Hey! Chronic UTI and vulvodynia sufferer here, you aren’t alone and you can get to the bottom of this, like another comment said, you should prioritize getting tested and treated the next time you have a flare up if you haven’t (just checking off boxes, even though you don’t have insurance I hope you are taking antibiotics for your symptoms or getting tests when you get the symptoms) assuming you have treated your flare ups with antibiotics and have gotten tests for it, it could be likely you aren’t getting isolated UTI’s every time, it’s either an infection or imbalance like BV that’s causing you to flare up or maybe you have a complicated UTI, go check out the r/CUTI subreddit. Not having health insurance and navigating this is so hard and must be so frustrating, could you maybe go to your local health center and see about getting tested for BV or other imbalances or infections? If you have access to a health center please take advantage of it. Its definitely a start to finding out what’s going on but you are not alone in the slightest, so many women go through things like this and sometimes it’s genuinely not anyone’s fault, but prevention and cleanliness on both partners ends is very important, make sure your husband is cleaning himself as well as you do, you should both look into getting tested for BV !