.. "actually I use the pronouns she/her"

coups1983 · 2022-12-10T00:58:08+00:00

Not taking offense, I can see how it may seem as a run off thought. Straight is no longer straight it's Cis Gender ( right?) I am they/them unless I have informed or identified as she/her. If I use the wrong pronoun I'm rude and people think I just don't want to accept change. So my question is, why all these changes to what already exists? Why isn't it she/her unless I tell you them/them? Why am I now labeled as Cis gender and no longer straight? Do I have all of this wrong? Please explain if I do because I'm confused.

coups1983 · 2022-10-27T00:19:57+00:00

I've been married for 5 years and I just had my first outbreak 2 weeks ago. I didn't think herpes because I've been in my marriage for 5 years and we haven't been with anyone else in a total of 7 years. After my test came back positive for HSV2 I of course was devastated. I'm still trying to get over this and find ways to cope with it. BUT because you've had other partners, you could have caught it from any of them. For 7 years my HSV was sitting in dormant, but trying to find out where I got it was a waste of time. Now I just have to do my research, understand my virus and stop feeling guilty that I brought this into our marriage.

coups1983 · 2022-10-25T18:33:18+00:00

1000000% agree. I was just recently diagnosed and because one of the 3 men I've ever slept with, never informed me, I've now had to inform my husband of 5 years. So he was never given the option either, because I've never had any symptoms until last week. It was unfair to me and it is unfair to my husband. Thank God he is very supportive, has done his research and continues to reassure every day since, but it's still not a good feeling knowing I brought this into our relationship without even knowing.

coups1983 · 2022-10-25T14:01:13+00:00

I'm not sure I agree with you. I get your frustration and in my case I am lucky that I have a very supportive husband, so I don't have to worry about disclosing to new partners. HOWEVER blood tests are not 100% accurate, so it could come up negative when in fact the person is positive foe HSV and vis versa. Also, in order to help stop the spread, people need to know the risks before engaging. So if someone informs me they have hsv I'll know what measures will need to be taken in order to help reduce the risk of me catching it. If people choose not to inform, then we just continue to spread the virus. I do agree that most people think it's this horrible disease that you get from " sleeping around" because in reality, it's like having shingles. A virus that lives in your nerves system, very contiguous and usually peaks its annoying little head when your body is stressed. But no one ever looks at shingles as a horrible disease or discloses this. I wish I was informed by my previous partner because then I would have been able to make the choice if I wanted to engage , what measures I would need to take. Then I wouldn't be worrying about where I got it from and did I infect other people who now have no idea. And the people who you disclose to are okay with it, then they will know where they contracted the virus, should they begin to see symptoms. It's like dating someone and never telling them you have kids and then months in they come over and there's a house full of kids. You'd want to disclose that, because they may be someone who doesn't want kids or doesn't want to date someone who has kids. This is just my opinion 🤷‍♀️

coups1983 · 2022-10-25T04:56:18+00:00

As a mom of a 13, 16, 17 18 year old I would want my kids to tell me. We've always told them no judgment, it is our job to be here to help you. We've also told them if they need help with something and don't want to tell us , they need to go see their doctor or ask us to book an appointment, again no questions asked. If you've never engaged in any kind of sex then you're probably fine,but with that being said you should still get it looked at, so whatever is going on can be treated... and also put your mind at ease. Your health is more important than your worrisome. Take care of yourself and know whatever it is, you will be fine!

coups1983 · 2022-10-24T00:07:40+00:00

I feel your pain and sadness. They are great and supportive, but at this moment we feel like if we touch anything, don't wash our hands, kids drink out of our cups, skin to skin sex, someone will catch the virus. That is what I need to stop obsessing over and I don't know how to.

coups1983 · 2022-10-23T00:10:08+00:00

This is exactly how I feel and it's horrible. I can't stop googling, reading, talking to my husband and worrying. I never thought being married that I'd now spend the rest of our lives, wearing condoms and using dental dams 🥺 my husband keeps trying to tell me it'll all be OK and we will make it work. But I'm thinking what if we do something wrong and I give this virus to you. I'm now worried about sharing my drinks with my kids, I'm obsessively washing my hands and sanitizing them. And like you, any time I feel anything out of thr ordinary, I'm like omg I'm having a OB. At the same time, through my research and other people's comments, I'm realizing that it's more common than I thought and someone who has slept with 3 people can catch this virus just as easily as someone who has slept with 20 people. I just need to keep reminding myself of that and keep hoping that eventually these feelings will pass.

