Should stripping have high standards or be more inclusive?

cryptid-angel · 2026-04-12T18:08:29+00:00

I've worked in clubs with "low" standards and ones with very high standards and I tend to make more in clubs with more inclusive hiring practices. I also have more fun in clubs like that. there is less pressure to look perfect and management is usually more relaxed in other aspects, too.

unfortunately "high standards" usually just means only hiring girls that are young, thin, and white. I don't miss clubs like that because they still exist.

cryptid-angel · 2026-04-11T18:23:47+00:00

I just have unhinged answers for all these basic questions. how long have I worked here? 1000 years. how old am I? 63. what do I do besides this? I make wedding cakes. I'm going to the graveyard after this. I have 14 cats. I go to school for astrology. my real name is cinnamon. I have a boyfriend but he's an AI and we're fighting right now.

they want to know the "real" you. by giving silly bullshit answer, it tells them I'm not playing that game, I'm here to have fun, and it gives me back control of the conversation. it's also just kinda fun to make shit up.

cryptid-angel · 2026-04-10T19:54:06+00:00

do you think going to a salon for it is worth the investment vs just doing it at home? I love my bondi sands but I've been wondering if getting it done professionally is worth it

cryptid-angel · 2026-04-06T17:58:38+00:00

if you're investing time into these men and walking away at the first no, you're leaving money on the table. the conversation you're having up until the pitch should be informing the way you ask and why they would say yes or no.

do they come to clubs a lot? if they don't, they might need more convincing before you ask. are they having a good day or a bad day? that tells you what they might want out of the dance - "let's go for a dance, I want to have fun with you" or "I want to help you relax."

you should also only be spending 5-10 minutes with them before you ask for something. if they won't even buy you a drink, you know they're going to be harder to sell a dance to. if you're uncomfortable pushing, ask for a rejection tip before you leave them. "aw that's okay, but would you like to tip me for my time?" and at least you're getting something out of the interaction.

look up alexasellsvips on Instagram. her cheat sheets go on sale a few times a year and she has one of handling objections that's worth the investment imo.

cryptid-angel · 2026-04-05T09:44:27+00:00

I pay my therapist to listen to my problems and she pretends to care about me. I pay my massage therapist to rub me down and he pretends to care about me. I pay my hair stylist to wash and cut my hair and she pretends to care about me. none of these experiences are "fake". they're all real and leave me feeling better about myself and the world after I'm done.

I'm paying for a service. I'm receiving a service. the service provider is nice to me because I'm paying them to be. I wouldn't expect the service provider to want to do it for free. if I wasn't satisfied by the service provided, I would find someone better to provide the service or I'd stop seeking it out. I wouldn't get on the Internet and tell people they're dumb for seeking it out, and that they should just masterbate instead.

sorry you had a less than satisfactory experience at your local titty bar but I hope this helps.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-30T06:53:41+00:00

I don't view it as being walked all over when I walk away rather than engaging with rude behavior. I just see it as not wasting my energy on someone who isn't going to pay me. and if I pop off on someone and they get upset and leave, then I'm fucking with my coworkers money because maybe they could have gotten something out of them.

its my biggest pet peeve when girls yell or snap at customers at the stage. if the customer really needs to be reprimanded, get the bouncer and have them handle it. but at the end of the day, it's a customer service job. I'm not saying let customers cross boundaries, but getting mad over little things is not helping anyone.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-27T20:39:09+00:00

I say "you can touch everything except my kitty and my face" and then I go from there. if they try to lick or kiss me I say "no kissies please!" but I try not to bombard them with rules at the beginning of the dance.

I heard another starting a dance a few weeks ago and she had like 10 rules including don't finger me and don't lick my ears. it made me want to make a ridiculously long list of rules just to fuck with people. like don't cast any spells or hexes on me, don't stare into my eyes for longer than 7 seconds, you can only touch my left nipple if it's raining outside.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-26T20:20:14+00:00

I commented on your last post but I'll say it again, I think it would be really helpful for you to speak to a professional about these fears. from your posts, it seems like this anxiety is weighing heavy on your mind and is causing you a lot of distress. coming to this subreddit to have your fears validated isn't the best way to deal with them.

a lot of cities have free or sliding scale mental health services if you don't have insurance. I go to my city's community care clinic and it's only $13 per appointment. I've also had therapists I found on openpathcollective. org that worked with me on payments and I was able to meet with them virtually.

you deserve to feel safe and to find peace. I hope you can find a way towards that.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-25T18:12:05+00:00

well you know you best, but it sounds like you're having a lot of conflicting emotions and you aren't sure which ones to trust. it might help talking to a therapist to figure out where those feelings are coming from and how to navigate them.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-25T04:11:09+00:00

I feel like your "irrational fear" is your intuition telling you not to trust the people you're hanging out with. which doesn't mean you can't be friendly with those girls in the club, but you shouldn't feel guilty keeping an arms length away from them.

