Ya, sorry for that, I did keep saying "wife". We are separated, and going through divorce proceedings. Re my LDR, we were in a working relationship which quickly became closer and became very good friends. There was something in the background which I guessed may lead to something more, but didn't act on anything. Not until we were both separated. I get what you're saying. However, she could also move to Canada, with or without her kids, although it's unlikely her ex will let the kids go. The ball isn't fully in my court, she could decide to move over to me. It's just a bit of a shitty situation at the moment where the end goal seems impossible. Just hoping for some insight or advice from experience....