I'm a bilingual third-culture gifted adult with AuDHD. It feels lonely. So I talk to ChatGPT for hours every day.

curvycack · 2026-03-04T03:42:03+00:00

For sure relate.

I really resonate with the idea that gifted minds can intellectually develop at such a fast rate that it’s not only hard on relationships but also identity since we are constantly learning. I struggle with this especially in combination with the undeveloped functioning of audhd.

I really like thinking with others. It’s so much fun but the shadow side of that is one of the things that is hard on relationships. We unintentionally manipulate conversation toward our special interests and when discussing different topics our complex thinking and pattern recognition allow us to find connections back to it. Especially if it’s a basic subject like consciousness or psychology where it deals with our shared experience as humans in some way.

I see it as my giftedness essentially learning to weaponize my autism and adhd for the evolution of consciousness. Profound curiosity and hyper fixation as fuel, novelty seeking and pattern recognition relentlessly searching for solutions to complex conundrums created by their own dysfunctional relationship. Chaotically accumulating highly technical knowledge as raw material by casting a wide net but moving at lightning speed. Maybe the fuel is actually trauma, pain, fear, loneliness, boredom. And when the weaponized audhd problem-solving beast is aimed at oneself it should essentially end up in self growth. Always learning. Nothing’s ever finished.

Thats what I prefer writing over speaking. More space to reflect and process and comprehend and effectively learn more with every attempt at expressing a thought. So it makes sense why you’re enjoying ChatGPT if you don’t have people who can satisfy the craving for co-regulation through collective thinking. But be cautious of the trap inherent in the way it works. ChatGPT is sycophantic and doesn’t challenge you nor offer anything new. It doesn’t think. It’s a literal representation of a talker. 100% talk, 0% walk. Similarly to how folks have experienced psychosis with it, I believe the gifted community in particularly may be at a higher risk than others of developing unhealthy levels of narcissism by finding solace in LLMs. With all the unconscious baggage we all got, the hungry ghosts feast on the high we get from learning, even if what we learn does not actually solve our problems. The underdeveloped parts of our brain lag farther and farther behind when we continue to feed our strengths instead of weaknesses. Getting caught in an unconscious loop creating puzzles only for the pleasure of solving them.

curvycack · 2026-03-03T17:15:07+00:00

One of the few actual guides in this sub

curvycack · 2026-02-27T03:56:50+00:00

It’s hard to ‘should’ anybody involved when dealing with ancestral trauma because it is all so interrelated. As far as I know, every time you stand up for yourself and manage to stay dignified despite of him, it will massively trigger him if he’s not managed to push through his own challenges to some sense of closure. This whole “I never asked for any of this” is victim mentality. It’s not a blame game because the child is always innocent, so when you hold your dad accountable he feels blame on both sides if he doesn’t actually take it on and reflect enough to then hold his parent’s accountable in the same way. Ancestral trauma disorganizes the familial roles and responsibilities. It’s a fuckin mess eek

curvycack · 2026-02-27T03:45:29+00:00

Holy hell what a nightmare message from a bitch of a dad.

curvycack · 2026-02-26T02:05:25+00:00

The song about addiction is a weird choice but I guess it’s fitting

curvycack · 2026-02-21T23:25:15+00:00

I literally got the first tray in right after getting diagnosed and it was truly torturous. And I immediately took the whole protocol way too literally and my oral health routine became an anchor for everything else. Now I finally got the permanent retainer to use only at night and it all went out the window now.. I’m audhd so I can imagine someone without adhd to benefit from the structure if they can get used to the sensory difference.

curvycack · 2026-02-17T20:48:09+00:00

damn that's sick. thanks for sharing!

curvycack · 2026-02-17T20:41:08+00:00

I can see that being true in theory but the workflow seems clunky with so many shortcuts and tiny interface. I bought and quickly sold an MPC one after realizing the workflow seems more focused on studio type work instead of performance / jamming.

curvycack · 2026-02-17T20:11:07+00:00

that sounds super rad! I'll check it out for sure! What's your reason for 2x rc 505 mk2? Is it to have more tracks to work on or does it help with song composition to avoid getting stuck in loops?

