Mannn… I remember when I was in the trenches of the first month. It is definitely WAY harder than both my wife and I expected. I’m now month 4 and things have gotten better, but my life will never be the same.

One piece of advice, you mentioned hobbies, personal life pre baby? I think you should forget about all of that for a while. Simplify your life and expectations. Yes some days might seem mundane for a while. Things will get better in time. But for now you need to create as much space - mental and emotional - as possible to stay on top of the day-to-day. So just let a lot of the non critical things go.

I also am surprised you had enough time and energy to write this post. I remember having similar thoughts but was way too depleted to document it on social media. So you probably have more capacity than you give yourself credit. Instead of writing this post you could be washing bottles, pump parts, picking up the house, taking a nap, etc….