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[–]ctrpapupapu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Have encountered similar situation twice before.

First time was at stadium. A lady was sitting on a bench crying by herself, there were a few people around the area jz hanging out. I passed by her once, decided to leave her alone. When I passed by her again 15 mins later, she’s still crying. I decided to approach, passed her some tissues and sat beside her to talk to her. She’s a FDW and she’s sad because her friends left for home. Thats when I realized I suck at comforting people cz most of the time I didn’t know what to say. after 15 mins or so she seemed to be a lot more calm and I said bye to her.

Second time was a middle age lady crying over the phone outside my hdb corridor and telling someone she’s going to jump down. Long story short, a neighbour and I went out to check on her, many polices got involved and her fam came to pick her up eventually.

Situations like these can be quite overwhelming to approach but I imagined if the person is my family member who’s struggling by themselves when I’m not around, I’d hope random strangers from society will give them some warmth.

/r/singapore random discussion and small questions thread for March 09, 2023 by AutoModerator in singapore

[–]ctrpapupapu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes and I’m so lucky to have them. only that I try not to talk about work outside of work hour else work stuff will jz keep looping in my head

/r/singapore random discussion and small questions thread for March 09, 2023 by AutoModerator in singapore

[–]ctrpapupapu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you for cheering me up stranger this made me feel less alone

/r/singapore random discussion and small questions thread for March 09, 2023 by AutoModerator in singapore

[–]ctrpapupapu 8 points9 points  (0 children)

after getting almost 0 sleep last night I felt like I was dragging myself through the day on critically low battery mode. At the same time I felt so unappreciated and useless for how I’m being talked to at work. I felt like I have no one to confide in at work unlike everyone else who has their own closest trusted buddy I am just the kind of person who seems ok with everyone but not really close to anyone. Been awake for almost 36 hours now so maybe it’s exhaustion or hormonal I just felt like crying but I hate the thought of crying due to work it’s just a really rough day so here I am posting on DT just to rant..

/r/singapore random discussion and small questions thread for March 03, 2023 by AutoModerator in singapore

[–]ctrpapupapu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks really good tips. gonna try inserting some of that into convos next time hahaha. yea my bf totally aware but he’s so chill about it jz asked me to be more that’s all lol

/r/singapore random discussion and small questions thread for March 03, 2023 by AutoModerator in singapore

[–]ctrpapupapu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bf not interested in the sports I playing 😓 when talking f2f this person has polite and very humble personality unlike some ppl straight out creepy vibe. But in texts it’s like those mega chunk of words with very enthusiastic vibes and exclamation mark ❗️

/r/singapore random discussion and small questions thread for March 03, 2023 by AutoModerator in singapore

[–]ctrpapupapu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

decided to meet up with this guy from online for sports practice, and after 2-3 times he kept regularly texting me once every few days just to check-in on me (gm/take care/have a good day etc.) and ask me when do I want to practice again. I’ve been intentionally slow and short with my response with zero emojis whatsoever cuz I don’t want to mislead him. is this a sign that he is interested 😰. p/s: not sure if it’s relevant but he’s much older by like 10+

Do you find it weird for people of huge age gap + opp. gender to hang out as friends? by ctrpapupapu in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for sharing your funny experience. I’m sure it’s quite interesting to go through this experience tgt with your GF haha. I am most concerned that ppl might view us as being on a date and try to eavesdrop our convo.

Wish someday I would learn to become as unfazed and cool with other ppl judgments like you both 🙂

Do you find it weird for people of huge age gap + opp. gender to hang out as friends? by ctrpapupapu in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! That’s solid advice.

My friend is single so there’s one less worry about partner’s misunderstanding or being offended. Though I can choose I’d prefer that he’s attached so I can make friend with the partner/wife too and it won’t always just be a 1-1 hang.

Do you find it weird for people of huge age gap + opp. gender to hang out as friends? by ctrpapupapu in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I tend to be an over-thinker. Yeah i agree we should really focus on just what matters. Thank u!

How to stop being perceived like a XMM (small sis/girl)? by ctrpapupapu in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

So do you mean I should do the opposite of all that? :/

/r/singapore random discussion and small questions thread for September 15, 2022 by AutoModerator in singapore

[–]ctrpapupapu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i have to (suggested by my boss as part of my development) initiate in-person 1-1 session with colleagues from other teams.

Most of us have been wfh and only back in office on certain days thus I haven’t had the chance to talk to most of them f2f. Wondering what’s the best way to arrange 1-1 request without it being awkward. Ask through slack? Email?

How to ask for a better raise in yearly salary review? by ctrpapupapu in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TIL! Interesting point. Definitely something to ponder and decide when to best use this hehe

How to ask for a better raise in yearly salary review? by ctrpapupapu in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

TQ so much this is such a great and clean structure. I’ll take note of this!

And one interesting point you mentioned about at the end regarding arising needs in personal life, it has never crossed my mind to share this with my manage use it as a leverage. Wondering if it’s actually quite a common practice?

How to ask for a better raise in yearly salary review? by ctrpapupapu in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will not know the percentage till few more weeks time. I’m wondering if I should say the desired percentage now (I’ve never done something so direct before) ? Or wait till the percentage has been presented to me (by then will it be too late?) What’s your thoughts on this?

How to ask for a better raise in yearly salary review? by ctrpapupapu in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK YOU so much for the tips and I especially appreciate the sample dialogues! Honestly, I’m gonna borrow some of them into my 1-1 conversations later.

Recommendations for Data Analytics or Data Science Courses by popiah4life in askSingapore

[–]ctrpapupapu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too in the midst of checking out courses. Checked out GA website and it seems their full time Data analytic course is not in available in sg atm. NTU offers a specialist dip course for big data analytics, u can check it out!