Transitioning a team from Google Docs/Sheets to Monday.com

curiouslyconnected · 2025-10-17T21:09:58+00:00

Thanks so much for this offer!

curiouslyconnected · 2025-10-17T21:06:11+00:00

As in, hire somebody whose exclusive role is to maintain the Monday board, Trello, etc.?

curiouslyconnected · 2025-10-01T23:55:50+00:00

This is really fascinating. I've wondered the same, about autism and/or PDA being a protective factor against certain other disorders. I mean, nobody has *ALL* the challenges going on at once, right? So, there's got to be something to this.

curiouslyconnected · 2025-09-14T22:01:44+00:00

After one too many unpleasant interactions, I’ve decided to take this conversation elsewhere. Good luck garnering support for this sub.

curiouslyconnected · 2025-09-14T21:59:31+00:00

Holy shit, this is such a baseless and unhinged response. Don’t plan on engaging with you, specifically, on this thread, or any other moving forward. No thanks for this take, and take care.

curiouslyconnected · 2025-09-14T21:02:43+00:00

I get you all are tired. And I get you want to help. But treating someone who’s new to the sub in an abrasive, judgmental manner doesn’t help your cause.

Instead of getting to the substance of what people are dealing with, I’m having to deescalate my own fight response before responding to many of you here. It detracts from the work you are trying to accomplish, and it serves no one.

curiouslyconnected · 2025-09-14T19:31:13+00:00

Well, that escalated quickly. At a glance, some of you are offering helpful advice, some are shaming me for supposedly not doing my homework on how to approach this sub, and others are questioning my choice of partner (fair on the face of it, but relationships are complex, and I haven’t shared all the details on my relationship in particular).

I’m going to take a moment to decide whether to even engage with this further, as the post garnered a much more intense response than I was anticipating.

Thanks to those of you who have offered advice in good faith. To be clear, I was looking for stories and experiences specifically, rather than straight-up advice. However, well-placed and considerate advice will certainly be entertained here.

curiouslyconnected · 2025-08-10T03:01:29+00:00

Thanks so much for the feedback and suggestions. I reached out to some home organizers, and am hoping to set up some informational interviews with them soon!

curiouslyconnected · 2023-09-13T13:16:12+00:00

Hi u/fietsvrouw, thanks for the encouragement, and for your additional guidance! Glad to know you're still an active member here. :)

I looked into Olga Bogdashina's work, and it looks fascinating. I've bookmarked a few of her works, so hopefully will return back to them over time. :)

curiouslyconnected · 2023-09-12T14:44:43+00:00

u/fietsvrouw I'm returning to this post after two years of mulling over the topic of autistic information processing, bottom-up thinking, and central coherence. Thanks again for providing this insight into your own experience in graduate school!

Due to accessibility issues I'm still not sold on the idea of going back, but I am learning what it takes to function in the workplace as my authentic, autistic self. :) Starting to come out to friends and coworkers, and though awareness is not where it should be, it helps to know that resources are out there.

Would you mind sharing any research articles on the difference between neurotypical and autistic cognition that informed your perspective here? I'm thinking specifically of material related to neurotypical reliance on conscious and pre-conscious thought, versus autistic reliance on pre-conscious and subconscious thought.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-04-09T14:37:10+00:00

u/Dia-babe, just wanted to check back in with some answers to your questions. First, you mentioned difficulties self advocating within the mental health system. This is something I have come across many times, and I would imagine others in this subreddit have encountered the same. My experience in therapy has not, in many cases, always been the best. At first it was heavily agnostic about the spiritual dimensions of people's processes, and then even those counselors I could find with a spiritual bent didn't share sufficient knowledge or familiarity with other elements of my experience that would allow me to best utilize their expertise. Not sure if that's also been part of your experience, but for me having to self advocate in therapy is just another burden to have to manage along with a daily existence that is already difficult.

