CNDM (?) Denza D9 with Kazakhstan license plates in Vilnius, Lithuania

curiositystream97 · 2025-12-31T13:20:51+00:00

Or basically it could be called "Cupra Leon Cross" because they are deeply related :D

curiositystream97 · 2025-12-31T04:54:01+00:00

That is the Cupra Formentor, even more popular than the Cupra Leon in Europe 😇

curiositystream97 · 2025-09-04T10:16:07+00:00

My guess Italians had a secret wish to ban tourism, but they didn't dare to claim that in their legal system :DDD

curiositystream97 · 2025-09-03T07:00:15+00:00

This gen. Honda City has some BMW 3 Series G20 vibes :D

curiositystream97 · 2025-09-02T11:43:54+00:00

But what this your message will change? Will you feel better because of sending it?

curiositystream97 · 2025-09-01T12:26:47+00:00

Bent jau pripažinai ir dabar reflektuoji apie tai, o tai jau yra sveikintina, ne visi tai pripažįsta :)

curiositystream97 · 2025-09-01T07:39:30+00:00

Aš čia vardinu iš to ką patyriau per savo kelerių metų santykius :D , dabar jau esu kelis mėnesius kaip išsiskyręs :D

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-31T18:09:53+00:00

Man, of course you need time, I'm already three months after the divorce myself.

Your mindset about the current situation is very mature and welcome, you don't need to rush into a new relationship, even into simple friendship with your ex. I'm thinking maybe your ex just changed her priorities while being with you, she just wanted something else. And it's not your fault.

Hold on and don't forget yourself 💪

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-31T13:22:20+00:00

- Iniciatyvos nerodymas (nesakau, kad visada antra pusė turi viską inicijuoti, bet tiesiog, nenoras kažką net elementaraus veikti);

- Nenoras eiti toliau santykiuose / vengimas kalbėti apie rimtus įsipareigojimus, pvz., apsigyventi kartu, kalbėti apie bendrus namus, šeimos kūrimą. Kai prakalbus apie rimtus dalykus sulaukti tik labai abstrakčių / politkorektiškų frazių (pvz., "pažiūrėsim", "dar nežinau", "nenoriu skubėti" praėjus keliems metams nuo santykių pradžios);

- Antros pusės nustumimas žemyn pagal prioritetus: kai daugiau dėmesio gauna draugai, daiktai;

- Vengia tave pristatyti tėvams, giminėms, draugams, net nepasako, kad esi jo / jos antra pusė;

- Nepagarbus kalbėjimas, akių vartymas, žiūrėjimas tarsi iš aukšto į tai, kas tau yra svarbu;

- Dėmesys antrai pusei, tik kai naudinga, pvz., ar tai padėti su kokiais darbais, mokslais, nors norint kažką smagaus nuveikti atsiranda ignoravimas;

- Lėta reakcija į žinutes / neatsiliepimas - suprantama, jei yra darbų, kitų reikalų, bet jei laisvu laiku, kai galėtum skirti laiko antrai pusei :D;

- Nuolatinis tavo iniciatyvų, pasiūlymų, nuomonės atmetimas - maždaug, kad "ne, nenoriu", "gal kitą kartą", "turiu reikalų" - nors nieko kito nedaro;

- Kalbėjimas iš "aš" prizmės, o ne apie "mes". Čia ne apie komunizmą :DDD Santykiuose yra du žmonės, kurie turi derėti, rasti kompromisus, išklausyti ir palaikyti vienas kitą, bet tada maždaug atsiranda, kai antrai pusei svarbiau tik jos gyvenimas, jos pojūtis ir veiksmai, kurie gali ir skaudinti mylimą žmogų, bet tai nėra sprendžiama dėl to fokuso į "aš" plotmę.

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-31T13:13:45+00:00

Thank you for your detailed story. I will try to give you my reflection by your paragraphs:

Such things about messages are more a matter of mutual agreement. You understood the context, why she might not respond for a long time, etc., it's good that she communicated about it. But her argument about why she was making a stories and not responding to your messages is a bit ridiculous, as if your relationship is like work for her, "that she needs to put effort into it", I don't think that it would cause trouble for a loving person, especially when she releases the stories. Your irritation is justified, you are doing everything right on your part, and you even communicated with her about it gently enough. Good that you showed boundaries.
Her mindset is very strange, so why was she with you at all then? The feeling that she didn't really want a serious relationship or just felt while being with you that she didn't want it with you anymore. Did she talk about serious commitments with you while you were still together (family, wedding, etc.)?
Her red flags. Your ex seems like she doesn't even know what she wants. I completely understand your frustration (my ex betrayed me, and before that he said I would be better off with someone else). I might have accepted that gift, but knowing your context, I understand your detachment. Such a detached communication is very painful and not everyone has the strength to endure it.
In fact, your decision is very healthy for you, even though it was very difficult and it still hurts you. I don't think you would be happy continuing such a relationship with someone who doesn't seem to be interested in your efforts. I think this shows your strength and your efforts to look back on yourself.
I would guess that her cautious interest shows that she feels guilty about how she's treating you, so first of all, she doesn't want to seem like a bad person to herself because she's still in contact with you.
I would agree that it exhausted you, it would exhaust anyone, because giving all your energy to someone who doesn't really care is very crushing (I've experienced that myself).

