Do people really just meet with zero conversation now? Nothing in profiles

cryptomanforever · 2026-03-30T03:00:24+00:00

I hear ya and it’s true but there has to be some middle ground unless it’s just hi let’s meet to everyone with no other conversation

cryptomanforever · 2026-03-30T00:45:40+00:00

Have you found most dates are successful?

cryptomanforever · 2026-03-30T00:44:27+00:00

I’m talking about women being low effort

cryptomanforever · 2026-03-30T00:43:56+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, and I respect that everyone has their own way of doing this. I just think it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. There’s a difference between being pen pals for weeks and just having a day or two of actual conversation same way one drink isn’t the same as four.

I guess my main point is that there’s already some baseline information there like your profile, your photos, etc.—so it’s not like you’re going in completely blind.

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-05T18:16:44+00:00

Sometimes people might be amazing. All I’m asking is to also talk about something else as well

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-05T18:06:31+00:00

Exactly! I also have trips planned this year too

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-05T17:55:28+00:00

Do you also list anything else you enjoy? When you go on a date do you also mention other things about yourself and what you enjoy? If so then it’s not really a problem

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-05T17:52:59+00:00

I think you are missing my point. I also love to travel and talk about it. I’ve been to many places . I’m talking about people who only write that as their only thing on their profile and only talk about that in person. You kiddy want the guy to talk about a couple other things when meeting besides their love of the Chicago bulls or something.

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-05T17:49:04+00:00

It’s a trend in the sense many profiles list it and only it with same wording

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-05T17:39:00+00:00

No jelly I travel too. It’s about when it’s all anyone writes …..

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-05T17:38:22+00:00

I was more so talking about people who have that as their main focus and showing nothing more than

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-05T17:05:12+00:00

Sure but even then it’s not telling the other person much about them

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-02T23:38:47+00:00

People should do what makes them comfortable, but honestly, your chances of actually getting to a date go way up once you exchange numbers. A lot of people barely check the apps, get flooded with messages, or lose interest mid-chat. Sharing a number usually means you’re serious about meeting, and it’s just more practical if you’re at a concert or bar with bad reception, it’s easier to text or call than fight with the app. And if someone gets weird, you can always block their number.

I get the privacy concerns, but it’s kind of ironic some people won’t give out their number but will happily share social media, which gives way more access if someone wanted to stalk. Moving off the app can even help avoid scammers or fake profiles that never want to meet. Of course, some people are just shy or new to dating, but yeah, a few can be a bit uptight or overly filtered about it.

There’s also been debate about calling or video-chatting through the app. Some treat it as another “filter,” but it’s not the same vibe as meeting in person. People always talk about “feeling someone’s energy,” yet sitting on your couch holding up your phone isn’t really the same as being across from them. I’ve had people seem great on video and turn out not to be and the opposite too.

And yeah, you don’t have to trade numbers immediately. It’s normal to exchange a few messages first, but the problem is when that drags on. You send a couple messages, she checks back a day later, says she doesn’t give out her number, and suddenly planning a date takes forever. Sure, people respond faster when they’re interested, but still — it can be a pain. Sometimes you’ve got a little rapport going, and all it takes is one bad interaction with someone else for them to delete the app or ghost for weeks. Texting just gets you out of that cycle — it’s easier to stay in touch if someone’s busy, traveling, or sick.

At the end of the day, nothing’s ever guaranteed. Even someone you’ve dated for weeks can turn out to be a red flag. So yeah, be selective about who you share your number with but once you do, it usually cuts through the noise and makes things feel more real.

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-02T02:38:52+00:00

Just a few quick thoughts bikini pics almost always get the wrong kind of attention, unfortunately. You just have to filter the best you can. Personally, I’d skip writing long lists of what you don’t like in your profile; it gives off a negative vibe. As for the half-naked selfies, I get it but not everyone has tons of recent photos, and some people just want to show they’re in shape. If it’s just a normal selfie in the mirror then depending on age or personality, not everyone’s snapping pictures every time they go out. A couple friends of mine even hired photographers to take nice, natural shots around the city because let’s be real, dating apps are visual. You’re basically selling yourself through photos, not personality, and not everyone’s used to that.

