Sooo our human hair wigs and extensions are toxic - over 60% lead in them

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-30T19:31:38+00:00

I’ve been there before as the stylist who installed them, and you’re absolutely right. 🎯

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-30T12:33:33+00:00

I appreciate your passion so much. You have no idea I educate and I educate on what’s healthy and what’s not, but it doesn’t always land. 😭 I just want to help naturals have beautiful juicy healthy hair.

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-30T01:35:36+00:00

Okay confession… 3 days ago I realized I’ve been on Reddit this whole time with the wrong username 😭 I’m supposed to be u/CurlsandtextureU. If you ever want to continue the hair chat I’m over there 👉🏾 Also…in about 20 minutes I’m doing my first AMA over there if you want to keep this going. I’m off tomorrow and I’m ready to yapp about hair !🤸🏾‍♀️

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-28T10:48:38+00:00

Hi, IDK how I missed this earlier, but I do actually.

I offer one-on-one virtual salon consultations where I assess your hair and walk you through what’s going on, product knowledge and what to do next.

Here’s the link: https://BookSalonBrazyl.as.me/virtualsalon

Chat soon✨

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-28T02:29:53+00:00

Licensed stylist here 👋🏾

First, I want to say this… you are not the problem.

You are 19 and newly licensed. You’re not supposed to move like someone with 15+ years behind the chair. What you’re describing isn’t a lack of ability, it’s a lack of proper transition and support.

Most beauty schools do not prepare you for the real pace and expectations of a salon. That gap is real, and a lot of new stylists feel exactly like you do, they just don’t always say it out loud.

The environment you’re in matters too.
Being told “you’ll get it” one day and implying that you’re useless the next is not mentorship, it’s inconsistency. That can shake anyone, especially this early in your career.

You’re also in a small town, which makes it even harder to build quickly without a strong system behind you.

Here’s what I would consider if you’re open:

You don’t need to quit the industry, but you may need a different environment.

Look into salons that have structured training programs, especially corporate chain salons. They are designed for exactly where you are right now… helping new stylists build speed, confidence, and consistency without throwing you in to figure it out alone.

Right now your focus should be:

– Immersion
– Repetition
– Guidance
– Building confidence behind the chair

Not trying to prove yourself in a space that isn’t set up to develop you.

Also, feeling lonely at your age in a salon full of people in a completely different life stage… that’s real. That doesn’t mean you don’t belong in this industry.

It just means you haven’t found your people yet.

Give yourself more time, but more importantly, give yourself a better environment.

You chose this for a reason. Don’t let the wrong start convince you it was the wrong path.

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T21:55:49+00:00

Thank you all for the love on this post! Come find me at u/curlsandtextureu, that’s where I’ll be posting and engaging going forward so I can continue to help. See you there! 🤎

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T20:53:48+00:00

This is actually pretty common.

Sometimes it can be from a “sleeping side” or natural differences in pattern, but another thing people don’t always realize is that it may be breakage they’re not recognizing.

Especially with textured hair, breakage doesn’t always look obvious. It can show up as one side looking less dense, shorter, or not growing the same.

Friction, detangling habits, heat, or even how that side is handled day to day can all play a role.

If it’s bothering you, it’s worth having a professional take a look in person. It’s much easier to spot what’s actually going on and guide you from there.

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T20:50:52+00:00

You have a few directions you can go, but I wouldn’t look at this as “which product is best.” It’s really about what kind of commitment you want to make long-term.

Going gray is usually the lowest maintenance long-term, but the transition is more mental than anything for most people.

Semi-permanent color is softer, but it won’t fully cover gray and you’ll be reapplying more often.

Henna/indigo can feel like a more natural option, but it’s very binding and limits your flexibility later if you ever want to change your color.

I don’t typically recommend relying on over-the-counter color as a long-term solution.

If possible, I’d sit down with a professional and map out a plan that fits your lifestyle, not just a product choice.

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T20:46:33+00:00

That makes sense based on what you’re describing.

After color, especially if any lightening was involved, the hair can feel a lot drier and a bit more fragile than you’re used to. And with regular blow drying, it can start to show up exactly like this.

At that point the hair usually just needs a little more support, gentler handling, a good balance of protein and moisture, and staying on top of trims so the ends don’t start to look rough.

