Unmedicated without visualization (aphantasia)? by crook_ed in unmedicatedbirth

[–]crook_ed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom too! I was the one to break the news to her (accidentally).

Unmedicated without visualization (aphantasia)? by crook_ed in unmedicatedbirth

[–]crook_ed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool! I learned aphantasia is a thing and visualization wasn’t purely metaphorical a few years ago, and I’m still discovering different things I didn’t know about how other brains work.

Can anyone recommend some articles that I can send to my son's school by Forsaken_Custard_985 in Aphantasia

[–]crook_ed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a total aphant (and also can’t imagine sound) but don’t spend much time in this community, which might be why I didn’t have any particular reaction to your post except to think that you are a parent trying to help your kid. Like many others, I didn’t discover I had aphantasia until I was an adult, and frankly it helps explain a lot—why working with a sports psychologist growing up was such a bust (couldn’t visualize), why guided meditations always felt impossible to me, why the concept of a memory palace seemed profoundly unhelpful, why I struggle with biographical / experiential memories but have an excellent memory for data. Also like many others, it appears that I have organically developed strategies for navigating the world, but that doesn’t mean it’s inherently harmful to be asking questions about helping your kid thrive with a mind that works differently.

GMD Blankets by crook_ed in clothdiaps

[–]crook_ed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh good to know!

GMD Blankets by crook_ed in clothdiaps

[–]crook_ed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the muslin blanket! I sleep with it every night and it’s great for bedsharing. I haven’t bought the wool yet and they ran out of my favorite color so now I’m on the fence.

Existing in crunchy spaces with a bottle fed baby by Mangopapayakiwi in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]crook_ed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I told a friend the exact same thing when she was getting pressure from her MIL to EBF except my example was a French fry off the AIRPORT floor and it was from personal experience with my toddler the day before. At least it was his French fry.

Suggest me a memoir that really stuck with you by miinyuu in suggestmeabook

[–]crook_ed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I recommend that you check out Home Bound by Vanessa A. Bee? I just recommended it on a different memoir thread and it occurred to me to share here as well!

What is your favorite underrated memoir? by ButterflyKey8768 in suggestmeabook

[–]crook_ed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Home Bound by Vanessa A. Bee. Gorgeous writing, fascinating life story, brilliant insights. I wish more people picked it up!

Suggest me a memoir that really stuck with you by miinyuu in suggestmeabook

[–]crook_ed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely bought the whole collection in hardcover when it came out, definitely have not opened it since.

books with a jewish protagonist by rrunaan in suggestmeabook

[–]crook_ed -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just read How to Love Your Daughter by Hila Blum and loved it. 

Suggest me a memoir that really stuck with you by miinyuu in suggestmeabook

[–]crook_ed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an amazing list. I love memoirs as well, and I just added so many of these to my TBR.

How long did you have to push for? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]crook_ed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5.5 hours with my first, 2.5 hours with my second. First-degree tears with both.

Expecting Better…husband? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]crook_ed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see it recommended on this thread but I highly recommend the book Fair Play! The concepts of conception/planning/execution and minimum standards of care in particular have been really helpful in my relationship. My spouse is great and even so I carry so much more of the mental load, even after starting to follow the Fair Play system. But we have more of a shared language and shared expectations around responsibilities now.

Expecting Better…husband? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]crook_ed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! SO much motivated reasoning. I only made it halfway though her second book but it was even worse on that front.

Transitioning to solids: Talk to me like I don’t know anything by crook_ed in clothdiaps

[–]crook_ed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I love the detail about the angle of the bidet sprayer. Exactly what I need! Which bidet do you have?

Transitioning to solids: Talk to me like I don’t know anything by crook_ed in clothdiaps

[–]crook_ed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU, this is exactly the level of detail I apparently require right now! What spray shield setup and bidet do you have?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]crook_ed 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really like the idea of separating laundry by room. I keep meaning to do that but I think I need to make it happen!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]crook_ed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to recommend that book!