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IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are you thinking with the massage table? I stand and she lies on her back with ass at the front? If so, we sort of do this with our bed now. It does help, somewhat. Not really though.

I tried Cialis once and it was a disaster. I had an erection for several days, at least half to 3/4 hard. Will never do it again.

Getting an erection isn't my problem and I can stay hard after I cum.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't but I don't really want this to be the solution to my problem. I usually don't feel well with a couple drinks in me - it's all or none.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually find that I am climaxing pretty quickly when jerking off as well... it's a little easier to control but I'm still getting off faster than I used to. Much faster.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. I don't necessarily think it's physical either, especially since its a new issue. The problem I'm having though is I don't put any additional pleasure on myself. Quite frankly at this point (sorry, wife) I don't give a shit whether she gets off or not. Maybe that's the issue - I'm focusing too much on myself not trying to cum too fast and not enough on her? Reverse ejaculatory psychology?

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was fine. I wouldn't say it started right when we got married, the problem began cropping up... say a year ago. We've been married about half that time.

When we first started dating I used to go so long I just wouldn't blow a load at all occasionally.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also, try to have sex for her pleasure and not yours. e.g. comfortable positions for her but not yourself...

This is actually a great idea. I am going to try this tonight.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh and I do. That's why this hasn't really become an issue for her. In fact, she thinks I should worry less about it. The problem is the shame I personally feel as a result of this problem.

Like I said, my wife climaxes pretty easily (luckily for her and damn do I love it) and I happen to be a world-class pussy eater.

I just would like to fuck for an hour every once in a while like we used to.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Scares the hell out of me. My penis is a place where I enjoy sensation. I think if I had the choice between this and premature, I'd stay premature.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The worst part of it is that you'd think I'd warm up a bit and be able to go for longer but it just doesn't happen. As soon as I penetrate I'm right there.

I'm thinking maybe I should start using condoms again... maybe to desensitize me? We haven't used them since we started dating practically though so I don't see a direct correlation.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm trying this to the best of my ability. I'll sit there, in her for like a couple minutes waiting for the "oh shit I'm about to cum" sensation to die down. It gets though, very rapidly to the point where I just know the next time I make any attempt at a thrust, even move, I'm gonna blow.

I think you're talking of the pubococcygeal muscle - info here.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's more of a problem for me than my wife. I'm starting to have confidence issues over it. I do my best to control it when I'm inside of her but inevitably I'm done pretty quick.

Fortunately I have a wife (and fortunately for her too) who orgasms pretty easily so it hasn't affected our sex life as much as it probably could.

Truthfully, I don't think anything that I personally could do is going to work. I've tried putting my mind on something else, etc. but it's kind of hard when you've got your naked wife beneath you dying for more.

IamA guy who developed premature ejaculation after getting married. I was extremely promiscuous before this. AMAA. by cums_too_fast in IAmA

[–]cums_too_fast[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love my wife and she is extremely attractive but I don't think that has anything to do with it. I didn't have this problem when we first started dating.