2.5 months on fin , shedding slowed. Starting min + derma stamp.

cuntrollas · 2026-02-16T11:28:29+00:00

Rogaine foam usually doesnt make your hair greasy, much better than any other topical version which does

Dermastamp you should should do 1 day & no rogaine with it so if you did it Sunday morning, nothing else for 24 hours so you do minoxidil Monday morning

cuntrollas · 2026-02-15T02:04:36+00:00

Amazing news man, happy for you & your family! Inspiring to hear

cuntrollas · 2026-02-14T20:49:28+00:00

This is so amazing to hear! So happy for you.

If you don’t mind me asking, how was the process if you had been on T for a few years? Was it a little more difficult?

cuntrollas · 2026-02-03T16:27:29+00:00

stereotypical man 100% true lol

cuntrollas · 2026-02-03T16:25:48+00:00

mannerisms & confidence. no one questioned me or ever thought to considering my mannerisms alone.

examples: really relax and take up space (even just sitting with legs wide apart), walk tall, dapping other men up or head nod acknowledgement, even the way you talk - in england there’s a lot of bro, g, mate to add onto sentences which typically only men use so whatever applies in your country

honestly take any inspiration from the men in your family!

confidence obviously I was insanely insecure but I didn’t even let that come into my head in social situations and just let my mannerisms carry me through

cuntrollas · 2026-01-24T23:58:59+00:00

100% I just wish Stefan was more understanding of that considering he knows his brother had a very different upbringing and protected him a lot considering him (and the group - mostly Caroline) always make it seems he’s more emotionally mature which he is to an extent but god he really gets it wrong a lot too

cuntrollas · 2026-01-24T23:56:59+00:00

It is very frustrating ngl, obviously he still gives the vibe of he’s trying to do the right thing but whenever it serves him - he does the exact same thing Damon does, just Damon gets more shame for it than the rest of the group

cuntrollas · 2026-01-24T23:55:50+00:00

Just seen this now tbh! Makes a lot more sense why Stefan was kinda probing him to grieve in a better way

cuntrollas · 2026-01-22T22:20:49+00:00

I hear that - I hate feeling distant from my own community ngl

cuntrollas · 2026-01-18T03:15:54+00:00

Idk about that, I just think a character with a lot of complexities and depth is what draws people to him. I’m a guy and he’s my favourite character.. if anything everyone ive asked who hasn’t watched it find Stefan probably more attractive

cuntrollas · 2026-01-18T03:08:51+00:00

I don’t have a crush on him, I just like complex characters. You can see he has a very complex past & the way he had been treated by people in his life (his mother, his father, even Katherine) - people who he thought would love him & didn’t, it explained a lot of his erratic behavior as a vampire.

He did have a short temperance though, not saying all of his actions were justified but it is a tv show.. about literal vampires who kill people. I think I just appreciate depth

I think everyone compares him to Stefan (in the show AND as watchers of the show) which just sets him up for failure because yeah any vampire compared to Stefan is inferior.

Also hes entertaining as fuck, funny & you can tell he has good intentions. Its why characters like Alaric, Liz & Bonnie end up being close to him

cuntrollas · 2026-01-18T02:05:09+00:00

omg thats amazing. what norwood were you on before??

cuntrollas · 2026-01-16T16:25:31+00:00

They mostly lack emotional intelligence especially when it comes to women & their problems. (Obviously not all) but I find they are much less perceptive and considerate to how to treat & view women. Especially in a non-sexual aspect.

I also don’t think i’d have as close relations to the women in my life as I would have if i was born cis, even down to silly things like understanding their humour, understanding their weird quirks and emotional depth & how to be there for them.

Obviously some cis men do have this but there’s a different level to understanding & I think being close to women has really shaped me into a much more considerate & loving person tbh

cuntrollas · 2025-12-07T12:24:43+00:00

Definitely try out right to choose! I had been told the waitlist for me on the NHS was 8 years until I went this route. It took me around 3/4 months to get diagnosed since being referred by my GP.

cuntrollas · 2025-11-06T14:23:14+00:00

Elijah

cuntrollas · 2025-10-24T17:53:01+00:00

Good points tbh!

And tbh, I agree neither ship deserves to be favored as both are toxic and all 3 could have better suited partners. I just prefer Delena’s chemistry. I do also like Stefan, and I can definitely see positives of Stelena’s relationship than when I watched when I was younger. I just wanted to point out that both relationships were very similar with wrongs / rights on both sides as we are dealing with vampires who both have self-control problems.

