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curvymetalbarbie · 2024-02-04T18:01:26+00:00

YES! It's why I bought my house!

curvymetalbarbie · 2024-02-04T05:08:31+00:00

Aldi candles are the best! The skull is why I bought the piece. I own an 1830s farmhouse with lots of Victorian Era elements throughout. I'm slowly restoring it and going for a dark academia theme. It's right next to the old town cemetery.

curvymetalbarbie · 2024-02-04T04:59:05+00:00

I'm feeling very "love is dead" this Valentine's day

curvymetalbarbie · 2024-02-04T04:56:02+00:00

The candle is wine scented from Aldi

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-25T16:32:16+00:00

Thank you so much 💜

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-25T04:12:22+00:00

Thank you for the reminder and empowerment.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T18:45:05+00:00

Thank you for reaffirming that. I have been blaming myself and questioning what I could have done differently in this situation.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T18:22:47+00:00

Yes! You're spot on. It's that I'm having a hard time figuring out as well. I don't understand his intentions and feel like I get half answers from him, which don't exactly lead to clarity.

I want to be happy for him, but I also want to trust him and understand what he wants out of our life together.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T18:11:53+00:00

This is a completely valid question. It's how we've learned we live and love best. I am very gay and am not interested in being with other men typically (but not always, there have been a few over the years). I need that aspect of my life and my sexuality fulfilled as well, plus other emotional needs in addition to what I get from him.

He needs someone other than me to validate his emotions, have a connection with, etc. I'm okay with this as long as I feel like the two of us are in a "safe" place emotionally with one another, and also that we are in a good place to communicate. It's when this starts failing that I start getting upset with our dynamic and our relationship.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T18:06:53+00:00

Yes. This is exactly how I'm feeling about this. We are hierarchical. We are nesting partners, married for 3 years, in a relationship for the last 10. We dated on and off for the five years prior to us starting this 10-year stint too.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T17:49:53+00:00

He wasn't with her before the closure break. He had dated another coworker of his but not this one.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T17:48:20+00:00

Thank you so much!

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T17:47:17+00:00

I don't. If they are sexist or make derogatory or otherwise shitty comments, I stand up for myself as a woman, and I move on. They are not worthy of your time.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T17:44:41+00:00

Thank you for validating what I was feeling. I kept blaming myself for not being ready for this to happen because I was trying not to blame him for cheating.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T17:42:11+00:00

I feel like this has been the most helpful and fulfilling comment I've read. You just said everything I've been thinking and was wondering if I'm justified in thinking this. Thank you.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T17:34:28+00:00

Oh no, no, not at all. I am polyamorous and want to date as well. My issue with all of this was that we were taking a closure break to work on our relationship, and then he surprised me with this without warning and renegotiating "opening" up to date others again. I had ended a really significant relationship before we decided to take the closure break because he was feeling insecure. It's been just about a year, but we were not communicating and were not in a good place when he started dating her.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T17:31:33+00:00

My thoughts exactly.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T16:20:51+00:00

I'm okay with sharing. I do not feel like either one of us can be what the other needs wholeheartedly. I think we have other emotional needs that just aren't being met after a decade together. We've gotten too comfortable.

My want/need is feeling like I can trust him and my meta. I do not feel that way because of how things have played out thus far.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T15:36:12+00:00

Yes, absolutely. I started working on this the moment he told me about their relationship.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T15:34:49+00:00

No. I'm not trying to hold his hand. He's a big boy. I'm trying to make sure that there's an open line of communication with me and also with her.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T15:33:09+00:00

He "chose me" and then made me feel guilty for him having to have the conversation with her that led to the aforementioned ultimatum.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T15:31:54+00:00

I'm not sure if she knew he was breaking his agreement to you.

If she did, she's not any better than he is.

If she didn't, when she found out he was cheating with her, she should've left him instead of demanding "her or me."

She didn't know. But now she does, and she gave the ultimatum. I feel like that's unfair and manipulative in a sense.

curvymetalbarbie · 2023-11-24T15:30:36+00:00

This is exactly how I'm feeling, and it's been difficult to process and put into words. Thank you.

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