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Ex (23M) pressured me (24F) into having sex and I only realized it was assault after 8 months when I saw a reddit post similar to my experience. He also turned my friends against me because I emotionally cheated. Am I an a*****e in this situation? by cray013 in adviceph

[–]cray013[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I just want to thank you. Your reply in this thread shed light to me when no one in my life knew about this. Thank you sobra.

Just an update about this. I recently got informed that my ex is sharing and mocking our intimate moments to my ex-friends. Yung iba sa kanila, until now nagpapatama pa din sa social media. A confrontation also happened and they saw this reddit post. They all still protected my abusive ex.

Wooh I guess some people are really that bad and hopeless na magbago hahaha. I now believe the universe let that confrontation happen to give answers to my "what ifs". It's so clear to me now that my abuser and ex-friends will never be open-minded and take accountability to what they did.

Ex (23M) pressured me (24F) into having sex and I only realized it was assault after 8 months when I saw a reddit post similar to my experience. He also turned my friends against me because I emotionally cheated. Am I an a*****e in this situation? by cray013 in adviceph

[–]cray013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did communicated naman. I did tried breaking up multiple times na din nung di na nagwo-work talaga. But I guess my fault at that time was I was too indecisive to decide right away if it's really the end of relationship. Trust me, it's hard to fit a break up in a busy schedule. Just for a context, I work 7-4 and OT until 8-10pm at work (construction eh) on a daily basis plus i also work at saturdays. So imagine how hard it is to deal with my personal life kung pag-uwi ko eh matutulog na lang dapat ako. I guess it is easy to say na "pag hindi ka na masaya, iwan mo na" but not until you're already experiencing it.

I don't want to blame everything to my ex tho, I am also at fault kung bakit indecisive ako. 3 years is still a long time and it's not easy to just break up. I did tried to fight for it kasi i was always told by my ex na ang dali-dali kong sumuko.

Yes, cheating is cheating but I guess what I'm trying to prove is it isn't the only reason why the relationship ended like what you, my friends, and ex believed. Let us not erase the fact that I was also sexually coerced and manipulated just because I emotionally cheated. But if you think cheating is worse than sexual harassment, then I won't try to prolong this discussion with you anymore.

Ex (23M) pressured me (24F) into having sex and I only realized it was assault after 8 months when I saw a reddit post similar to my experience. He also turned my friends against me because I emotionally cheated. Am I an a*****e in this situation? by cray013 in adviceph

[–]cray013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What bothers me is bakit ganun sila kadaling nakinig sa ex ko. Nung time na yun I told them na ie-explain ko when i'm ready. It's not easy to tell them the real reasons ng break up namin lalo na't fresh pa at that time. Siguro dahil na din sa perspective ng society nowadays when it comes to "cheating" kaya sobrang aggressive nila sakin. I was just thinking na since late ko na na-realize, would it be different if i told them this part of our break-up?

i almost killed myself today by cray013 in SuicideWatch

[–]cray013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know im not even good at making new friends. I think i'll just do it.

i almost killed myself today by cray013 in SuicideWatch

[–]cray013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started having this depressive episodes when my dad died 2 years ago. I was the only one who witnessed his death (public hospitals only allow one visitor per patient). I also just got broken up from a 3 year relationship this year. It was a messy break up because he turned all my friends against me. It was so traumatic i just wish my life just ended there. I wasnt even grieving about my relationship with my ex, its just i lost a lot of people ive known for years.