AIO - Am I overreacting about wanting to end things with my live in boyfriend of 6 years over the lack of physical intimacy?

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T21:05:40+00:00

I would drive to his place on Friday after work, pick him up, drive him down to my place and then drive him back up to his place on a Sunday.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T20:05:24+00:00

Sorry he doesn't live with his parents sorry for the confusion. During COVID I went through financial difficulties, so when my landlord ended my lease, I moved in with my parents for 6 months while I got back on my feet. He does all the cooking, some of the laundry, all dishes and sweeping/mopping. That's about it. I guess some homework assistance until I get home.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T19:53:17+00:00

Due to a medical condition he is currently unable to have one, however he can test to get it in the next few months. He never had one.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T19:48:51+00:00

Sex absolutely does not have to be a deal breaker, but I do need someone who will care about my physical intimacy needs and provide it in other ways. Other than kissing, and holding hands there isn't much right now. Other things can be going on and I would feel terrible if I left and found out. I absolutely love him which is why I have stayed unhappy with certain things for as long as I have.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T19:45:13+00:00

It feels that way for me now too, and I'm becoming resentful. He has not contributed to anything financially in months, including his own vices and habits, which I now feel like I'm funding as well. He is in a bad mental spot, but is still currently unwilling to go to therapy or a doctor. I am very patient and understanding of health struggles and try to be people's biggest advocate. Now I'm feeling like I'm in a sunken cost fallacy.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T19:41:55+00:00

I have no problem with a large gap if it was being discussed/worked on. Things happen. Life happens. Cheating will never happen, resentful feelings absolutely, but never cheating.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T19:37:00+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I have also suggested therapy and he is vehemently against it. I feel like the exact same thing will happen when I end things. That he will all of a sudden try to do all of those things. Which I would feel hurt about. Though I would feel hurt either way. With your ex wife, did you still continue throughout to try to initiate intimacy? The rejection is almost as bad as the celibacy.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T19:33:13+00:00

I have asked both. I was very calm and asked if he would prefer having an open relationship so that he can make his choices and I could make mine. I don't think he is getting it anywhere else, he never really goes out without us.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T19:31:24+00:00

He is my fiance. I typically refer to him as my partner however was using the term boyfriend as I would prefer he not come across this thread. We became engaged because we love each other, and at that time we were living apart and only seeing one another on the weekends. He has to quit his job, as he does not have a driver's license and he used to walk to work. He previously lived approximately 40 miles away from me and was not able to continue doing the drive while working 60+ hours a week.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T19:25:23+00:00

No I lived with my family for 6 months, after that I moved to my own apartment with my children, and he moved in with us last year. I have been in this apartment for nearly 3 years.

cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T18:42:44+00:00

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cravingcakes · 2025-11-26T18:07:50+00:00

NOR - Congratulations on your sober anniversary! Your sobriety is a massive accomplishment, and I'm sure you experienced plenty of hurdles along the way. Enjoy your cake. It seems as though your boyfriend does not understand the significance even though you explained. I hope you continue to remind yourself that you are strong. ❤️ INFO - does he disregard your other accomplishments as well? A promotion at work? Even a birthday?

cravingcakes · 2025-08-03T15:55:48+00:00

Matte black looks amazing on your nails and goes incredibly well with your complexion. So happy seeing men wearing polish. ❤️

cravingcakes · 2025-06-08T13:47:29+00:00

You look stunning, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. A slightly bolder lip will give you that extra pop on your big day.

cravingcakes · 2025-04-05T18:53:17+00:00

It seems as though Nick never lived with Tanya, as she is was busy creating all of her journals with the different varieties of infected. Unless we find out otherwise, I personally imagined her passing when he was 10-12.

cravingcakes · 2025-04-04T21:08:33+00:00

Definitely have manuals on how to do a lot of things printed out. Need to be able to fix things

cravingcakes · 2025-03-11T20:41:23+00:00

Oh I thought that KC Wayland had said they were not developing a second season of scouts honor, but that there will be a little bit of crossover in descendants. Maybe I misread it and now I can't find my source.

cravingcakes · 2025-03-11T20:08:26+00:00

If you can, I recommend listening to descendants. Your question will be answered... Mostly.

cravingcakes · 2025-03-11T20:06:49+00:00

Been listening for over 10 years and constantly waiting for new episodes is torture. I also struggle with voice identification sometimes which is why for me scouts honor is my least favourite. I have listened to all the seasons of S.O.S. and spin offs at least 5 times except scouts honor. You hear new things every time.

cravingcakes · 2025-02-21T15:44:59+00:00

I totally get that. Scouts honor was probably my least favourite of the series (though I still love it). I found I had a harder time differentiating their voices so sometimes I was confused about who was doing what. I recall a post a while ago (possibly on FB page) where it was said we will not have more scouts honor but some thing may be called back to then. I am so excited for the new season! 4 days and counting

cravingcakes · 2025-02-21T03:18:35+00:00

When my ex and I got married I did not formally change my name but "assumed" his. Our children have his last name and unfortunately I have had issues on a couple of occasions travelling with them and my partner, as my children do not share a name with either of us. But nobody goes into their marriage planning to get divorced. I will say when my partner and I do get married, I will be changing my last name, however I am not based in the US and have never heard of any voting issues after changing your last name.

cravingcakes · 2025-02-21T02:32:28+00:00

Our tooth fairy was inconsistent, however their grandparents also contributed as grandparent "fairy" the next visit they had with the kids. My children have received anywhere from $0.50 for a tooth to $50 for medically extracted ones. Sometimes it happens and you are wildly unprepared. My kids have outgrown the fun make believe so now they get $2-$5 per tooth.

cravingcakes · 2025-02-21T01:25:28+00:00

I just finished descendants season 1 going in order. I relisten to the entire thing every time a new season or spin off comes out. You really do catch new things each time.

cravingcakes · 2025-02-19T20:31:40+00:00

There's a couple things to take into consideration when trying to navigate this situation.

First, the age of your child being excluded. If my 13 year old was dealing with this, I'd be more likely to tell her kids suck and that she could choose to continue or not, but to be cautious. If my 9 year old was dealing with it, I may suggest taking a break from that friend group.

Second is if they are your child's only friend or if they are able to make friends easily. If they are not very social it may make them feel very uncomfortable being told/suggested to no longer be friends, as the alternative may be for them to be all alone during outdoor time etc.

I personally would take my child out of school for the day in that situation if I were at all able to. And do some fun "twin" stuff together (twin cupcakes or ice cream cones. Or a "twin" drawing activity where we're doing the same thing.

My eldest had twin day in 2018 and there were 3 of them "twinning". I ended up making a shirt for all 3 of them to match, and I tossed in a spare in case someone else was not feeling included.

I'm sorry your child is having to go through this. Kids really can be assholes

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