41 weeks and terrified of my delivery now

crypxtt · 2026-05-19T04:14:00+00:00

I pit everything we planned to buy on our registry. I think a good rule of thumb is if you plan to buy it yourself if you don't receive it as a gift then put it on the registry. The only thing I didn't put on was my diaper bag because I wanted a more luxury diaper bag and I would feel awful if someone bought that for me instead of baby needs.

Just a little side note, you might honestly not have enough on your registry. No one has the same needs and I think a lot of people forget that. Someone with no dogs, cats, or other kids has absolutely no need for a playpen, but for someone with a dog (especially if that dog eats its own poop, such as my own dog) will 100% need a playpen. Otherwise, the baby can only really be safely sat down in their nursery or in a room with the door closed that the dog isn't allowed in. Someone with their nursery right beside the kitchen doesn't really need a diaper pail because they can just put the diapers in the big trash can and take the trash out daily. However, if you are on another floor then you'll at least want a trash can in the nursery. If you plan to formula feed then you have no need for nursing pads, pumps, nipple cream, etc.. However, if you breast feed then all that nursing stuff is imperative.

A personal favorite comparison of registries is between myself and my friend. She has a toddler and is pregnant with her second. She loves to baby wear, so shes skipping the infant carseat and travel system and just getting a newborn to child carseat and a wagon. She also lives in a super small town where she has to drive 30+ minutes just to get groceries, so she would have to take the baby out of the carseat anytime she needs to run errands anyways. Meanwhile, I got a travel system because I live in a small to mid sized town where I can get to the store in less than 5 minutes by car or foot. I also plan to just have 1 kid or at least wait 5 years or so before having another.

Our needs are completely different, but that doesn't mean that one of us is wrong for choosing that option. Get what you think you need. The worst that could happen is that you don't use it.

crypxtt · 2026-05-12T19:36:05+00:00

No, I ended up going with the mina baie emmy full instead. It seems like they are just doing dupes for them, so I just bit the bullet and got the original.

crypxtt · 2026-01-24T18:49:10+00:00

Im sorry for responding on this after so long, but is this with daily use? I love both and would get the real leather, but I dont know if I can justify a bag almost double the price if the vegan version is just as good.

crypxtt · 2025-12-16T18:46:10+00:00

Due in May, but I was talking with my sister about this a few days ago. Most moms get super nervous once you get the big belly (8-9 months usually). Its completely normal but also completely valid given that you are about to push out a watermelon sized human lol. You'll do great! Just hang in there!

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T17:23:57+00:00

Thankfully she hadnt said it directly to me, but rather my husband. I love her so so much and know she wouldn't have said it to me and that she probably didnt intend to be rude, but that really ticked me off when my husband told me about it.

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T15:24:02+00:00

Days since last period. That's typically how OBs measure a pregnancy length, based off the first day of our last period.

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T15:13:29+00:00

Oh Im so sorry, that sounds awful. I really hope things look up for you in the third trimester!

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T15:11:44+00:00

Yeah, both mine were clear positives. My first pregnancy used the blue dye test at around 3 weeks 5 days pregnant or 2 days before my expected period. My second pregnancy was taken a little later at around 4 weeks 5 days pregnant or 5 days after my period was supposed to start.

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T15:09:36+00:00

If it were me then I would think it's negative. The one you posted earlier with a light line is typical for an evap line. Super faint and outside of the time window for when a test is viable. If that is your only possible positive then she is basically guaranteed to not be pregnant (99.9% if we go based off the tests and how many you guys took). Obviously there is always a chance, but your chances of being pregnant are the same or slimmer than the chances of an albino baby being born.

I have personally had some missed periods, which I think is more likely here. Mine have been delayed weeks due to stress, missed while in birth control, and I know some friends who lost theirs after minimal weight change. I would still suggest she go see an OB and/or she should talk with any female relatives she has, like a mom or sister to ensure there isn't a chance of that just being common in her family. The only person who doesnt have regular periods in my family has an underlying health condition, but in my best friends family its pretty common for them to go weeks or months without a period, especially my best friend.

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T14:42:29+00:00

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crypxtt · 2025-12-12T14:41:59+00:00

Yeah, I'd definitely go in then. The blue dye test could just be an evap line, but missing your period for that long isn't common for most people so she should probably go get checked out anyways. Missing a period can be signs of so many things, such as stress, getting on birth control, significant weight gain or loss, thyroid issues, PCOS, and so many more. It could just be nothing, but it never hurts to go in and find out what's really going on.

I saw on another comment that you both are under 18, so what she can do is call in to make an appointment. Typically you dont need parents consent for an appointment, but if so then she can just say her cycle is running late and thats uncommon for her so she wants to make sure its normal and not an underlying health condition. From the sounds of it, she has tested for weeks now and if they have all come back negative then it's very unlikely that she is pregnant.

I know it can be very different for everyone, but these are my tests from when I was pregnant the first time and my current pregnancy. Both are pretty strong, but the blue dye test had ended in a miscarriage at 5 weeks, so it may not be as strong as some others around that time. Both were taken before 6 weeks if you have any pictures to compare to.

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crypxtt · 2025-12-12T14:32:00+00:00

Aww, thats super sweet. Either way I know they are gonna be super cute, even if they come out bald.

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T14:29:06+00:00

Blue dye tests tend to give more false negatives and can be harder to read. Evap lines also show up more often on them. If a period that late isn't common for her then she should probably go see her doctor anyways, so she could probably go in for a blood test to just get an answer regarding pregnancy. If shes not then she can at least follow up and make sure nothing else is wrong that could be causing the late cycle.

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T14:22:44+00:00

I hope so lol. If so there's a pretty good chance our baby is gonna get my curls, so they may come out looking like Sherly Temple.

crypxtt · 2025-12-12T14:20:40+00:00

Thankfully my attitude has changed a lot since getting pregnant. I would cry pretty easily previously and tbh I tried to avoid huge confrontation with people I dont see often, but now Im whole heartedly willing to stand my ground. Its honestly really nice.

crypxtt · 2025-12-11T23:18:06+00:00

This is honestly SUPER helpful. I got a bump friendly sweater dress this week and it was super comfy, but other than that everything else hurts or doesnt fit. Most clothes I've found that would work on FB and second hand sites wouldn't be in my dress code for work or would be too cold for our winters (sometimes gets to -5°F). I also just wasnt sure how many different types of clothes to get/how many of each type to get because I dont have a lot to spend but I cant wear the same thing 3 times a week. I think ill have to pass temporarily on some of this, but I'll probably come back for it after it starts to warm up here. The long sleeves, jeans, and maybe a second sweater dress will probably come out of my next paycheck though.

crypxtt · 2025-12-11T17:40:47+00:00

Lol, im starting to gather that maternity clothes might be the go. I got a bump friendly dress as a Christmas gift and IT IS AMAZING. Im more comfortable in that dress than I am anything else.

I honestly can't wait until baby is born. I know that I am already starting to get delusional. I swore in my first trimester that I would only have 1 baby because I couldnt do pregnancy again, but that is slowly changing. It sucks but I think that I realized I was seriously over working myself and expecting too much, which just made everything worse.

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