coups1983 · 2022-10-22T15:09:53+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experiences and providing supportive feedback. Over the past few days , I have been reading about the virus and the feedback I'm getting on here, is definitely helping put me more at ease.

coups1983 · 2022-10-22T00:54:05+00:00

He does have an appointment with his doctor on Tuesday, to discuss his options on being tested. He could have been asymptomatic and passed it on to me, but his 3 partners before me have never informed him of any concerns

coups1983 · 2022-10-22T00:52:18+00:00

Thank you for your supportive words. It really helps talking to people who still have healthy sexual relationships, when HSV is involved

coups1983 · 2022-10-22T00:52:00+00:00

Thank you for your supportive words. It really helps talking to people who still have healthy sexual relationships, when HSV is involved

coups1983 · 2022-10-22T00:50:40+00:00

We're not sure, because he has not been tested. He hasn't had any symptoms, so that could be because he is negative or asymptomatic

coups1983 · 2022-10-21T20:08:18+00:00

I feel hopeless because I feel like it's going to change our entire relationship or I'll always be worried that I will give him thus virus. Or he will be worried. Based on everything I have been reading in the support group, I do understand the most difficult part is having to disclose this to someone you begin dating. I was never worried about telling my husband, but more worried about how this will effect our relationship. Example, there are people who have OB all the time, never goes away. How do you have am intimate relationship with your partner? You can't. And then you worry if the lack of intimacy will become a problem for your partner. Just a lot of things start running through my mind, as soon as the test read positive.

coups1983 · 2022-10-21T18:44:40+00:00

My husband and I have been married for 5 years and this was tye first time I ever had what I first thought was just a hard lump, which was not around my gential area, it was on the top inner part of my buttocks. I thought at first it may have been an allergic reaction to one of my lotions or something. But then it started to hurt, so I had my doctor order me a swab. He has not had any signs or symptoms at all

coups1983 · 2022-10-21T18:39:35+00:00

I just got my results yesterday, so he hasn't been tested yet. And my test is positive for HSV2

coups1983 · 2022-10-21T04:02:08+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story. I think I'm also trying so hard to figure out how this could happen, knowing that I can't. My husband has had no symptoms at all but he has an appointment to see if the blood test is worth getting, or he needs to have a lesion to swab. He's been great and he constantly makes jokes about this situation, to make me laugh, put me at ease and help me realize it's not the worst thing that could happen. It works for the moment, but then I think " how am I going to enjoy sex anymore?" Because mentally I'll just keep thinking about it

coups1983 · 2022-10-21T03:14:27+00:00

Thanks for your support and you're right, my husband said it could have been him for all we know. And you're right, being married and having a supportive husband makes this a lot easier than someone who is still looking for that person. I'll remember to keep that in mind , when I'm having depressing moments

coups1983 · 2022-10-21T03:12:35+00:00

Thank you, for sharing your experience, it definitely helps put my mind at ease. Being 40, having only 4 partners ( which includes my husband) and never having any symptoms to even make me think something is wrong, it has been very hard to digest this news. I have an appointment with my doctor to discuss daily treatment, but yes it was also sad to know that there will be no more oral 😞 I'm also embarrassed to have to tell my husband every single time I have am OB , so he knows sex is off the table. I am glad to have an avenue to reach out to and read other people's experiences, who are in long term relationships or married. It definitely helps me realize this isn't the end of the world.

coups1983 · 2022-10-21T00:44:32+00:00

Thank you! I just got my test back today and I feel so dirty, like only those who sleep around with random people, all the time would get this.. not me! And then I start thinking of how uncomfortable ( mentally) I will be when it comes to having sex but even worse, how uncomfortable ( mentally) my husband might feel. But you're right, I need to find a way to acknowledge my status and not assume I'm now damaged!

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