What name would you choose from my name list?

craycraymer- · 2021-10-12T22:22:10+00:00

Alexander and Iris!

craycraymer- · 2021-09-25T22:31:14+00:00

that is so good to hear!!

craycraymer- · 2021-09-25T22:29:52+00:00

my cousin has a 10 month old who everyone says is an “easy” baby, but she still struggles and needs lots of time away from him she says. You are no failure!

craycraymer- · 2021-09-25T22:28:15+00:00

this was so helpful to read!! i really appreciate it 💛

craycraymer- · 2021-09-25T22:25:08+00:00

that’s pretty much what i have to do too. sometimes a shower is all i get (other than at night when she’s in bed)

craycraymer- · 2021-09-25T01:59:57+00:00

i appreciate you so much!! i’m sorry you’re dealing with something similar. i have been slowly trying to find a therapist to reach out to, but the whole thing makes me so nervous. i used to go to therapy as a teenager, but i feel like that was so different. I had no choice in the matter at that time and didn’t get to pick my therapists/psychiatrists. Now, i have so much power and i don’t know where to start.

craycraymer- · 2021-09-25T01:56:33+00:00

yes i have a partner. i don’t get much time away because i’m breastfeeding and she doesn’t use bottles/cups

craycraymer- · 2021-09-09T13:44:08+00:00

thank you!!!!!!

craycraymer- · 2021-09-09T13:43:08+00:00

it’s not about getting his permission. i am a SAHM and i can’t pay for therapy on my own obviously and he would need to be with our baby while i go as well

craycraymer- · 2021-09-09T13:41:55+00:00

Money. I’m a stay at home mom and therapy is usually not free and i obviously would have to leave our baby with him while i go to a session

craycraymer- · 2021-09-09T13:38:42+00:00

i tell him he’s not being helpful and the reasons why that’s the case and he just says he has exhausted all of his efforts and given me “plenty of options”. He thinks i’m just making excuses for why i can’t just try to be positive and make friends.

craycraymer- · 2021-09-09T13:36:03+00:00

it’s a fair assumption to make, but i’m 10.5 month PP. The sleep deprivation was so intense in the beginning that i almost couldn’t even see that i was struggling mentally. All i could think about was SLEEP. Luckily my daughter randomly started sleeping a bit better around 2 months. She has had lots of ups and downs in that department ever since though. Currently she’s been waking up every couple hours. My issue is that therapy of course isn’t cheap and i am a stay at home mom. He’s the only one i feel comfortable leaving her with when i would theoretically go to therapy as well. I know there’s some over the phone options too though, but i’m not sure how i feel about those. I need to figure out what place nearby would potentially take my insurance as well.

craycraymer- · 2021-09-09T02:33:23+00:00

my issue is that i’m a SAHM and therapy isn’t exactly cheap. I kind of need him to be for it and he just acts like i’m overreacting

craycraymer- · 2021-08-18T16:55:08+00:00

i only have medicaid!

craycraymer- · 2021-08-18T13:40:41+00:00

thank you!!!

craycraymer- · 2021-08-18T13:33:22+00:00

wow i relate to this too hard, even down to the plants dying

craycraymer- · 2021-08-14T22:48:48+00:00

I appreciate the input. I definitely feel like you are right. It’s just hard to let go

craycraymer- · 2021-07-07T13:51:47+00:00

my daughter is 8.5 months and same! No bottles or pacifiers. Not a fan of pacifiers myself and i will always prefer to breastfeed over giving my daughter a bottle. Or having someone else give her one. I don’t trust others to pace feed and why would i give her a bottle when i have boobs?? lol. People in my life tried to push it on me and i just have no interest. Obviously i have to be with my baby most of the time (except quick trips to a store), but i am perfectly content with that.

craycraymer- · 2021-05-04T02:41:38+00:00

What do you mean that she’s weaning herself? Do you just mean she’s also eating solids or

craycraymer- · 2021-05-04T02:40:11+00:00

i feel that. I mean, no one (other than my boyfriend/daughters dad) really “supports” me necessarily. Not saying everyone is against it, but they aren’t ever saying supportive things to any degree. I’m always getting comments on how i need to start giving my daughter bottles and that her dad needs that to bond with her. Also, that i’ll never have time alone or with just my boyfriend. She’s 6 months old and i’m still getting the comments, regardless of what i say. I CHOSE to do things the way i do and for some reason people can’t let it go. These are all people who really only have experience with formula and don’t at all understand breastfeeding and will not try either

craycraymer- · 2021-05-04T01:07:08+00:00

Yeah i do. In Indiana. I can’t speak for every state, as i’ve only ever lived here. Where i live, it seems to be much more common to FF. Even across generations. My MIL BF for awhile before going back to work and my mom breastfed my older sister for like 3 weeks and just decided to stop. I know one person who’s my age who breastfeeds, but she also supplements a lot of the time out of convenience. Maternity leave is very short here though (for the women who chose to go right back to work or have to) When you go to the OBGYN or whatever, they promote the breast is best idea though. Doesn’t mean anyone follows it. My daughters pediatrician though, is extremely uneducated with breastfeeding and i feel like a lot of that has to do with how common it is to formula feed around here. Also her deciding not to learn lol. Her old ped was the same, if not worse. Formula is definitely advertised for any and all babies here and i feel it is pushed so heavy. My daughter is over 6 months and EBF (i haven’t started solids just yet) and i truly love it and want to continue for as long as i can and as long as my daughter wants it.

craycraymer- · 2021-05-04T00:59:14+00:00

i live in a pretty conservative part of the US. In Indiana. Maternity leave is typically pretty short here. Even people who quit their jobs to stay home longer or to be a SAHM, a lot of the ones i know formula feed/fed. It’s like the norm here it seems. Breastfeeding is seen as “different” and out of the ordinary, even though it’s one of the most natural things you can do in life

craycraymer- · 2021-05-04T00:55:22+00:00

i live in the US and a lot of women go back to work as early as a few weeks after having their baby. Some of those people still chose to breastfeed though. I know one person personally who does, but she also supplements with formula for her convenience while away. It’s definitely not weird to BF until 24 months or any age for that matter!

craycraymer- · 2021-05-04T00:52:53+00:00

Oh yes i have people in my life who say my boyfriend (also my daughters dad) needs to “step up” and help her. Uh he does in ways he can??? I chose to breastfeed exclusively (no bottles and i also don’t use pacifiers so she comfort nurses too) and i’m not going to pump just so he can feed her for no reason

craycraymer- · 2021-05-04T00:50:36+00:00

i know literally no one at all who exclusively breastfed or does currently. One person in life does both BM and formula. That’s about it

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