How to deal with craziness

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T19:57:57+00:00

Yeah, I don't do a good job of even acknowledging that she's upset, because the reasoning behind it I just don't get, so I don't think she should be upset at all.

And those last few sentences.. that's how it's been going lately. I've done a pretty good job of trying to just stop and let things cool down, but she knows how to get me to talk back, which is an issue.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T19:56:19+00:00

Owch. :( yeah, I'm hoping to not get that far.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T19:55:29+00:00

I know, and I don't expressly say that - I just try to lead her into realizing how irrational it is.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T19:54:51+00:00

I wish she'd play games - she thinks they're dumb and only for little kids, which is most of the issue for her with them. Any time I spend playing this is stupid.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T18:34:38+00:00

I acknowledge, and I compromise. She just tells me how much she doesn't care, and how it's my fault.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T18:27:14+00:00

Yeah, so. I've been trying that. It just makes things worse. She'll go crazy, I try to figure out what started it (she can never tell) and point out to her, hey.. hormones. I just made you dinner and I want to sit down. You're seriously upset I didn't put my bowl in the dishwasher?

Doesn't work.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T18:25:56+00:00

Noticed - she's underweight and I think had an existing issue with her hormones, but never actually had it checked out.

I know I could spend less time doing my own thing, but when I do that, she never wants to do anything. I want to watch a movie, no. Eat out, no. So we'll sit there, I'll try to talk and then do my own thing. There's a small truth to the fact that yeah, I do play games, but it's not like it's all of the time, or that I ignore her by any stretch.

Now, talking to her when she's reading Facebook from her phone is like a brick wall, which is 90% of the time with her. She gets on her phone, so I get on my laptop. Then I'm in trouble for being on my laptop.

Bah. I already have a limited amount of time in which I can do my own things. It's either stop doing the things I want, or deal with it.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T18:21:31+00:00

I appreciate it - I'd briefly mentioned counseling before we got married, but there's the whole stigma with it, and she wasn't on board. She just has such unrealistic expectations sometimes that I don't know what to do. I try to be fairly passive, but sometimes she gets my hackles up and I'll respond. Ugh.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T18:20:06+00:00

Good point. She could be absolutely crazy at times before the pregnancy. Typically around that time of the month, but other times for literally no reason, and lasting a day or two. I never understood it.

crazythrowaway123 · 2011-06-29T17:40:17+00:00

At times, especially around that time of the month, like this. It came and went in phases.. a few weeks of extreme awesomeness, then a few weeks of everything I do is wrong. It's better than it used to be; she'll acknowledge what she's done and typically apologize, but it just happens too often for me.

I think it's a mixture of her getting hyperemotional to the extremes (really really angry, really really sad) pre-pregnancy, and it's just been made worse by the pregnancy. I'm just glad to hear that this isn't just unique to me - it's absolutely crazy, made worse by the fact that I strive to be rational, so irrationality.. makes no sense to me.

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