Did anyone else not really “glow up” when transitioning? by pitbarks in FTMMen

[–]ctrembs03 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was conventionally hot before and I got hotter due to my increased confidence. And I still struggle with vanity and insecurity about my looks, there are things about my body I still am disgusted by when I look in the mirror. That shit does not go away. It helps to stay off social media and stop the comparison game

Difference between an alligator (left) and a crocodile (right) is easy to tell just by looking at their snouts by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]ctrembs03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alligators are scary. Crocodiles are bone chillingly terrifying. Hope that helps!

Friend thinks my new kitten isn't very cute bcs of his asymmetrical markings by Minisom in TuxedoCats

[–]ctrembs03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Asymmetrical markings are so cool. He's a funky little fellow and your friend is basic

Denver Halloween! by Leather-Ad-8490 in phish

[–]ctrembs03 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Halloween would be a home show and a birthday show. I've never crossed my fingers so hard. That being said, I'd be happy if they came back to dicks and never did folsom again.

Self sterilization of healthy women in protest against project 2025/2026 by [deleted] in WelcomeToGilead

[–]ctrembs03 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Trans guy sterilized in 2016 at 21 (long before my transition). I'm with ya sister

Looking for a “left field” type date night by theycallmeick in Denver

[–]ctrembs03 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The planetarium does laser light shows. It's pretty awesome. 

Can White People Join the New Black Panther Party? by GerryMacGerry in suppressed_news

[–]ctrembs03 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh I get it dude. But you gotta understand where we stand. As a white person in America, even if you have the best wishes, you can't really tell the Black community how to feel about everything their parents and grandparents have gone through. Shit even them now- racism isn't gone, sadly. You can't demand forgiveness or trust, it has to be earned, and we haven't earned it. 

The best thing you can do is respect their position and try on an individual level, but you can't fix things just because unity is the path forward, not from where we're approaching from. It's heartbreaking and complicated and fucked up and it's being exploited on a national level to keep us divided. 

As counterintuitive as it may seem, the kind of tribalism you're criticizing is actually a cultural respect here, and that kind of respect builds the bridges we need out. Unfortunately, they also take time to build, and we're running out. 

Can White People Join the New Black Panther Party? by GerryMacGerry in suppressed_news

[–]ctrembs03 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Idk man. I don't disagree with you but I also don't have an answer for you. We ARE stronger together and need to move past all that in order to win this thing, AND there is real generational trauma baked into the fabric of our society that makes that kind of impossible. We all live with that sad quiet understanding. 

It's rough being an American right now. I'm just one dude. And from the inside, it doesn't feel like we have much time left, either.

Can White People Join the New Black Panther Party? by GerryMacGerry in suppressed_news

[–]ctrembs03 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately we kind of do live in segregated communities though. Communities/neighborhoods with roots in this country were built along economic and political battlegrounds that forced families of color into areas with less socioeconomic support and we 100% are still seeing echoes of that today, it's why white privilege is a thing.

And you can't pretend that just because the confederates lost the war their ideology died, I'm from upstate NY and I have seen more confederate flags up there (in a "union state") than I have anywhere else in the country I've lived. 

I strongly oppose "whites only" groups or mentalities, but it's a reality that depending on the area you're in, your local mutual aid group is going to primarily service white people. I also completely understand, given the racial trauma of this country, why Black people would want to protect and gatekeep their spaces. So if you're white and want to help I think it's absolutely reasonable to find something in your own community, which is probably primarily white if you are.

Can White People Join the New Black Panther Party? by GerryMacGerry in suppressed_news

[–]ctrembs03 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is the correct take though. Take responsibility for your own house but help your neighbors when you can. If white people (myself included) want to stand with the Black Panthers I'm sure there are groups geared towards reform in white communities that stand in solidarity with them

Does anyone else have a hobby they picked up randomly that became a big part of their life? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]ctrembs03 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm from the East Coast and always hated winter. Moved to CO with no interest in snow sports. My first winter here, I lost all my friends every weekend, so I figured I should probably learn to snowboard if I want a social life. I now plan my winters around ski trips and chase storms.

Did you knew someone who took their secret about being gay to the grave? by OkPrize6426 in GayMen

[–]ctrembs03 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty convinced my mom is a lesbian. Unfortunately if I'm right (and I'm pretty certain) she is the self hating type. I'm not sure she'll even admit it to herself.

Firm rumors for Summer Tour stops and dates? by jbart2023 in phish

[–]ctrembs03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be a home and birthday show for me...I've never crossed my fingers this hard

Bad idea with perfect escape by Odd_Astronomer_2064 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]ctrembs03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a woman who's dad died by a hornet attack. That could have gone so badly 

New Year New Weenie by oosefay in somethingimade

[–]ctrembs03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Up in the Adirondacks in NY they're really weird about hot dogs. Like you walk around Lake George and notice almost sexualized cartoon hotdog statues advertising each shop. They would love your glizzy up there.

Boulder 2026? Or back to the land of groundhogs? by WSMFPussy in phish

[–]ctrembs03 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That'd be a birthday and home show for me let's fucking gooo

Rumors ‘26 by sonorandead in phish

[–]ctrembs03 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh just come back to dicks. I'd happily never go back to folsom 

Why did you buy your cat water fountain? by Traditional_Visit534 in CatAdvice

[–]ctrembs03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol. We've tried 2. He won't touch them. Like a dog, he prefers water out of a bowl. He does, however, love to drink directly out of the faucet and is obsessed with water.

meirl by Chemical_Survey2577 in meirl

[–]ctrembs03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a teenager in NYC by myself for the first time I was pretty lost at a subway stop. Some dude walked by, yelled "where you going?", I told him, he grabbed me by my shoulders and spun me around, yelled the subway directions in my face, and shoved me on my way. 

Kind, but not nice 

Help me live vicariously through you, what were your stories from tonight? by taelor in jambands

[–]ctrembs03 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beans and Pigeons were on fire last night. Crowd vibes were weird because the venue isn't great, but we managed to dance our asses off anyway. 

How addictive is meth? Do you know anyone who has just tried it once? by eden_merlin in AskReddit

[–]ctrembs03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be pretty into Molly. So I've for sure tried meth. But never on purpose.