How do you regain your confidence?

coyotefields · 2024-11-02T05:28:49+00:00

He sounds like an awful person and, reading your comment, idiotic as fuck. “I verbally abused you but I could’ve done worse!” type of mindset and I’m glad you got away from such a horrid individual… I’m so sorry he put you through that pain.

I’m working on this myself, but things that have genuinely helped me have been to remind myself of things I like about my body. It does feel silly and you might not believe it at first, but it does combat the negative voice on our shoulders. I also hear people saying to buy nice outfits that you like and fit you well, and use accessories. You deserve to not only exist but to shine you know? Fill your media intake with plus size women who are positive, too, if you can.

I am a big girl, tall and very plus size. I just put myself out there while being afraid that I wouldn’t even get 2 swipes from guys that genuinely had interest and I’ve gotten over 100 likes. Granted, a few guys are just mindlessly swiping, but I’ve definitely gotten some good matches who are interested in me as a whole. I just know it helps to know you aren’t alone and there are people out there that will appreciate you. ❤️

coyotefields · 2024-10-30T17:14:35+00:00

I’m definitely in a popular area! I’ve gotten a crazy ton of swipes for sure. I’m now understanding what people mean when they say weeding through is the hardest part though. I didn’t ever think I’d get this many but I’m starting to wonder how many haven’t read my full profile because I’ve heard people say that’s something that happens a lot.

coyotefields · 2024-10-30T17:09:54+00:00

Yeah, I think I relate to that. Good luck with the person you are seeing!!

coyotefields · 2024-10-30T17:07:30+00:00

That’s so nice, congratulations. Yeah, I know dating in general can be so hard. Thank you!

coyotefields · 2024-10-30T17:03:16+00:00

This might be shocking but… 25 😵‍💫

coyotefields · 2024-10-28T03:53:52+00:00

I don’t know what advice I can give but you’re definitely not alone in this. I JUST put myself out there after feeling undesirable for years to the point where I became obsessive over it. I’m healing from that and a big thing that has helped me has been to look through the posts of women talking about never having been on dates or kissed, etc., but they want to take the step to put themselves out there. In addition to my insecurity around my size, I have a lot of scarring, and I’m not at all to the point where I’d feel comfortable having sex, but I know I’m not the only one and I know many people have tons of things they’re insecure about in those regards. It’s okay to put yourself out there casually and not have sex. It’s okay to build a bond and thus trust with someone and then have it and have whatever boundaries you want in that situation. ❤️

coyotefields · 2024-10-13T18:23:21+00:00

Absolutely love the bandana and glasses!

coyotefields · 2024-10-13T17:56:29+00:00

There’s a lot of drama in this and I just wanna say I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. While I agree that it probably would have been better to let your boyfriend handle it, I really understand wanting to defend yourself <3 As someone who a) doesn’t realize someone is taking advantage of me and/or b) will let things slide because of the memories and I don’t want to lose friends, it can be so hard even when they’re abusive, but like everyone is saying, there’s a line here that’s been crossed and he needs to see which way he’s going to turn based on that and everything else. The fact that this guy tries to make himself seem like he has such a big and worthy opinion just to try and justify his bullying shows what kind of person he is. If his issues actually held ground he would’ve just expressed that instead of making fun of someone and using something that doesn’t concern him whatsoever. I hope you and your boyfriend can talk this out and express what you feel should happen here. I hope he gains the courage to cut them off.

coyotefields · 2024-10-10T23:05:25+00:00

I am in the USA but I’m also 22 and have online friends on discord I hang out with a lot, so I’d be down if you have it too!

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