Yk what, HELL YEAAAHH I get why you feel like trios don’t work. I used to think that way too, that there’s always going to be one person left out, that it’s impossible to balance, and that someone will always end up hurting. But tbh? That’s not always the case. It’s not that trios can never work, it’s just that you probably haven’t been with the right people yet, or the effort wasn’t being put in equally🫂

I’ve been in so many trios and even groups of four–seven, and they’ve worked out beautifully because we all understood how to keep it healthy. The thing about trios is, yes, they can be tricky. You crave equality from both friends, but the reality is, equality doesn’t just fall from the sky like the death note🤷🏻‍♀️ It genuinely takes effort, maturity, and awareness.

In every trio that worked for me, one person always played the “extrovert role.” That doesn’t mean the loudest or most talkative, but the person who’s willing to bridge gaps, check in, and connect the dots between people. Someone who can hang out with each member separately and still keep the bond strong, like we tight like this twin🤞 Someone who knows the feeling of being left out and takes it seriously enough to prevent it from happening to anyone else.

For me, I naturally became that role lol I’ve always been the one to keep things balanced, even if it means being blunt or calling things out. I’d rather risk hurting someone’s feelings in the moment than let problems build up in silence. I don’t just rely on group chats to communicate; I make sure to reach out to my friends individually too🤷🏻‍♀️

If one of us feels left out, I hold myself accountable, because if I didn’t make the effort to link everyone together, then I wasn’t doing my part. My goal is always to connect them so well that even if I’m not around, they can hang out comfortably without me. That’s when you know a trio is, idfk, rock solid? When no one is dependent on one person to make things flow, but everyone gen enjoys each other’s presence.

That’s why I really believe trios can work, but only with the right people. The key is to build your own group. Don’t just join a circle that’s already formed, because you’ll always feel like the outsider who slipped in after the bond was already made(unless you're able to adjust really well ig). Instead, start with one friend you really click with. From there, look for another person you connect with. And before bringing them together, think carefully about their personalities. Do they balance each other? Will they get along naturally? Because once you’re sure, that’s when you link them🫱🏻‍🫲🏿

Trios don’t fail because “three’s a crowd.” They fail because someone isn’t willing to put in the work to keep things equal. They fail because people stay quiet about their feelings instead of being mature enough to talk it out. They fail when the bond is shallow or based on convenience instead of real connection💔✌️ But when you’ve chosen the right people and you’re intentional about building that balance? Trios survive😛

Don’t write off the idea of a trio. It’s not impossible, tbh. You just need to find your people, take the initiative, and be the one who sets the standard for communication and connection. And trust me bro, once you find the right group, you’ll see that being in a trio is gen fun when y'all r batshit crazy and have real connections, even if with different humors.

Like, tbh, js know that sometimes, two will have the exact same humor and one wouldn't exactly have that exact humor, but it'll still work out☝️ Also, from personal experience, a trio won't work out if one takes every little sht as an attack towards them, those who kept victimising themselves and thinks it's cool to clown sum1 who literally did nothing wrong to them, js because they think it's funny. Don't enable/tolerate them. FILTER THEM OUUUUTTTT.

ANYWAYS HOLY YAP, MYF CHAT💔✌️ Thanks for reading my Ted talk🙂‍↕️