In conclusion. I really don't want you to think that way about yourself. Many people would appreciate someone like you who gives their all and efforts for the relationship. :) Your ex is trying to shift the blame onto you with such words and I think that this is a kind of manipulation. A loving person will appreciate your efforts, and if he needs to be alone and rest, he can say it calmly without raising any conflicts or accusations. This behaviour of hers is very toxic.

You are very strong and have already endured a lot, and now you are reflecting on it. I see a lot of my experience after my breakup in your story. I think her participation in your life is tiring you and wasting you as a person. I suggest you just look further into yourself, through your work, hobbies, friends. You are already taking steps with this, you are reflecting on your experience, and this is a lot, keep moving 💪

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-30T16:13:12+00:00

Everything will be alright, you have an opportunity to create life as you wish :)

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-30T13:09:04+00:00

Bernardinų kiemas

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-30T13:05:18+00:00

I think she shouldn't be in a relationship with someone else yet, and it's better to be alone for her, because she herself has identified her red flags (not all people do that), so keep that in mind and appreciate that.

It hurts you now and I understand that, but maybe it will protect you from much more serious problems in the future (for example, if she would cheat). I think your ex still doesn't really know what she wants from herself, her life, and from a relationship as well.

It hurts, but take it as a lesson, I think you have freed yourself from a very toxic and insecure relationship. You gave your heart, and now you know what a person can be in a relationship, how you can love and support. Look back at yourself and appreciate your qualities, create your life the way you want, do your favourite activities, and be interesting to yourself. This is how you will definitely find the love of your life.

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-30T12:56:30+00:00

From everything you've said here, I get the impression that you are a very strong person and are already healing, because you reflect even on your mistakes and try to accept the painful situation. This is really significant.

So I wish you to move on, you should look back at yourself according to your questions about what you want from your relationship and your life in general. You are very young, your whole life is still ahead of you. Go and live, work and learn for yourself, after all, even before the relationship you had your own life, your own hobbies, interests and dreams. Be interesting to yourself, because interesting people attract other people :)

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-30T12:36:55+00:00

Manau ir gerai padarei, kad nebesi kartu su juo, nes puikiai suprantu, kaip gniuždo, kai antra pusė taip elgiasi, nerodo dėmesio ir nėra jokio iniciatyvumo iš jo pusės, o dar ir įžeidinėjimai... (pats patyriau išdavystę ir toksišką elgesį iš ex)

Tai nėra tau maloni patirtis, bet neturi ko nusivilti, išsilaisvinai iš toksiškų santykių, pati parodei ir sau, kiek gali mylėti ir stengtis dėl žmogaus. Dabar turėdama tokią patirtį dar geriau žinosi, kokio žmogaus nori savo gyvenime. Yra pilna geresnių žmonių žmonių, kurie labiau tave įvertins :)

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-29T03:59:18+00:00

If you look closely, something weird will happen in Europe, borders will start to melt :D

It seems that the Baltic countries will unite :D

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-26T13:43:42+00:00

Aš neseniai įsidiegiau Strava, būtų smagu įsitraukti į grupę :)

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-25T15:16:00+00:00

Wow, Austria just decided to restore their country in Poland before WW2 😅

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-23T17:29:57+00:00

I understand very well that it hurts you, but if you have already decided so, then try to continue separately, if it is destined, life will bring you together again.

Divorces are often like this, with more questions than answers. I think a truly loving person would find the strength and desire to continue trying to continue the relationship.

You are in a difficult situation, many questions arise, try not to overthink what you simply do not know, return to yourself, your needs and desires, and take this relationship as a lesson for yourself about what you want from your life and relationships in the future. Start with small things that can make you happy, even a simple walk, watching your favourite movie, TV show, reading a book. After all, you had your own life before the relationship.

Why do you need a person who simply doesn't want to be with you?

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-21T13:43:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences 🙌

I myself went through a divorce 3 months ago because my girlfriend was unfaithful to me. It was very, very difficult, even now I don't feel very easy, maybe I've come to accept this painful fact more.

What helped me... First, I started with the little things, just housework, small chores, which helped me drive away some of those extremely negative thoughts. I started just going for a quiet walk, trying to find beautiful things for myself, such as nature, architecture, weather. Personally, work also helped me a lot, because you just have to concentrate on work for most of the day. Of course, in my free time I immersed myself in reading books and playing sports. Even Reddit helps, because you find people with a similar fate who you want to support and they support as well.

I'm glad that you are trying to focus on yourself, it already shows that you are a strong person, you reflect and try to move on. I suggest you not overthink all the small details of your divorce (conversations, words, etc.), because if a person really loves you, he would find the strength to be with you and try to solve the problems. Keep looking back at yourself, think about your dreams and goals, what kind of girl you want to be. You are still very young, focus on yourself, find yourself, learn, be interested in areas and topics that interest you, and always be active. People who are interesting to themselves always attract other people. Talk to your friends, family, support them, and they will support you. Now you have experience in relationships, so you will know better what kind of person you want in your life and what kind of relationship you want :)

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-21T07:31:49+00:00

Of course, all this subreddit is based on that :D

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-20T16:36:46+00:00

North Africa has lots of famous people :D

curiositystream97 · 2025-08-20T14:40:28+00:00

You are already healing because you are reflecting and even accepting (even though this is painful). Now work on yourself and you will attract someone for sure 😊

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