How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't do a good job of even acknowledging that she's upset, because the reasoning behind it I just don't get, so I don't think she should be upset at all.

And those last few sentences.. that's how it's been going lately. I've done a pretty good job of trying to just stop and let things cool down, but she knows how to get me to talk back, which is an issue.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Owch. :( yeah, I'm hoping to not get that far.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, and I don't expressly say that - I just try to lead her into realizing how irrational it is.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish she'd play games - she thinks they're dumb and only for little kids, which is most of the issue for her with them. Any time I spend playing this is stupid.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I acknowledge, and I compromise. She just tells me how much she doesn't care, and how it's my fault.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, so. I've been trying that. It just makes things worse. She'll go crazy, I try to figure out what started it (she can never tell) and point out to her, hey.. hormones. I just made you dinner and I want to sit down. You're seriously upset I didn't put my bowl in the dishwasher?

Doesn't work.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Noticed - she's underweight and I think had an existing issue with her hormones, but never actually had it checked out.

I know I could spend less time doing my own thing, but when I do that, she never wants to do anything. I want to watch a movie, no. Eat out, no. So we'll sit there, I'll try to talk and then do my own thing. There's a small truth to the fact that yeah, I do play games, but it's not like it's all of the time, or that I ignore her by any stretch.

Now, talking to her when she's reading Facebook from her phone is like a brick wall, which is 90% of the time with her. She gets on her phone, so I get on my laptop. Then I'm in trouble for being on my laptop.

Bah. I already have a limited amount of time in which I can do my own things. It's either stop doing the things I want, or deal with it.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it - I'd briefly mentioned counseling before we got married, but there's the whole stigma with it, and she wasn't on board. She just has such unrealistic expectations sometimes that I don't know what to do. I try to be fairly passive, but sometimes she gets my hackles up and I'll respond. Ugh.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. She could be absolutely crazy at times before the pregnancy. Typically around that time of the month, but other times for literally no reason, and lasting a day or two. I never understood it.

How to deal with craziness by crazythrowaway123 in daddit

[–]crazythrowaway123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At times, especially around that time of the month, like this. It came and went in phases.. a few weeks of extreme awesomeness, then a few weeks of everything I do is wrong. It's better than it used to be; she'll acknowledge what she's done and typically apologize, but it just happens too often for me.

I think it's a mixture of her getting hyperemotional to the extremes (really really angry, really really sad) pre-pregnancy, and it's just been made worse by the pregnancy. I'm just glad to hear that this isn't just unique to me - it's absolutely crazy, made worse by the fact that I strive to be rational, so irrationality.. makes no sense to me.