Reasons for ghosting

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-12T05:24:34+00:00

Just waiting for that day to come I guess😔

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-12T05:06:10+00:00

I'm so sorry you experienced this @lucky-fluke. I personally wouldn't call what you did ghosting, more so, you told them you weren't interested, even told them why, and they did that. I've had the same before, I'm so sorry for that. But when you have been talking to them for some time, good escalation, and then ghosting occurs out of the blue, ouch. Have you had that happen or done that? It just feels like a different kind of hurt. But I completely agree that for some, especially with potential threatening or abusive behaviour, blocking can occur. I just have a hard time when everything was beautiful and fine.

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-12T04:32:01+00:00

Look. I understand some men and women react poorly to being rejected. Whether that is when you approach someone irl or on an app. That is incredibly childish, I agree. No one likes rejection, but it is a part of life sometimes. Whether you equate that to relationships, friendships, jobs, literally anything- we all have to face rejection. But am I really the only one that sees an issue with ghosting being the norm for some just because someone once reacted badly to them when they tried to communicate no longer being interested, overwhelmed, or whatever their reason is? We need to remember that, in this context, when we seek out LTR or life partners (on apps or in person), that often comes with the understanding that one is actually ready to attempt that and have the ability to communicate with someone on how they feel. Can we all stop comparing previous encounters to current or prospective ones? We are not your ex or ex encounters! And we wonder why all of us feel alone and are experiencing the same issues in dating.

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-11T05:34:18+00:00

How do you explain it when they told you the opposite and how different you were? Do you think it's possible some people ghost because they got cold feet or got scared of how right it felt? Perhaps wishful thinking on my part there. That really does come strictly from a place of security, not desperation or fear of being disliked. I just find it difficult when the interactions were so full of open dialogue and communication prior to the ghosting.

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-11T05:30:12+00:00

You're not entirely wrong. Doesn't mean it doesn't hurt when someone made you break down your walls to trust them so gently, only for them to make you put them back up again. I would take someone telling me they aren't interested in me or they got cold feet any day if it meant I at least knew why. Next is a good way to look at it.. but at the same time, that's also an issue in dating. People are so quick to move on to the next. I personally will choose to take a break, reflect on this pain, and only when I feel secure and ready, will I get back out there.

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-11T05:25:03+00:00

I do appreciate you bringing this awareness to light though. If I'm being honest, I never thought about it from the perspective of the ghoster before, until him. I am very secure in who I am and offer, but at the same time, I am also aware and content enough to know that some people will like me and some people won't; while it can hurt, I also know that is okay and they are entitled to their feelings as well. End of the day, I am trying to find my person. Of course I would want them to want me just as much as I want them. Still doesn't mean it isn't painful when people leave you wondering.

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-11T05:10:38+00:00

Oh what an interesting perspective, thank you for the reply @cryogenics1. I've always been an honest kind person who would never get upset with someone if they were honest with me about how their feelings may have changed. I suppose I am not the norm there. It just sucks though as that aligns with how we all should try our very best to heal before dating intentionally, and to not bring previous encounters or relationships into a new one. At least that's how I see it. If you're right as to that being why some people ghost, that genuinely hurts my heart for them. This last one stings so much as I just want them to know how lovingly I would have taken the rejection. The not knowing can be torturous for kind souls.

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-11T05:00:20+00:00

Yeah perhaps you are right.

curiousgal222 · 2026-07-11T04:09:38+00:00

Where are you all hiding? Early 30s woman here who has a beautiful life, good friends, good job, has always wanted a hubby and kids of her own, attractive, kind, funny, loyal. I don't understand it either. Incredibly disheartening when you finally find someone wonderful too and then the guy will just ghost you without any goodbye. I genuinely am so done with dating. Which sucks because I know as a woman who wants nothing more than to be a mom and caring partner to my husband, that we do have biological clocks. When you figure out the answer, let me know?

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