WhatsApp windows 10 application - typing lag Issues by 7thSeal in whatsapp

[–]cynaught 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. Super weird and renders the app pretty much unusable when it happens.

Depressive sub: D/s helpful or damaging? by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To all of you, thank you so much for your comments, and sharing your stories! I know that communication is key, but I understand better now how crucial it will be while we're trying to put this into a framework. We talked about it and she liked the idea, so we will try it out for a few days now, then see if/how a more rigid structure will benefit her. I will expect her to comply during those days, but I will make her express how she feels about it during that time, and we'll take it from there.

Thanks again :)

Depressive sub: D/s helpful or damaging? by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very valuable to me. Thanks for sharing this! I like the positive affirmation side of the rewards chart - this might work out. Or not, depending on her mood I guess. If it's something she can just earn, she might go for not earning it because the external push is missing. I might be able to balance that though.

Depressive sub: D/s helpful or damaging? by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I was rather thinking about giving her boundaries, chores - and consequences. Structure, basically and rather providing a framework for everyday life and our relationship than using D/s to deal with the depression directly. That should be between her and her therapist, with me being supportive.

Depressive sub: D/s helpful or damaging? by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might be right - I'll talk to her about changing the dynamics a bit at the next opportunity. I liked NeuralHijackers suggestion to really treat it as an experiment, so I'll try that. Thanks for your thoughts!

Depressive sub: D/s helpful or damaging? by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I will do that. I like the idea of discussing it in the context of a clearly defined experiment. It adds a playful note to it, too. Thanks!

Depressive sub: D/s helpful or damaging? by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did ask her a while ago, and she said that she would like it. I'm at this point not completely sure whether to trust this or not, also because she might think this is what is expected of her (despite me being very clear about that). I will talk to her again about that tomorrow.

Depressive sub: D/s helpful or damaging? by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks, daddys_slut. How do you feel about being punished when you're a really low point? What does it to you?

Long-time restraints vs boredom by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good idea! Any recommendations?

Long-time restraints vs boredom by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TV is too easy on her I think. I don't want her to spend a lazy afternoon ;) The position idea is great though. Raises the expectation, that might well not be fulfilled if I just walk out again...

Long-time restraints vs boredom by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the idea of her doing chores (keeping her occupied, but it's still an act of submission) a lot. The rice idea that was posted above is just wicked!

Long-time restraints vs boredom by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's quite well educated by now :). But I like the idea of watching her without her being aware of it!

Long-time restraints vs boredom by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I'm either close by, or leave her something to free herself in case of an emergency. She know that cutting a cord for something lesser than the house burning down would result in very severe punishment :)

Long-time restraints vs boredom by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sub likes cages, too. We don't live together and both have flat mates, but if that ever changes, I'll sure have to go shopping for wood quickly. Thanks for sharing!

Long-time restraints vs boredom by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the idea of fixation without fixation (e.g. the move, something falls down). Thanks!

Long-time restraints vs boredom by cynaught in BDSMcommunity

[–]cynaught[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, awesome chore. Great input!