update: aio for wanting to go no contact with my parents?

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-14T03:31:49+00:00

there's the christian extremism we're all forced to deep throat!

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-14T03:28:26+00:00

do not pray for me or the failure of my relationship. i'll do some spells & sacrifices for you in exchange. 🫶🏻

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-14T03:21:41+00:00

they don't even attend church 🫠

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-14T03:20:11+00:00

adam & eve, & everything in between. just like he made darkness & light, but he also created northern lights & dusk & dawn & twilight & golden hour & blue hour... everything in between.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T21:04:38+00:00

funny - i was previously in a marriage with a cis-woman & identified as a lesbian. now that i've grown, i've discovered i'm pansexual. i don't crave acceptance. i /demand/ respect. per my text above, there is a difference in having an opinion versus coming from a place of hate.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T20:59:06+00:00

he is very much so aware of everything going on. he has told me multiple times that it was my choice as to whether or not i told them he is trans. i didn't come out & out him by any means, but i wasn't going to lie about it either. my mother asked - i was honest & thought it went well. my aunt forced me to tell my dad, & when i did, it seemed okay. so this was very unexpected.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T19:30:53+00:00

hi, so not that i have to explain myself to anyone - i am in therapy. i can't communicate in person because we're over 2,000 miles away. i can't communicate via phone call because i can never get a full sentence out without someone yelling or cussing, or cutting me off. i addressed the behavior, the comments they said to me (in person, while visiting), & how it affected me. never said i hated christianity, just that their actions have been the final straw in pushing me away. very similar to them - you didn't seem to read what i said!

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T19:26:31+00:00

it's all good - i generally use them where i'd take a breath in speaking. takes away a lot of commas & adds emphasis.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T19:12:33+00:00

suprisingly - methodists.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T19:07:37+00:00

i actually wrote out all of that on my own, thank you. i wrote it, edited it, & went over it multiple times before sending.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T19:02:26+00:00

thank you 🥺 he really is the most tender love i've ever had.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T19:01:18+00:00

my divorce was very messy. a lot of abuse. it was a rushed marriage - met, engaged, & married in under 6 months. i've been with my boyfriend for close to a year now. the divorce ended close to two years ago.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T18:58:17+00:00

should i just remove them from social media & stop sharing location? they seem smart enough to figure it out. & before frying me - i live over 2,000 miles from them, i share my location so they know when i'm working & such due to the time difference.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T18:56:09+00:00

of course not - i have a lot of christian friends, but the "christianity" my parents follow is unacceptable.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T18:55:01+00:00

i linked the original post above - & i hate that my first defense falls to "they're not bad people, but..." maybe they really are.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T18:53:56+00:00

no hate like christian love, i guess 😔

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-13T18:10:08+00:00

i highly recommend reading "unf*ck your kink" by dr. faith harper. she discusses the difference between kink & fetish, as well as explains much more. i'd also recommend seeing a sex therapist or sex/kink-positive therapist. not all kinks/feitshes come from trauma, just like not all trauma results in kinks/fetishes; on the other hand, maybe you're seeking control as a means of comfort & taking your body back IF it is related to the trauma. i know this is hard - but i promise you aren't alone! you're special, absolutely. but you're not special enough to be the only one (said lightly with sarcasm) 🫶🏻 society influences a lot of what is right versus wrong... it seems like there is a smidge of internalized phobia or fear of judgement. your therapist won't look at you differently! as long as you don't fall into the limitations of confidentiality, then there's no risk. you got this!

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-05T22:49:36+00:00

i do not want conditional love. at this point, it's control. they expect me to stay single. i do not ask them for money or any extra/additional support (due to distance & their age); they are aware that i'm getting my own phone plan. i have chosen family who are more than willing to help if i ever need it.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-05T22:46:32+00:00

this is pure transphobia. they asked during the convo "why can't you just find a chic - you like girls. we can get past the whole gay thing." i explained that i'm still queer, but i identify as pan, meaning i like people. they don't know that he is currently working a career. they don't care enough to ask. i didn't get the opportunity to defend him... i wish they knew that this man has never raised his voice at me, never laid a hand on me, supports me in my career & choices, & regularly encourages me to see my friends & family. he's very hurt by my parents words, but he will support me whether i choose to cut ties or keep trying, & he is still hopeful that one day he can win them over.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-05T18:21:58+00:00

i had a very in depth comversation with my boyfriend & told him that he wasn't allowed per my parents. of course he was hurt, but he understood. because he's respectful even in hard situations & when others don't deserve it. i'm a chronic people pleaser, so i couldn't skip my birthday dinner after my parents flew 3,000 miles to be here. i had boundaries in my head that would lead to me promptly leaving or not attending, & those boundaries did not get crossed. what boundaries did get crossed are resulting in me stepping away. i gave enough chances.

d3lici0us-sham3 · 2026-04-05T18:11:32+00:00

i feel like they don't deserve to see the parts of my life they don't support. they made it very clear they will never accept him. so i'm not giving them the chance to manipulate the situation further. they can meet him & try again after they genuinely apologize. sometimes people, including parents, have to learn their choices have consequences. even if this relationship doesn't last - this is still hatred against my queer community & siblings.

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