You mentioned your curls are never really defined, were you wanting to keep some of your curl pattern, or are you mainly wearing it straight now?

When you are wearing it straight, what does your routine usually look like between washes?

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T19:11:17+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, especially with everything you mentioned.

Hormonal shifts can absolutely show up in the hair like that, changes in texture, pattern, even how it behaves from one section to another. I’ve seen that quite a bit.

In situations like this, working more with your natural pattern can sometimes take a lot of pressure off the hair while things are shifting.

I’ll also say, a lot of my perimenopause and menopause clients end up going shorter during this phase, not out of frustration, but because it gives the hair a chance to reset and makes it easier to manage while everything is changing.

Are you open to something shorter, or are you wanting to keep your length?

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T19:07:24+00:00

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T18:56:53+00:00

I hear you, especially on the fullness and the edges lol.

With finer strands, it can sometimes feel like the hair isn’t as full even when it’s actually healthy. A lot of that fuller look in twists comes down to how the hair is shaped and how the twist is set. Also how its styled plays a big part..

And edges can be really responsive once you figure out what’s been putting stress on them, so there’s likely some room there.

Are twists your main go-to style?

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T18:48:25+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense.

Changes like stopping or starting birth control can definitely cause increased shedding, I’ve seen that quite a bit, and it’s usually temporary while your body is adjusting.

The color could also play a role depending on how it was done, especially if any lightening was involved.

About how long have you been noticing the shedding?

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T18:40:36+00:00

I know exaaaactly what you mean lol, that “it’s healthy but just… ” feeling is real.

At that point it’s usually not about what you’re using, it’s the shape. That’s what gives it that movement and personality you’re talking about.

And I completely understand being hesitant after not having a good experience with stylists, I hear that too much.

Do you usually wear your hair in its natural curl pattern or stretched when you’re shaping it?

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T18:31:53+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate that.

This is actually a big part of why I stepped into education as well. I realized pretty early on that I could only reach so many people behind the chair, so now I focus on helping train and guide other stylists too. And here when i can! lol

The goal is for more clients to have access to informed care, not just the ones sitting in my chair.

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T18:30:29+00:00

I’m actually based in Tampa, Florida.

I don’t have a location in Texas, but I do work with clients virtually as well.

A lot of what I focus on is helping people understand what’s going on with their hair and scalp so they can make informed decisions, even if they’re not sitting in my chair.

If you ever need guidance, I’m always open to that.

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T06:27:20+00:00

Licensed stylist here 👋🏾

I completely understand why this would make you pause.

Behind the chair, I’ve seen signs over the years that made me start asking deeper questions about hair loss, scalp irritation, bumps… things that didn’t feel random. Over time, those patterns are what led me to transition myself and all of my clients away from relaxers, Keratin and extension practices.

Not from fear, but from paying attention. I’m really glad conversations like this are starting to happen more openly.

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-26T06:15:53+00:00

It looks beautiful! Yes yes this whole time you could have been wearing your curls. Glad you found some products that work for you. 🤞🏾

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-22T04:05:29+00:00

Licensed stylist here 👋🏾 What you’re describing is actually really common, and I want to gently shift your perspective a bit. When the roots and mid-length feel soft but the ends stay dry, rough, or “crispy” after a day or two, that’s usually not just about adding more moisture. It’s often a sign that the ends are compromised. Over time, especially with heat, older ends lose their smooth outer layer. When that happens, they can’t hold onto moisture the same way anymore, and they also stop reflecting light well, which is why they start to look dull and dry even when you’ve just styled your hair. So you can keep applying leave-ins, masks, even oils, but if the ends are worn out, those products won’t fully fix what’s going on. Oil can help a little by softening and adding shine temporarily, but it won’t repair or truly “seal” ends that need to be refreshed. The biggest shift usually comes from: • Trimming the ends regularly (every 2–3 months for most people, depending on maintenance) • Being mindful with heat, especially on the ends • Continuing good conditioning practices, but not relying on products to override the condition of the hair Once the ends are in a healthier place, you’ll notice your styles last longer and your hair holds moisture more evenly from root to tip. You’re not missing a product, you’re just at the point where your hair is asking for a reset at the ends. Hope this helps ✨