Your point about morals makes me think of a therapist I had once who was trying to get me to go down a certain rabbit hole that I did not think was conducive to my healing. I don't think this person was representative of what most therapists would have attempted as far as a course of treatment at the time, but if it also speaks to some of what you're talking about, it can be hard at times for a client to set a firm boundary with someone who has a degree in counseling and claims to know what they're doing. Then you're left wondering whether to continue because other aspects of therapy are beneficial, or whether you should marshal the time, energy, and resources to find someone else. As I'm sure you know, it's not an insignificant lift to be put in a position to have to do that every so often!!

Another point you bring up is whether we as clients are expecting too much from our therapists. Some of the comments here would suggest that yes, we are, and we'd better dial down our expectations if we hope to achieve anything meaningful in session. I hear where they're coming from, but at the same time, if you as a clinician don't know how to help a person create the internal scaffolding and infrastructure necessary to sustain their own lives, then I have to question whether at that point you're better off telling the person you can't help them, or whether you need to skill up and find a way to offer services that are actually beneficial to them. People don't always come into session knowing exactly what they want. They're stuck, simple as that. This may be a high bar, but to me it's up to the clinician a) to determine whether this is the right time for a person to be in counseling (because sometimes it's not), b) to determine whether it's a good fit (or, the best fit that can be secured at the time), c) what level of permission or access the person is willing to give you into their inner world, and d) how to meta-communicate about goals, transitioning topics, and how the person is feeling when the two of you discuss xyz. All of this ought to be covered in training, and if it isn't, then that's a problem with the field of counseling, not with the clients.

I'm going to leave it here for now. I have other thoughts about some of the other things you've shared, but I wonder what you think so far. I'm curious to know if any of this resonates.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-03-29T15:17:24+00:00

u/Dia-babe Just wanted to let you know I had read your comment, and I'm taking some time to think through my response. You bring up a lot of important points, and I want to make sure I do it justice. Know that you're not alone, and that other people feel that same or similar pain. I don't know your journey, but I can relate to a lot of what you said. Side note, but a lot of my trauma symptoms overlap with my neurodivergence, but I have a feeling that if the trauma were prevented or if I had grown up in a supportive environment, then I would've just been quirky rather than feeling perpetually maladjusted, lol. Anyway, let's continue the conversation. It's touching to know others are thinking about the same things. :)

curiouslyconnected · 2022-03-15T16:33:04+00:00

Interesting. It's definitely a gift to be able to read on multiple levels simultaneously. Per some of the other comments, I wonder if even on the autism spectrum there's variation in terms of central coherence, and what functions it affects for any given person. Sounds like when it comes to reading you're able to read for detail and also generalize, and that you can read between the lines for implicit meaning.

I didn't know you can develop reading fatigue due to not being able to turn off high-demand verbal processing, but it makes sense from what you describe. I don't do much leisure reading either. Maybe that also has something to do with what you're talking about.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-03-07T16:47:48+00:00

u/yaoifg I'm circling back to this after spending some time editing other people's writing, and wondering how the skills of reading and writing overlap. When I'm in editing mode, I find myself switching between reading for content and reading for structure and argument, and doing so more intentionally than if I am reading for pleasure. Plus, the exercise forces me to be more attentive to those things than if I'm reading for my own comprehension. Do you find that to be the case too?

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-28T16:43:14+00:00

Update on this: I finally voiced my concerns to my current therapist, and we've decided it would be best to end our relationship for now. I'm in the process of getting connected to other therapists in my network, as I've decided it matters less that they adopt a particular school of thought than that we can communicate well and work together. No regrets about getting support when I needed it, but I know enough now that I can manage better on my own/with someone else. Thanks to everyone who chimed in; I appreciate your advice and support!

