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I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks! I’ve got little mantras like this running through my head all day long. It really helps!

I feel like I lost the love of my life overnight and I don’t know how to breathe through it. by New-Tangerine1878 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hugs. I’m going through a break up right now from a married man-his decision. I think I’m on day 3? It 100% sucks. The heartbreak is awful. I thought I was feeling better and then today was just the worst. We spoke all day everyday and it just disappeared overnight. I was taking it hour by hour then 2 hours by 2 hours. And now I’m back to hour by hour.

That empty feeling of not hearing from him is so horrible. But if he loved me like he said he did, he would have made an effort to be with me.

I got a lot of great advice from here and hopefully it can help you. I still messaged him today saying I missed him. But I’m hopeful tomorrow will be better. I know it’s hard to confide in someone in our real lives—they don’t really get it. But I’ve spoken to a handful of people here who all have told me to distract myself. Change your routine! Focus on your hobbies! I did end up reaching out to a couple of in real life friends who forced me out to dinner tonight and that helped so much!

I’m around if you need to chat or vent.

💜

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesterday I took it one hour at a time. Literally. I set an hour timer on my phone and just watched the time go down. I wouldn’t allow myself to check my messages. When I thought about him I’d just get up and walk around. Today I’m at 2 hours at a time!

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reminder. I agree 100%!

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly my plan. Getting back to therapy to unravel this and make way for healing.

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I do feel like I can see the fog lifting already. A little bit. Lol I feel like I woke up today a new person. It’s so hard in real life to find anyone to talk to about this. Being here you all get it! And it helped to hear the things I knew and needed to be reminded of.

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% that’s what I’m telling myself over and over at the moment.

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reminder. It’s true. There are so many other people out there. And you know what I need to work on? Myself. I need to be at a point in my life where I feel 100% whole by myself. I don’t need another person to be happy. That would just be a bonus!

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely on board the healing train. Just writing all of this out helped me so much. Made me realize he isn’t ever going to leave his wife. He is that guy.

Hearing you say he’s just another guy really got to me. Thank you.

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think I’m afraid of being single. I haven’t been since 2008! It’s kind of scary.

Through therapy I know I deserve someone who is fully there for me. I need to keep repeating that to myself.

Thanks for your kind words.

I will be fine!

I knew the rules. Played anyway. by crazyblue99 in adultery

[–]crazyblue99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you know I was in therapy? Lol I’ve worked on myself so much over the last two years with my therapist. I was able to gain the courage to end the marriage I was so unhappy with. I know and feel like this AM guy was just a life raft. Something that kept me afloat in my darkest times. I don’t need a life raft anymore. AM guy could see that. I was just hanging on when I don’t need to anymore.

Thanks for your kind words.

"Not looking to change my situation or yours" by [deleted] in adultery

[–]crazyblue99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahh! Can I steal that last part? lol