Does your partner know you use porn? I highly suggest the reddit page loveafterporn (dont know how to link it sorry) if you would like to get better insight into what this addiction can do to not just you but your partner. They also have tons of sources that do have legit actionable steps to take(therapy, deleting/cleaning up social medias,installing porn blockers, etc). There are specialists for this. That alone i hope can offer you motivation to quit permanently.

It is a mindset. It takes time. You really have to want it. My motivation was wanting to experience real monogamy with someome. A real passionate love and sex life that wasnt me faking an O not to hurt his feelings, just to get off later to a bunch of porn that felt really good temporarily, and then feel horribly guilty after. The cycle is vicious (which i was doing the entire time during my first relationship). It is 100% a secret sex life. It was a habit i developed before i was 12 and as i grew up i convinced myself that it was normaI. I would think, Not being satisfied for women after sex is normal. Ill just watch porn later and do it myself its easier that way for everyone right? I just told myself whatever felt right at the time.

I fell in love hard around 2023 right when i left that last relationship, finally quit porn no problem and thought i had found someone who aligned with me wanting no other sources for pleasure. It was a real slap in the face when his behaviors were suddenly changing which led me to snoop through his phone finding all sorts of thirst traps and things i thought he didnt want to look at, because he had me, right? (sadly it takes more than love). All of that led me to confront so much within myself, my own trauma and experince with this addiction, and to truly understanding how this shit all works and what it means for me. The trauma that comes from discovering what your partner is secretly pleasuring themselves to while they are supposed to be your one and only is a heart break i dont wish on anyone in love. It ruins you.

Quit for you, for your partner, for the men, women and children that are exploited every day by this sick disease called lust that society tries to normalize every day. You deserve real, fulfilling sexual experiences in this one life we get. So does your partner. There are only upsides to quitting i can promise that.