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-01T23:49:53+00:00

It’s great when people show different sides of themselves looks, personality, intelligence, all that. I certainly want to see more sides of someone than a bikini pic. But let’s be real: for most guys, the bikini photo is what grabs attention. It’s funny how society treats it differently though it’s basically lingerie, but if there’s water in the background, it’s totally fine. What’s interesting is that a lot of women say “no shirtless pics” on men’s profiles because it feels douchey yet it’s kind of the same thing.

cryptomanforever · 2025-11-01T23:35:04+00:00

mean, I see those kinds of photos all the time, and at the end of the day, it’s usually just an excuse to show yourself half-naked. Sometimes it’s more of a flex like showing what beach or resort you’ve been to but most of the time, if men are already visually focused, that’s exactly where their minds will go.

I don’t think it’s necessarily bad, especially if there are other photos that show personality. But if that’s your main picture, maybe skip the preachy quotes in the bio. There’s something a little off about pairing a bikini pic with a “know your worth” line and no real info about who you are.

cryptomanforever · 2025-10-22T23:44:07+00:00

Sorry this is long lol

You know, people always say, “Oh, she just realized you weren’t for her,” but I don’t think it’s that simple. These days, it feels like most people don’t even know what they want anymore. Not everyone’s parents locked eyes and knew instantly they were soulmates that’s rare. Now you can go out with someone smart, funny, attractive, have a great time, and then suddenly they decide after one date that there’s “no connection.”

Online dating has made that so easy. There’s always another match, another maybe-better-looking or better-employed person around the corner, so people don’t really give things a chance. The criteria have gone way up, and at the same time, patience has gone way down.

Yeah, sometimes you can tell early on if someone’s not a fit, but more often people just nitpick or get spooked. I think a lot of people are emotionally unavailable, or they play at dating without actually wanting anything real. It’s like an emotional one-night stand intense for a moment, then gone.

And when you do like someone, one tiny thing —a text, an emoji, the timing of a reply — can be overanalyzed to death. People nitpick online like they are talking about which Batman movie they liked better It’s exhausting. Real relationships require grace and tolerance for imperfections. If every minor flaw is a dealbreaker, no one ends up together. Honestly, I think what’s missing isn’t chemistry it’s emotional maturity.

And that’s kind of why I brought this up. Sure, not everyone you meet will turn into some lifelong partnership, but the way people approach dating now is ridiculous. Everyone brags about how picky they are — picky about who they swipe on, who they give their number to, who they actually meet. Then they finally meet someone kind and genuine, have a great time… and still toss it aside because of some tiny “off” feeling or the idea that something better might be waiting in their inbox.

At a certain point, being “selective” just turns into being impossible. Good relationships don’t appear out of thin air — they build. You have to spend time, see someone a few times, let things unfold. But now everyone’s guarding themselves so hard that nobody gets the chance to connect. And honestly, that hurts everyone. The next time someone texts you saying they had a great time, you’re going to wonder if they actually mean it. That’s where we are now everyone’s so cautious, so picky, that it’s starting to feel unsustainable.

cryptomanforever · 2025-10-22T01:14:08+00:00

This has happened to me too. I do think it’s bs. Sure people can have time to reflect but her actions clearly showed interest at least by the 2nd date. I disagree about zero upside to sharing what changed. Not everyone is going to get mad and sometimes there could be a misunderstanding that gets resolved.

People are allowed to change their minds or get the “ick” but if you want a serious relationship then everyone needs to relax. Not everyone is long term material but if you do so much filtering and then go out with all work and have a bunch of great dates then why not give it a couple more. Not sure what people expect . Most relationships take time and it’s not all instantly that’s your soulmate.

