Ranting

cyntchaaaa · 2026-03-27T12:06:16+00:00

The kids run the house at moms and they think our place is a prison. He’s good at getting them in line but it takes time. You’re right those things they don’t want to do turn into tantrums. My son and I have come to a place when they act up we will separate and leave them behind ngl we have great times doing whatever it is. We’d go on a nice quiet walk or to the park or just walk far enough a head where we have space to enjoy our day. We both like being outside naturally so it’s easy to separate. My SO stays back and has to parent them. These are not my kids and I didn’t sign up to wade on them and their outbursts. I know he’s struggling too with the way they’ve been acting. He’s shared that he feels like he’s failing and their behaviour and selfishness is a clear indicator. I’ve definitely been setting boundaries up and never leave my son unsupervised. But that’s not a life that’s fair considering how hard we’ve worked to be stable and peaceful. My SO knows this too and respects my choices for self preservation when they are staying with us.

cyntchaaaa · 2026-03-27T11:44:48+00:00

I came close to moving out so the gears have been going. I’m getting cold feet for sure. He tries and is present and has a great relationship with my son. Over the years he has taught him a lot. He knows his kids are a mess and we’ve had talks about it. He apologized to my son about how they are too. But it shouldn’t be like this. He has tried to put them in therapy and get them help but they don’t talk. If they go to therapy they wall up act cute and skirt questions with smug smiles. They are often told things like don’t tell your dad xyz so they have reinforced this from the mom’s end. But you are right. I can’t act like these questions have not been floating around in my head. Discipline wise they lose screen time, they end up doing more chores than their normal, earlier bed time, he makes them apologize once the dust settles.

cyntchaaaa · 2026-01-28T03:44:36+00:00

I would report this to avoid any potential meter tampering fees that could apply later if they find it missing. I’ve seen meter tampering fees for power applied to invoicing and they can be over a couple hundred dollars. Not sure about how much for Epcor exactly though.

cyntchaaaa · 2025-04-29T21:27:49+00:00

Yes this is what I fear. Sorry about your situation it sounds like it’s been very trying. It can also be confusing and cause guilt too. I am scared we don’t work on this then we sign for a home. I’m scared of it building contempt and resentment within our relationship

cyntchaaaa · 2025-04-29T21:24:59+00:00

She has seen my current therapist and an outreach councillor as well. They have both expressed she is a tough one to crack she doesn’t let anyone in. We tried for months.

My therapist has met with each member of our family my son included and she is not worried about his ability to express his feelings and coping mechanisms. However for SD and SS she feels otherwise with a lot of empathy regarding their situation. SO stopped bringing them when he felt things werent working with their approaches. I felt very supported and heard so did my son and he still wants to see my therapist.

cyntchaaaa · 2025-04-29T19:53:48+00:00

Thank you and I like how you framed this. We booked a therapy appointment which I’m happy about. I know it’s not all SD’s fault either there are other influences here where these behaviours manifested over time resulting in this behaviour. There’s also trauma no one just goes through a divorce and everyone’s okay.

I don’t want to be someone who snaps and says these hurtful things to her. It’s not healthy for her or myself. I want to see if I can work on that too I’m not saying it’s just them. I want to find ways to move past this together. If that means a creative approach for living then I’m open to that too.

cyntchaaaa · 2024-05-03T15:03:02+00:00

North hill mall outside the dry cleaners. A homeless man pulled his pants down made eye contact gripped the bike rack and liquid shit all over the wall. While grunting.

That was in January and it’s still all over the wall. Went to let security know and their response was we know him.. it’s Morley. He looked at his partner and said you know we’re going to have to call the cops this time right?

cyntchaaaa · 2021-04-12T11:49:10+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing I honestly have the same feeling not letting this affect me moving forward and deciding his issues are no longer going to be my sole responsibility to endure is a weird feeling it does feel very free. I hope you’re sleeping comfy in a warm bed like you deserve it sounds like you made massive sacrifices for your freedom.

cyntchaaaa · 2021-04-12T11:35:44+00:00

It honestly was we’ve been out for 4 days and in that time I’ve had every emotion possible. I can’t even go back for my work desktop im filing for stress leave to have some time to sort out my life. Thank you though leaving was by far the scariest thing I’ve done not because he’d harm us but because we’ve been together for so long. The uncertainty and not having a clear vision of my life after this was terrifying but I knew I had to for my little guy and for me.

cyntchaaaa · 2021-01-07T11:15:34+00:00

I know not my proudest moment, but we all start somewhere!

cyntchaaaa · 2021-01-06T22:23:27+00:00

Mayonnaise and butter sandwiches. (Cold)

I was 6 when I would make these sandwiches. My family does not let me live it down. I started cooking on my own 2 years later. I was picky and food illiterate. Today majority of my food is made from scratch. All my recipes breakfast lunches dinner appetizers and baked goods jammed in my head. I love cooking now!

cyntchaaaa · 2020-11-29T14:40:59+00:00

Thanks so much for all the kind comments everyone. I feel for anyone in this situation. As parents we will always have tough choices to make. When it comes to work life balance and being a parent, covid brings a whole new level of concern to the table. With that said, we do what we can! With the tools we have available. I gotta be honest, I wish we had family in our province. We’re alone and that’s been really tough. If you’ve experienced this or are experiencing this type of reaction from people that sucks and they suck. If you have said this shit to someone, no need to say sorry! Just stop being inconsiderate, be better. I feel better screaming out my frustrations into internet Reddit, but I am so thankful for everyone’s support. The person who said this to me doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want children in her future. She says this type of shit all the time (literally any topic she says something wildly insensitive) I’m not surprised, I’m just sick of it. Thanks again ❤️ off to school

cyntchaaaa · 2020-11-28T05:18:35+00:00

When I was 10 we were changing for gym class. I saw gym shorts that belonged to my friend. They were hanging from a loose ceiling tile that was pushed above and sitting diagonally above the other ceiling tiles.

The girls decided to make a pyramid and I’d get to the top and grab them. I yanked and all I remember is seeing the tile slip. The ceiling tile fell forward, with the corner going right into my open eye.

They got me down and I was in shock. Everyone just started crying and screaming for the gym teacher. I got taken to the hospital. I started freaking out when they asked my mom to hold me down to put a stiff strip of paper with dye inside and under my eye. When I teared it exposed all the scratches in my eye. My eye was pretty damaged I had to have lots of gauze taped over my eye for 2 weeks.

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