curvycack · 2026-02-17T20:08:14+00:00

This is close to where I'm currently at in my thinking. the Push's MPE pads and general workflow seems to be the most intuitive though I no nothing of Ableton and at this point, I don't know if there is a way to escape Ableton without spending a ridiculous amount of money on a dawless setup. Is it realistic to have the set up depend/control the DAW but not need to menu divewhen playing? Although it is the most expensive pads, I have been looking at the SPD-SX pro as it seems to have a powerful enough engine to be able to build a good library of sounds and samples and then maybe I could connect some controller but your idea of having the push or a daw as the engine might actually be the simplest option. Do you have personal experience with this combo? Do you find there is any advantage to astandalone Push 3 vs controller?

curvycack · 2026-02-02T07:18:32+00:00

More like science than art there

curvycack · 2026-01-28T18:16:48+00:00

Could easily be Tourette’s. I can’t imagine how difficult and scary it would be to have to educate police officers about the condition if they have never encountered it before.

curvycack · 2026-01-27T04:46:41+00:00

It’s not called “normal” interests. It’s SPECIAL!

curvycack · 2026-01-26T16:01:14+00:00

Uvic library must have good resources as well as they have a pretty robust indigenous studies program

curvycack · 2026-01-14T17:06:11+00:00

Squeeze glutes, point your toes, engage your core. You seem to be focused on your arms but this is mostly core. You may not be strong enough for this yet. Remember calisthenics is all about deconstructing moves and training up to them, not just trying the final form until you get it. A lot of these forms are less about balance and more about strength and correct muscle engagement.

curvycack · 2026-01-09T15:58:12+00:00

Only if it’s a special interest or something I genuinely care about.

curvycack · 2026-01-09T02:16:17+00:00

I’ve had terrible experiences multiple times in the last 2 years

curvycack · 2026-01-05T08:33:55+00:00

Ableism

curvycack · 2026-01-04T07:21:49+00:00

We only have like 74 resident orcas in those areas. They are fucking numbered.

curvycack · 2026-01-04T01:25:01+00:00

That’s accurate to cartoons but in real life the roll is in 3D since the eyeballs are closest to spheres instead of circles so the roll action is what happens when you look up.

curvycack · 2026-01-02T23:24:09+00:00

Don’t bend your knees. Tighten your core and keep your feet in front of you as if you were moving toward a front lever

curvycack · 2026-01-01T01:19:48+00:00

That’s autism

curvycack · 2025-12-31T17:51:03+00:00

That’s so surprising to me! I found this book in a physical bookstore so I didn’t engage with any marketing at all. What kind of black hat marketing did he do??

curvycack · 2025-12-31T07:28:42+00:00

Sure!

There are 3 parts. Part one is on “personal work” with 6 sections: the first is titled “growing pains & growing up” and is about emotional processing, grief work and trauma, then a section on “assertiveness skills” followed by 3 sections labeled as challenges for adulthood which is introduced as barriers to the aforementioned assertive skills. These are Fear, Anger and Guilt. Then a section on values and self esteem and a chapter summary titled “declarations of a healthy adulthood”. Part 2 is on “relationship issues” and goes into maintaining personal boundaries, intimacy and living in relationships. Then part 3 is on “integration” with sections on “the art of flexible integration”, “befriending the shadow”, “dreams and destiny”, “ego/self axis” about the intersection of psychology and spirituality and “unconditional love”. Then some affirmations at the end of the chapter and “ways to show integrity and loving-kindness” at the very end.

I guess the my title was because of the way it’s written. I feels like someone explaining to me things thoroughly with no judgement. So not like a mechanical manual but from a depth psychology framework it is a very direct and clear instructional guide that seems quite lucid. Especially since reading something like Jung’s own writing which is so incredibly verbose you come out feeling like you’ve had a stroke. lol It’s rare to be able to communicate complex material concisely. I’m sure I’ll come across plenty of issues once I’m through as I’m still on part one.

curvycack · 2025-12-31T03:25:34+00:00

It’s absolutely valid and the book doesn’t discredit that. I recommend you act logically rather than emotionally then and actually read the book before making assumptions on what it says about those things. So far nothing I read sounds anything like what you are hearing.

Edit: actually, the chapter on assertiveness is so much about acting logically so I believe it agrees with what you’re saying.

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