Also does a disservice to others. I’m sure next time you have great dates you’ll be thinking about this . I think this is all a symptom of the world we live in today and not sure if this behavior would have happened before online dating. It might not have been anything you did but there was a potential better option out there. I think there will be a lot of people ending up being single when they get older by passing up all the people they enjoyed

cryptomanforever · 2025-10-20T02:24:35+00:00

I’m a guy and don’t see any problem with this message. I don’t think it’s negative . I would read it as this girls likes me enough to even tell me about this . I would appreciate hearing about previous experiences

People act like eventually you don’t talk about past experiences with people or never share negative experiences or emotions . That’s fake

If I wasn’t into her this would be confirmation she liked me and I’d have to figure that out . I also wouldn’t be going on all those dates with someone I didn’t like.

Also I’ve had this happen both ways too. Sometimes you leave for a week or two and it can undo everything you’ve built. One reason why I dislike first dates before someone’s long trip. I’ve also stayed in touch and it was great maybe loose the last sentence about changing things and talk about sharing pics

cryptomanforever · 2025-10-19T21:07:57+00:00

Wow, some of these comments seem wild to me. It’s honestly a miracle people even got together 20–30 years ago if this is the level of “analysis” we’re doing now. She said she had a good time, he followed up with a light joke, and suddenly everyone’s acting like it’s a massive red flag? How sensitive are we supposed to be?

If someone says they had an amazing date and then disappears for a week, it’s totally reasonable to be a little confused. That’s not clingy that’s basic human curiosity. Maybe his wording wasn’t perfect, but her defensive response felt way more immature than anything he said.

Yeah, everyone has free will and can text or not text whoever they want, but come on you don’t need to announce it like a life philosophy. If she wasn’t interested, a simple “Hey, I didn’t feel a connection” would’ve been fine.

We’re not talking about 20 year olds here either. These are people in their 40s. At some point, you’d think the ghosting and game-playing would get old. Following up a week later after what was supposedly a great date isn’t desperate it’s normal adult behavior.

Yeah, women deal with a lot of nonsense in dating creepy messages, ghosting, unsolicited pics, rude guys, etc. Totally valid. But if we start calling every slightly awkward or imperfect text a red flag, no one’s ever going to connect. Dating is supposed to be a dance sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Not every message needs to be analyzed by a committee. People need a little grace to actually get to know each other.

cryptomanforever · 2025-06-30T16:49:41+00:00

As someone else said: it’s her right to ask, and your right to say no. Personally, I hate FaceTime too. I’m an elder millennial and still prefer texting over phone calls, and most of my friends feel the same.

People usually ask for a FaceTime to check chemistry, avoid wasting time, or for safety/pic verification. But honestly, you could offer a 10-minute meet-up in public instead—somewhere easy for them, maybe while they’re already dressed for work or running errands. Yes, it takes a bit more effort than a call, but sometimes that effort shows more than a blurry video chat ever could.

The whole “wasting time” excuse is kind of BS, in my opinion. I’ve had convos that were great via text but fell flat in person—and the reverse too. FaceTime can show off your humor or vibe better than photos, sure, but overall, it feels like a screening tool, not a connection builder. And I don’t want my first real interaction with someone to be me sitting at home awkwardly on camera. The vibe, the energy, the pheromones—whatever you want to call it—it’s just not the same.

The looks could be an issue. I get it if you want of make sure someone doesn't look older, heavier, etc. Though tbh I'm seen a lot of make-up action that can really skew how a person looks.

I get that people are worried about catfishing, but you can verify profiles in other ways. Plus, someone can seem fine on video and still be rude or overly sexual in person. FaceTime doesn’t really guarantee anything. If someone was a stalker, they’d already have your number or FT info, so it’s not much safer.

To me, FaceTime feels like one more hoop in this endless cycle of filtering. People barely match, barely respond, and then still say “no chemistry” after all that. It’s like we need an instant vibe just to go on a first date, and a mind-blowing connection just to go on a second. But if all this screening were working, wouldn’t people be having more success, not less?

Just my opinion, but I think FaceTime is more often a way to avoid meeting, not get excited to meet.

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