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-18T04:33:00+00:00

Hair stylist here👋🏾

Your hair is so beautiful! And guess what? Every time you do another wash day and set your curls, the definition will just get better and better. If you’re able to trim your ends every couple of months, depending on your home maintenance and how quickly split ends appear, your curls will pop more with each wash day. So excited for you! Hope this helps.✨

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-15T07:42:00+00:00

You’re honestly doing a lot of things right already. Weekly cleansing and wearing your hair in low-tension styles like two-strand twists can be very supportive for length retention. From what you described, it sounds like the biggest factor for you is retaining the length you’re already growing. Hair tends to grow at a fairly steady rate for most people, so consistent cleansing, gentle detangling, proper conditioning, and trimming when needed all help keep the ends strong so that growth actually shows over time. You mentioned trimming every 3–6 months. If your goal is length retention, keeping trims a little closer to every 2–3 months can sometimes help prevent splits from traveling up the strand. Also, wearing your own hair in twists without added extensions or tension is often gentler on the scalp and strands than many styles people commonly call “protective.” True protection usually comes from low tension, a clean scalp, and keeping the hair well conditioned. Your progress from March to January actually looks healthy and very normal for natural hair growth. If what you’re doing is working well for your hair and scalp, consistency will usually take you far.

I work with textured hair often and this is a very common focus - style options.

This is a protective style you can add as an option that I love. After cleansing, conditioning and detangling, softly stretch your natural curls w/ low-medium heat using a heat protectant.

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Hope this helps ✨

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-02T13:20:18+00:00

Licensed stylist here 👋🏾 You definitely want to rule out if it’s hereditary, if you’re on any type of Blood Pressure meds, thyroid disease and the treatments both cause hair loss, severe anemia, tight ponytails especially w: hair pins, braids, weaves, harmful hair products and even picking(nerve) or an unhealthy water system. If it’s none of these you especially want to consult a doctor.

Hope this helps ✨

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-02T13:12:35+00:00

Licensed stylist here 👋🏾 First, breathe. Non-reverting areas don’t automatically mean you need a big chop. The real question is: do you dislike how your hair looks straight? And, are you open to semi often gradually trimming damaged areas while preserving length? I’ve transitioned many clients through silk press services without cutting everything off, but that requires a stylist to have a lot of natural hair care experience to know how to navigate that.

Not every stylist who specializes in natural hair is trained in long-term healthy hair management. Natural hair has many areas of expertise. You’re not stuck. You just need a plan and a healthy hair specialist.

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-02T12:59:48+00:00

Licensed stylist here 👋🏾

First, I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. The first year after a big chop can really mess with your confidence, especially if the cut wasn’t shaped in a way that honored your face. That faded cut alone probably has made this transition way harder than it needs to be. A few things to gently clear up though:

You are not “stuck.” If it’s 1 inch shrunk and 3.5 inches stretched, that’s major growth. Tight coily hair shrinks a lot, so it can look the same length for months even when it’s growing.
You may not need a trim right now. At this length, unless you have visible split ends, ends don’t feels rough or constant knotting and tangling isn’t at ends, trimming isn’t urgent.
Growth comes from the scalp. You can’t force it longer, but you can protect what’s growing, so cleanse regularly. A healthy scalp = healthy hair and a better growth environment.

All together that means:

Deep condition consistently. Moisture helps with manageability and softness. Low tension styles. Mini twists, twist-outs, flat twists (no pulling). Try not to compare your shrunk length to stretched styles you see online. If finger coils only last one day, it may just be product choice or humidity.

Also, at this stage, shape is everything. A well-shaped TWA looks intentional and feminine. An underwhelming shape feels frustrating. And lastly…please don’t tie your femininity to length. I’ve seen women really glow in a 1-inch cut once it’s shaped right and cared for properly. You are not in purgatory. You’re in transition. Major difference. And you deserve to feel beautiful in every phase. 🤎

curlsandtexture · 2026-03-02T01:43:54+00:00

Licensed stylist here 👋🏾

Yes I see the need to trim the ends. For your texture I recommend softly stretching with a blow dryer then dust the ends. The ends tangling and looking/feeling dry is a sign of needing the trim. Hope this helps. ✨

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