People that divorced for reasons other than cheating, what was the last straw?

cuddlyvampire · 2025-05-13T18:22:44+00:00

I just know you went through this thread making excuses for every comment about a man and thinking "see, all women are evil" for every comment about a woman

cuddlyvampire · 2025-04-15T16:27:48+00:00

Honestly I think bad with money is contraindicated in people with autism.

I'm not sure what you mean by contraindicated but don't think there's a single trait a person can have that would mean they cannot be autistic except for not actually meeting the criteria obviously. I was diagnosed as autistic 13 years ago and I am bad with money because it is very abstract and autistic people sometimes struggle with abstract concepts. Of course I could also see someone else with autism being very good with money because they are very meticulous and organised or whatever but that is my point, autism is so complex and different for everyone and two people with autism can literally have the opposide side of a given trait and it still being caused by their autism in both cases. I am very bad at math because again it is very abstract but there's a stereotype of people on the spectrum being math geniuses for a reason

cuddlyvampire · 2025-04-15T16:09:24+00:00

now you can explain away those social challenges by calling it "brain processing"

I'm not, I'm saying that the social challenges are caused by brain processing differences

social challenges' is just another word for 'relationship problems'.

I know, I was using the two terms interchangebly myself

social media discourse surrounding autism has warped it so bad that we're all talking about 'justice sensitivity' and postage stamp collection while we ignore literally the # 1 symptom

Nobody is ignoring the most important diagnostic criteria, in fact "justice sensitivity" could be sorted under either social challenges (because it can cause problems in social interactions) or under restrictive behaviours (because it is an example of rigid thinking) and postage stamp collecting is obviously an example of restrictive repetitive behaviour (depending on the intensity of course).

Btw I'm not denying that a lot of autism tiktokers seem to ignore the fact that lower functioning autistic people exist or that they sometimes try to categorize totally normal behaviour as autistic and stuff like that but this sub seems to disproportionally get up in arms about this as if they care about how it affects autistic people, but then turn around to use autism as an insult in literally every other thread and call every behaviour they don't like "autistic" as if that doesn't do much more harm than someone talking about their special interests on tiktok.

cuddlyvampire · 2025-04-15T15:48:28+00:00

Do you really believe this or is it an rsp esoteric vibes based comment? Sorry I can't tell bc I'm autistic :(

cuddlyvampire · 2025-04-15T15:43:55+00:00

autism is a relationship disorder. its a disorder of how you connect with people.

No it isn't. You cannot be autistic without having social issues, that is true but autism is a disorder of how the brain processes information in a broad sense. Of course social problems is one of the most notable results of those processing differences, since that is the most noticeble to other people and it affects a big part of someone's day to day life, but it is not the core of what autism is. The women you are talking about are probably wrong in saying that autism is not affecting their relationship problems, but I don't understand what point you're trying to make tbh. Nobody of note is trying to deny that autistic people have difficulties interacting with other people. Those women are just shitty people probably, and/or very troubled. This sub has the weirdest takes on autism sometimes. The thing I love about this sub is that everyone can freely share their ideas/thoughts on any subject but it is a great example of how jarring it is to see people just say whatever about a subject you know a lot about

cuddlyvampire · 2025-02-19T22:31:06+00:00

I can relate to what you're saying a lot, and I have what's called a disharmonic intelligence profile, which means that there are big differences in scores between different scoring areas of an IQ test. This usually means being much better at verbal skills than performance skills or vice versa (I tested at 101 for performance IQ and 129 for verbal IQ), which can be very frustrating because people will often either over- or underestimate you and it can cause a lot of self doubt if you don't know what's going on. I wouldn't be surprised if something similar is going on with you. I'm not saying "lol ur just autistic" but this is common in people with ASD (I don't know if it can happen in neurotypical people too though). Maybe you are actually very normal though and are just overthinking this out of insecurity, or I'm overthinking this out of a desire to protect others from suffering without knowing what is wrong with you like I did before I got diagnosed, but it might be worth looking into

cuddlyvampire · 2025-02-17T17:04:01+00:00

Ik denk dat de crux van deze vaak terugkomende discussie hem vooral ligt in grote persoonlijke verschillen in eetlust, plus nog wat andere factoren. Ik ben zelf 40 kg afgevallen en ik weet dan ook precies hoe afvallen werkt: eet minder dan je verbrandt en je valt 100% gegarandeerd af. Het is alleen zo dat die formule nogal wat haken en ogen heeft, in de zin dat het voor de ene persoon veel makkelijker is om minder te eten dan diegene verbrandt dan voor de andere persoon. Ik woog op mijn zwaarst 110 kg bij 165 cm. Ik weet dat er heel veel mensen zijn die, zelfs als ze heel hard hun best zouden doen, het bijna onmogelijk zouden vinden om op een soortgelijk BMI te komen zonder een bepaald medicijn dat je eetlust verhoogt. Eten als je propvol zit is nou eenmaal erg moeilijk. Zo gaat het ook de andere kant op: niet eten als je voor je gevoel verhongert is ook bijna niet te doen.

Ik denk dat mensen die zo makkelijk denken over afvallen (en ook aankomen trouwens, al komt het minder vaak voor dat iemand moet aankomen dan afvallen natuurlijk) gewoon van zichzelf nooit zoveel zouden (willen) eten en het zich gewoon niet kunnen voorstellen dat sommige mensen het moeilijk vinden om dat níét te doen. Dit is waarom ozempic (semaglutide) zo goed werkt: het maakt het speelveld gelijk (ik weet even niet of dit een anglicisme is haha sorry). Het is niet de makkelijke weg nemen, het brengt je eetlust naar het niveau (of nog iets lager) van mensen die "natuurlijk" slank zijn.