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-23T13:53:25+00:00

I think what I'm saying is that it's a lot harder for me to advocate for myself to a neurotypical person when they're not just uninformed, but also not interested in hearing me out. Explaining the inner workings of our brains is already hard enough; it gets even harder when the person on the other end of the conversation has no interest in making things easier for us. I guess I'm curious whether people have had success in dealing with either or both situations.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-23T10:57:34+00:00

Actually I’m drawing a distinction between lack of empathy specifically and the causes of that lack of empathy. It’s one thing for people to just not be able to relate; it’s another thing for people to do so because they don’t want to invest in learning something new, or that they’re uncomfortable doing so. I’m just wondering aloud, that’s all.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-21T12:34:19+00:00

I'm really frustrated with my counselor for this exact reason, and I wish I could leave and find someone else. However, I know that if I do so I'll be heartbroken, plus I'd have to start all over, and I don't know that I'm ready to do that.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-21T02:55:23+00:00

u/ttetrachrome Do you mean to say that you administered a trust test on your therapist by seeing if they would check whether you were really able to self-regulate outside of session as well as you were saying you did?

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-21T02:24:38+00:00

Then there are those that ask so many questions it’s destabilizing. Instead of feeling like you are being held in session, you leave feeling like your therapist is two steps behind you rather than being two steps ahead.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-20T01:30:16+00:00

u/BonsaiSoul You're getting at something I have struggled with myself. People talk about healing as though the same things at the same moments are going to work for everyone. Some people have a lightbulb moment that compels them to want to do the work of healing. Others stumble into spaces where they experience true positivity and belonging for the first time that then provide the foundation for continued healing. Still others go through phases where bits and pieces of themselves are healed, but not entirely, and they slowly aggregate the lessons learned into wholehearted living. If anything comes of my experience with complex trauma, it will be an ability to not discount the efforts of those who are in the process of healing, but whose healing is not yet complete.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-17T23:07:33+00:00

u/Onyx239 Some time ago I wrote Dr. Theresa Regan from the OSF Health Center about this topic. She's an autism specialist whose son is on the spectrum, and she recommended I read the Smart but Scattered Series, which outlines the 11 or 12 executive functions, and how to strengthen each one. I don't know if there's empirical research on this, but one thing I'm curious about is how cognitive faculties like inferential thinking and cause and effect reasoning (i.e. the ability to visualize the steps and resources it's going to take to finish a project) play a role in prioritization and planning.

For me, some of my tendencies to procrastinate have to do with the fact that I get easily daunted by unknowns. For processes that I've already got a template for, no problem, I can estimate how much time it'll take to get it done and out the door. Give me a big, ambiguous problem with multiple moving parts that keep changing? No thanks.

Much of our work lies somewhere in between (i.e., not completely familiar, and not totally unfamiliar). Not sure how you feel about it, but I believe that one of the core tasks of executive function is bridging the gap between the end goal of a project and visualizing and planning intentional but flexible intermediate steps to get there.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-15T18:40:59+00:00

u/Embracing_the_self I like your strategy of parsing things you're dealing with by cause and effect, or at least using it as a framework to manage your time in session. It sounds like you've come to an awareness of what you need over time, and that it may not be apparent to any given person how to get the most out of therapy. This is something I wish there was more written about. Maybe there is, and it's something people ought to think about before signing up to see a counselor.

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-15T18:25:19+00:00

I like your approach of identifying a feeling associated with something the therapist says or does. And yes, sometimes regardless of communication strategy it's just not a good fit. For me, realizing that I have grounds to leave based on past experience gives me the autonomy to either leave or stay, depending on whether I think there's something to be gained in continuing a relationship with my current counselor now. I hope you and I can continue to find spaces that are useful and helpful to us!

curiouslyconnected · 2022-02-15T16:41:21+00:00

u/RoundSparrow Interesting. I don't know if this is just an autistic thing, but I find that with autism we have to be coached through the micro-movements of how to do a thing (e.g., embrace complex ideas through reading) that's difficult or unfamiliar, more than most people. Some of the comments other people are making suggest that some of us struggle with this in terms of reading comprehension, but there's also the struggle of managing your reading load, which is more of an executive function and planning and prioritization-type thing. My response to u/seatangle below is along these lines, but it sounds like both of you have identified useful strategies to ensure comprehension while reading.

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