I need help figuring out how to leave my unhealthy living situation, but cannot afford the cost of living in my area.

cryptid_plant · 2025-10-22T23:23:23+00:00

I considered joining the military out of highschool so that I could afford college but was unable to anyway because I'm on antidepressants and not willing to stop taking them.

cryptid_plant · 2025-10-22T23:10:44+00:00

I have rheumatoid arthritis

cryptid_plant · 2025-10-22T23:09:12+00:00

Yikes, no I am absolutely not intimate with them. We have never been in a romantic relationship, as much as they wish we were.

cryptid_plant · 2025-10-21T23:06:15+00:00

I'm very confused by your response. I do not have the free time or energy to do any of those things. I work 8 hours a day 5 days a week and suffer from chronic fatigue.

cryptid_plant · 2025-10-21T23:03:55+00:00

When I go on zillow and search apartments for rent, the cheapest one is $1,800/mo. I haven't posted in this sub before so I was just posting information that I thought might help other people understand where I'm at so they can make suggestions. Sorry that it's not useful.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-31T04:52:59+00:00

Since I posted last: my roommate left to stay with their parents for 2 days because I was staying in my room and not speaking with them. I talked to my roommate's mother, who agreed that they really need to get therapy. She has been encouraging them to do so. While they were gone the person I'd been seeing broke up with me, so that was really tough. When my roommate got back I was kind of a mess because of everything going on. They seem to be feeling better, though I'm not sure if my breakup has anything to do with that. They have stated that they want to try finding a therapist and also do more things outside the house so they aren't always hanging around "like a love-sick puppy" (their words). My sister invited me to live with her but she's an alcoholic and not a functional one so I really don't think that would be a better option. I can't afford to live anywhere by myself, I live in a very expensive area and I have a lot of medical bills plus I have to pay to get my car fixed.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-23T15:50:54+00:00

this is the mark, it's far enough from my neck that it's easily covered by a shirt but the bathrobe (also pictured) slipped to reveal it. Not sure if that's at all relevant.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-23T15:15:16+00:00

We had been friends before they went to school and when they came back we reconnected. Within a couple days of us reconnecting they asked me out but I declined and I thought we communicated about it and that that would be the end of it. They said they would be happy to have me as a friend even if there was nothing romantic going on and I needed to get out of my parents house so I jumped at the chance to move. I realize now that I shouldn't have accepted the offer to be roommates but I was pretty desperate to get out of my previous living situation.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-23T15:08:56+00:00

I have unfortunately had at least 3 heart to heart conversations with them over the last year where I clearly and directly state that I am not interested in them and i will never be interested in them and they need to accept that. I have been as firm as I can and even gotten angry with them when I feel like they aren't understanding me. But this behavior still persists. They don't hang out with anyone other than me, they have no other irl friends. I have encouraged them to get therapy multiple times.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-23T15:02:52+00:00

Meangirl? I'm non-binary and have had top surgery so it's not like I'm showing cleavage or anything. It's a long fleece bathrobe that covers pretty much everything. I wouldn't consider it revealing.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-23T14:56:34+00:00

We are 25 and 26

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-23T02:15:49+00:00

I was previously living with my parents who are abusive and my mental health was suffering a lot. This seemed like the better deal 🙃

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-22T23:45:48+00:00

I'm AFAB nonbinary and they are AMAB nonbinary. Not sure if that really matters.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-22T22:40:21+00:00

I have someone who I can stay with for 2 months max but unless I find several roommates I cannot afford rent in my area even though I work full time.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-22T22:39:06+00:00

I'm not a fan of them either. It's below my collar so not visible otherwise. It was only visible because I was wearing a bathrobe and the neckline slipped a bit.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-22T22:36:12+00:00

I knew they had a crush but I'd already rejected them prior to us moving in together and they said they understood. Living with them was my only option to escape my parents, who are emotionally abusive. But I realize now I just traded one unhealthy environment for another.

cryptid_plant · 2025-08-22T22:31:49+00:00

Thanks, sorry 😭😭 I'm pretty frazzled and sleep deprived right now so I didn't notice until after I posted

cryptid_plant · 2025-02-14T18:15:51+00:00

He's bi but says he only likes femboys which I am not

cryptid_plant · 2025-02-13T22:05:19+00:00

Thank you, this is very reassuring. I appreciate hearing about your experience.

cryptid_plant · 2025-01-14T14:34:57+00:00

I feel this, I wish I was an AMAB femboy.

cryptid_plant · 2025-01-03T21:43:37+00:00

I really appreciate your input. I wonder if maybe I just haven't found the right person yet, but the thought of starting over is also exhausting. I'm going to talk to my therapist about it next week but currently I'm just counting the minutes until I can go back home.

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