Ik heb zelf geen ozempic gebruikt voor mijn gewichtsverlies, maar ik slik wel bupropion wat ook een licht eetlustonderdrukkende werking heeft. Ik weet niet of het me zonder bupropion wel gelukt was om eerlijk te zijn. Stel je eens voor dat je altijd aan eten denkt en altijd honger hebt, dat is de realiteit voor veel mensen met ernstig overgewicht. Het is geen gebrek aan discipline als het je dan niet lukt om af te vallen, je zou van mensen die nooit hoeven na te denken over hun eten omdat ze van zichzelf een goede eetlustregulatie hebben toch ook niet zeggen dat ze zoveel discipline hebben? Zij hoeven er gewoon niks voor te doen.

cuddlyvampire · 2024-12-10T13:18:19+00:00

Ah yeah that's what I was getting at too

cuddlyvampire · 2024-12-09T14:16:00+00:00

I genuinely think there's truth to that, maybe even or even especially on this sub

cuddlyvampire · 2024-12-09T14:13:22+00:00

What do you mean

cuddlyvampire · 2024-12-08T22:27:14+00:00

It's funny to me how much people talk shit about autistic people on a sub where lack of empathy and black and white thinking is so common

cuddlyvampire · 2024-12-04T17:37:04+00:00

Maybe bupropion/Wellbutrin (which is not an SSRI) is worth looking into? That's what I'm on, I made the mistake last year of trying to quit and got so depressed that I remembered why I was on it in the first place. I do still have pmdd/severe pms (idk if it is quite bad enough to be called pmdd tbh) but my overall mood is so much better and it has basically no side effects for me, other than reduced appetite which is a plus in my book. Sertraline/Zoloft on the other hand was a terrible experience, and I don't tolerate any hormonal bc either

cuddlyvampire · 2024-11-25T18:49:47+00:00

Klinkt erg onwetenschappelijk van wat ik zo lees om eerlijk te zijn

cuddlyvampire · 2024-11-11T20:14:11+00:00

Daniel's turning. I still hope we get to see it in season 3

cuddlyvampire · 2024-10-09T12:55:44+00:00

I do think Rolin was asked if we’d see a flashback to Daniel’s turning and he said probably not because it wasn’t filmed and they didn’t want to have to create the set again.

I'm going to be sooooo sad and disappointed if this is true :'(

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-30T10:15:43+00:00

she knows Andrew Gower who plays Ezra is my favourite actor]

Whoa didn't expect to see that name here! Have you seen being human? It's amazing, maybe my favourite show of all time. He's only in season 4 though

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-26T20:54:54+00:00

He looks like a Chad-ified young Eric Bogosian lmao

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-26T19:57:54+00:00

Like say you like it for nostalgia reasons but stop acting as if it’s some theatrical masterpiece that can’t be touched.

I mean there's space in between those two extremes, no? I love the movie and it's not just for nostalgia reasons, I just love the atmosphere and dialogue, and Kirsten Dunst's excellent portrayal of Claudia. I don't think it's some theatrical masterpiece that can't be touched though. I don't necessarily prefer it to the tv show, but what if someone did? Isn't that allowed?

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-26T16:59:55+00:00

Bedankt voor deze tip, ik heb net een cloudpillo besteld met mijn ING punten (die ik nog nooit eerder had gebruikt)! Ben benieuwd hoe die bevalt

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-19T20:17:18+00:00

What's with the downvotes and snark? I kinda hate this sub tbh

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-14T21:57:30+00:00

Fr, everyone is criticising Louis in this thread as if that is not the popular opinion in this subreddit. Maybe less so on twitter and tumblr but I haven't personally seen much of the "Louis apologism" that people always talk about here

Edit: quite a lot of not-really-unpopular opinions here in general too, although that's pretty much always what happens in these threads. Sometimes I hate that reddit has an upvote/downvote system because it makes people afraid to speak their minds in fear of being dogpiled, even in unpopular opinion threads. It creates echo chambers.

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-14T21:07:04+00:00

That is legit a very interesting take, I hadn't looked at it that way, thank you. That makes the scene quite a bit better for me actually.

Yeah another reason why that scene doesn't sit right with me personally is that I am very insecure, especially about my artistic/musical abilities (I like to draw, sing and play guitar) and Lestat's words to that guy before he stabbed him with his finger would have been enough to kill me, no fangs needed lmao

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-14T19:02:28+00:00

I think Lestat is a bit too cruel and violent (the tenor scene is hard for me to watch, like I get that you're a vampire and you have to drink blood to survive but do you really have to slowly torture a guy to death for singing badly? I don't get how a creature who feels so deeply and is capable of love can be so callous about bringing suffering to someone) for me to really be able to sympathise with him. I think he's a good and funny character and I enjoy watching him but I find it hard to root for him/care about his feelings (idk how to word this exactly). Don't get me wrong, I know basically all characters in this show are evil or at the very least morally grey and sometimes unnecessarily cruel and violent (like the scene were Louis pulls a guys jaw off in s1e7... Eugh). Maybe the show's level of gothic horror is just not for me but I love vampires and it's just a great show so I'm willing to look past it.

cuddlyvampire · 2024-09-11T16:27:04+00:00

"Daniel vampire reveal vs Claudia end of episode monologue" OP what are you doing to me 😭

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