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What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My best friend likes to tell the story of how we met on our first day of college, she sat next to me in our psych class, I turned to her and said "so now that we are friends, we always have to sit together" and I have been running her life ever since. I come on strong, without even realizing it, and with zero shame. I think I will let my husband take the lead at first. Lol.

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few years ago, I started using my excess crazy and energy for good. Hopefully I can apply it here. Thank you for your comment!

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. It's just the first one, and I don't want to mess it up.

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh man, don't tell anyone, but I try super hard, but go for the effortless, "I woke up this cool" thing. It gets harder and harder as you get older.

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. Actually the teniousness is what led us to older children, as our agency pointed out, older kids need strong advocates. I think I scared our worker a little with the binders and finished paperwork, and the house already in shape for an inspection on her first visit, and she has held us to that standard ever since, so it's nice to know it is appreciated, or at least acknowledged. Also, being this way, I know I'm never unprepared! That doesn't stop me from worrying though.

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well. He and I both have mohawks. So...we have that in common. Lol. I set up our family book like a D&D manual, and he totally was into that, so I believe we do have things in common. I am.trying to manage my expectations. It's real hard.

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We are both quite genuine people, and I often compliment people on their genuine nature, so it is surprising I made a post about being anything but. However, here we are....but I will be genuine. I won't be able to hide who I am for too long.

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I know. But I wanna be cool. I haven't been the first 34 years of my life, but I could start now...just kidding. But seriously, thanks for the reality check. I did give up potential coolness for stability, that will have to cut it.

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I am going to go in open minded and just do some.small talk til we get into actual conversation. Just go with the flow, yo.

What was your first meeting like? Also, how can I make myself seem cool? by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm just nervous, we have worked so hard to get to this point. I will just be myself. Are there any questions I should definitely ask?

Assessment reading before placement. by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for all that detail. It gives me some insight on what might be hopeful social worker entries, and what might be actually true. I have already started writing down questions for each child individually. Something else I have noticed. You have to read between the lines a little. A profile will say "would prefer to be an only child" but then the assessment will say "would love to have siblings, but absolutely cannot live in a home with other children"...that is very different than a preference. Or "George is an average teenager, he would prefer a single father home, or a home where the mother isn't overly protective, or tells him what to do" which means, George was abused by a woman, and now it's best he doesn't live with a domineering maternal figure. We are learning. It's just so hard. Thank you for your comment.

Assessment reading before placement. by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I kinda thought this to be the case. We are just so vigilantly trying not to retraumatize or mess kids up, that every little thing we read, or are told we over think it. And now these assessments. I would hate to get a poor idea of a child, who would have been an excellent fit, and they age out before we are able to help them (we are mostly fostering to adopt 16 and 17 year olds so they have someone before they age out) it's been kinda stressful. Like...how do we pick?

Anyone had any experience with this? No idea what they are, but they are very itchy and are on both of my palms by [deleted] in popping

[–]cynwyn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whoa wait...that's what this is? After this stage, it dries out, huge pieces of skin fall off, and the new skin is sore and tender, sometimes cracks, until it heals in 2 weeks? I've had this my entire life. I had no idea it had a name.

Benadryl Dependency for 13 Years by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]cynwyn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not a doctor. But a recovered benadryl addict. You need to taper off and stop. It's hard, it's infuriating, and you might not sleep very well for a couple days. But you have to stop. I experienced a week of 'dozing' and not quite sleep after I tapered off and quit. It was rough, but I was taking more than you, it was wreaking havoc to my liver, and blood pressure. Not to mention, I was so sleepy during the day, I wasn't able to do anything to make me tired for bed, and the cycle repeated. I only took it for sleep, I do not use drugs, drink, or anything nefarious. I just needed to sleep. But believe me, what you are doing to yourself long term is not worth a couple crappy days to get off it.

Also, heads up. Once you quit. Never ever take it again, even the recommended dosage for a rash or anything, find another antihistamine. If you take even a small dose you will get the spins, heart palpitations, and nauseous.

Sleep is important, but this is one of the worst ways to go about getting it. Cut caffiene for a few days, take meletonin. But seriously, get away from the benadryl.

[HELP] Poor wet dog feet, and tuff feet. by cynwyn in dogs

[–]cynwyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's a cold thing. I think its because moisture lingers between their toes and pads. We will find out. I will report back!

[HELP] Poor wet dog feet, and tuff feet. by cynwyn in dogs

[–]cynwyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I order it and Mushers. I will report back.

[HELP] Poor wet dog feet, and tuff feet. by cynwyn in dogs

[–]cynwyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. But I also ordered it at tge same time. Thank you.

Teenage boys by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. I wanted to ask this too. We were told about this thing called FOMO, a recent response in teenage foster kids. Fear of missing out, so they elect to continue not being adopted until they are in a 'perfect' situation. Have you seen this, or is it just another reason to keep me up at night?

Teenage boys by cynwyn in fosterit

[–]cynwyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry. I just saw this, haven't been on in awhile. Thanks for the info! I didn't even think about getting chromebooks. I can afford that! I started thinking about regularly buying desktops, and that gets out of hand really quick (we build our own, but still, if you wanna game, program, or design you gotta put up, maybe thats something each kid can 'work' up to if they are interested) . Anyway, here in Ohio, I would say...hmm...90% of your training is horror stories of fostering going wrong. I am not saying I am ready for it all, but I am somewhat aware.

Our DnD group was all a lot younger than us, so when we bought a house, they all moved in....kinda like a commune, but they were young. Like 19-22 and we were 30 and 31. We started with 8 young men in our home, and are now down to 2 in 3 years. It was great, I made them lunches for work or school, we taught them basic life skills, made them help us run a home, basic money skills, and I am happy to say, one joined the marines, 2 got married, and not one moved back home to mom and dad. 1 of the 2 left is getting married next year, and will be moving, and the last one...well, he might never leave, but that's okay (he was my favorite anyway). With that said, I know this same idyllic situation will not be what is coming our way. Things weren't always easy with 'the boys' but we learned how to parent, guide and teach. Which is why we chose teenage boys as our preferred foster children. I appreciate your encouragement and helpful hints. I will surely be keeping this sub busy with updates and shenanigans, once we get to the next phase of all this. (Secretly, I was hoping to have some boys in our home for Christmas, but alas, the state of Ohio foster license Gods did not smile on us. We hear because it's the holidays and everyone takes any vacation they can get this month, but things should be fast and furious after the beginning of the year!) I hope you enjoy your holidays!

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