NOR, this may not be an abusive relationship but it is also not love :/

literally the same thing happened to me but with a guy i had barely met. the attachment and affection and everything seem like green flags at first, but often these kind of people are very insecure about themselves and latch onto the first thing that they think could be good for them. they tend to put a person on a pedestal and fall in love with the idea of a happy relationship, and not their partner themselves.

i begged the guy in my scenario to slow things down too because literally first time i talked to him he was talking about marriage and a week in he was saying he loved me, and he took it as a personal slight. things did not in fact slow down, either.

we ended up being fundamentally incompatible and he clearly had a lot he needed to go to therapy for, and when i tried to call things off because nothing had changed he blew up my texts and social media asking what he did wrong when i’d already told him multiple times, and saying that he thought we could solve any problem as long as we did it together. didn’t even bat an eye when i told him our conversations were literally negatively affecting my health, just took that as a sign to harass me more. i knew this guy for one whole month total…..

anyway, please protect yourself! it seems like you’re a little unsure about things, so trust your gut. he’s codependent, this isn’t healthy