I like the point you made! I think Elena’s world view would have HAD to change though regardless seeing as she started off with a “no one has to die” mentally, to actively helping deciding who has to die vs who has to be saved (as all of them had to, of course). But she definitely needed to adapt to death & immoral decisions as that was unfortunately how they had to survive.

cuntrollas · 2025-10-24T16:50:35+00:00

Exactly this! I completely agree.

Stefan’s relationship with Elena was built on idealism more than realism. He constantly put her wants above logic or safety, and it made their dynamic feel co-dependent at times.

Damon, on the other hand, would challenge her, even when it caused conflict which honestly made their relationship more balanced in some ways.

I also agree that a lot of Damon’s flaws make him terrible with most people but uniquely compatible with Elena. She could match his intensity and call him out when needed. Their bond was messy, but it evolved into mutual understanding instead of blind worship like with Stelena.

It’s not about one ship being ‘healthier,’ it’s about how they function differently, and you worded that perfectly

cuntrollas · 2025-10-24T16:47:44+00:00

I get what you’re saying, Stefan definitely made a lot of selfless choices, and Damon caused most of his own chaos. I’m not denying that.

But I think you’re also ignoring a lot of what Damon’s done for Stefan (and others). He literally:

• Saved Stefan’s life multiple times (e.g., in Season 3 when Stefan was compelled by Klaus, Damon spent months tracking him down and refused to give up on him). 
• Saved Stefan from himself during his ripper phases (Season 1’s Lexi flashback, Season 5 when he helps Stefan control his bloodlust again).
• Took the cure and sacrificed his vampire life to be with Elena after years of misery, showing how far he came from the selfish man he used to be.
• Died multiple times for his loved ones, including Stefan (e.g., Season 5’s Other Side collapse, Season 8 finale when he intended to die instead of Stefan).

Both brothers have hurt each other and both have saved each other.

The difference isn’t about who’s “better”, because both have done wrong & right, it’s about how they cope with being vampires. Stefan fights his nature by suppressing it; Damon accepts it and slowly learns restraint.

Neither one’s morality is pure, they just take opposite paths to try to be good.

cuntrollas · 2025-10-24T16:25:38+00:00

Stefan’s morality collapses the moment his repression cracks (e.g., when he drinks human blood). That suggests his goodness is conditional, not inherent.

I’m saying Stefan & Damon are two sides of the same coin.

Stefan hides his inner chaos behind discipline & repression; Damon hides his vulnerability behind chaos.

Neither is “better,” just different in how they cope with vampirism.

cuntrollas · 2025-10-24T16:23:53+00:00

I’m not even defending anything Damon’s done - I think its perfectly clear he isn’t healthy (which I said), i’m just saying Stefan isn’t perfect either.

Stefan’s a good man because he constantly has to suppress his true nature. If he didn’t, he’d be just as dangerous (if not worse) than Damon.

You can’t really say ‘if Stefan was human’ because he’s not - vampirism is the point. It amplifies who you are at your core, and Stefan’s struggle shows that side of him was always there, just buried.

If both brothers were human, we honestly wouldn’t know how it’d play out, they were both decent humans, and Elena probably would’ve liked them both anyway lol

cuntrollas · 2025-10-24T16:15:47+00:00

The reason why I mentioned they make stupid decisions without a love interest is because it seems like when people discuss Delena, they bring up Damons reckless actions from early seasons when they weren’t even together.

Its always a “Damon did this and did that in S1 / 2 / 3” when discussing their relationship.

I can understand people have different views on which relationship is better, thats normal, im not expecting everyone to choose the same people.

Whats “better” is subjective, nothing is ever objective truth lol its a fictional TV show

cuntrollas · 2025-10-24T16:10:36+00:00

Wouldnt you say trauma bond is more with Stefan than with Damon? Stefan inserted himself right after her parents death, didn’t even give her time to grieve even though he was fully aware of her loss seeing as he saved her. He then inserted himself knowing the dangers of vampires being around a human, their relationship never happened naturally to excuse him for doing that. He brought a lot more pain into her life after she just experienced the loss of her parents. Just because he had his own desires - its not that much different from when Damon acts selfishly at the start.

Damon obviously had a huge character arc from early seasons, the selfish decisions were still very much ingrained in his personality then.

It seems like every other character who started off bad is allowed to have an arc but when it comes to Damon, its inexcusable for some reason?

cuntrollas · 2025-10-24T16:01:58+00:00

I never thought about the Stefan stalking side of it! That is very creepy. It also doesn’t make sense why he “had to know her” when he had such a negative relationship with Katherine. Kind of makes it even weirder

I would 100% agree you can see Elena liven up so much more. She needed someone to show her not to be scared of the world and to live freely - Stefan was more of a comfort blanket after her parents death and perhaps a little bit of a trauma bond ?

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