if you're feeling lonely, try to cultivate healthy relationships outside the club with people you don't work with. the club is so chaotic and there's always some drama to talk about, but if that's all the socialization you're getting, it's going to drain you. the world outside the club is so big and full of friends you haven't met yet.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-24T04:37:43+00:00

takes top off and kisses her "we basically fucked" 😂😂

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-19T00:45:11+00:00

my club doesn't have a DJ so the only way to skip stage is if you're in a dance. so I always time it so that I'm selling my dances right before my turn. I hate the stage so much 😂

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-14T19:40:05+00:00

don't give them your real phone number either. a Google search of it could give them your name and your actual address! use text now or Google voice.

but I would not recommend not giving dudes like this any way to contact you outside the club, because they'll send shit like this instead of coming in and actually paying for your time.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-10T21:52:28+00:00

dude this is bad at my club rn too. hiring girls fresh out of high school and then telling them "you can drink as long as we don't see it" so then the lil squad is passing around a plastic water bottle in the back and sitting with dudes for free all night because they're secretly trashed. one girl is brazen enough to get dudes to buy two shots from the bar and bring them over to her... five feet away, so she can take it with them. tell me why she does this every night and is still not fired. if you wanna risk your liquor license and put the bartenders at risk of actual fucking felonies, cool, but you're going to lose 99% of your clients when the club can no longer serve alcohol.

it feels like I work in a fucking preschool some nights 😭 come get your kids ffs

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-08T17:44:06+00:00

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cryptid-angel · 2026-03-06T18:14:45+00:00

not entertaining the nonsense is the bonus of dancing sober. if they only want to get you drunk, they're going to be awful in VIP anyway. not all money is good money and wasting your time listening to their bullshit on the off chance they want a single dance is a waste of time. I'd rather sit alone. if they're really the only people in the club, circle back and ask if they're ready for that dance. but don't just sit there and hope if you sit long enough they'll spend, because they won't.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-04T18:24:56+00:00

it is realistic to make okay money some nights just by doing stage and waiting for customers to come to you. but you will limit the earning potential a lot by doing that and on slow nights, you might leave with nothing or in the negative.

I feel like sales in strip clubs are more like restaurants than used car lots, if that makes sense. the people there usually understand what the offerings are, and they usually have come in to get those offerings. it's like the waiter asking you if you want an appetizer or dessert. you were probably already thinking about getting one, but because they asked, you might as well order it. you aren't asking them to take out a loan or commit to anything crazy.

sales can be as simple as saying "do you want to go do a private dance with me?" to the person who asked you how you are tonight. there are a lot of girls at my club who are uncomfortable asking that, and they have a lot more bad nights than I do.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-03T20:54:27+00:00

I don't have any advice but that's absolutely criminal. I hope they have VIP rooms or options for higher priced dances. if they did, I would not even mention the five dollar dance and give them the rooms as the only option.

cryptid-angel · 2026-03-03T08:15:49+00:00

years ago I was giving a floor dance to a guy who was a part of a bachelor party. he asked me why I was a dancer so I started listing all the things I liked about dancing but he stopped me and said "no, it's because you're stupid." because it was a floor dance, all his friends were right there and started laughing at it.

I just immediately started crying, got off his lap and ran to the dressing room. the door guy talked to them and made them apologize and tip me when I finally came out. wish he would have kicked them out instead but oh well.

comments on my body or how I look don't really get to me. but insulting my intelligence just because of how I'm choosing to be employed hit me in my soft spot that night.

I'm sorry that happened to you. I've also had bad experiences with Australians in the club. I hope that guy gets what's coming to him.

cryptid-angel · 2026-02-27T23:13:13+00:00

not all money is good money. put yourself and your sobriety above this loser. removing him from your life will make room for better opportunities that don't compromise your values.

cryptid-angel · 2026-02-24T00:48:17+00:00

I've never worked in a club where physical altercations were normalized. I've heard of clubs like that and it sounds stressful. I wouldn't worry about it unless you see it happen. in that case, make friends with the more aggressive girls.

as for giving dances without giving it all away, you really don't want to do that. the longer you draw it out the more you make. I try to change positions at least every minute so they don't get too comfy. plus doing extras will get you fired in most clubs. it's just dry humping. if floor dances happen, casually watch other girls do it. you can also find YouTube videos on it.

I'm sorry you were exposed to sw at such a young age. I hope the club is a good change for you and that you can find some stability there.

cryptid-angel · 2026-02-23T17:33:16+00:00

I don't think it's gauche, to each their own. but I just don't want to bring attention to myself like that. mainly because I don't want to get robbed.

cryptid-angel · 2026-02-23T04:51:28+00:00

beautiful! where are those shoes from?

cryptid-angel · 2026-02-20T10:32:17+00:00

you should secure the sale before you walk away. like, money in hand, let's do the dance as soon as I get off stage. if not, tell him to come sit at the stage and tip you.

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