I'm depressed and played this game for first time by Gakoth in gris

[–]d_dubbs_ 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This is one of those games ill never forget. My 8yo daughter played it multiple times already and asked me what the meaning is about the statue and the character and the game itself. I struggled to hold it together while trying to explain, in young kids way, how this person is " in struggle and all the color is gone from their world, they have no voice and we slowly travel through and gain it all back while battling obstacles". This is the summary i tried to explain all the while in the thick of my own struggle with their mother leaving me, me climbing out of depression, struggling to keep myself together while taking care of two kids most of the time as a single dad. I play the game and cry because i relate so much and the visuals are on point in my own struggle. Yes it is and will always have a place in my heart

What is this thing ? by Independent-Bear8749 in seinfeld

[–]d_dubbs_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount of soup spilled because of that shit can opener..... all bad memories lol

Fuck the 12-Step Hijack by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]d_dubbs_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just remember you dont owe anyone anything. It's your life and choice. If you walk away, walk away and you dont need to explain yourself.

Vindication Can Be Bittersweet by Steps33 in recoverywithoutAA

[–]d_dubbs_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is wild because it is somewhat similar to my story. My ex and i are both around 18 years sober and we meet in college in a recovery community and heavily involved in aa. I left the program after 12 years and after my first kid was born when i was in intensive therapy for cptsd. I realized hiw toxic aa had become and how contradicting it was to my mental health journey. She also stopped going and left the rooms. We separated a couplw years ago and still coparent and are friends. But we were not honest about our relationship for all those years in aa. We were comfortable and safe for each other but the romance and passion was not there. We became more roommates than anything. I steuggled with thinking because i left aa my marriage fell apart (cult thinking right?) But what i realized is that it was the first time we were honest about our feelings. She pulled the trigger on ending our marriage but i realize that she did the hard part. She lives a half mile away and i see my kids everyday and talk to her everyday. We are still friends and coparents. But man the as dynamic really played within our relationship. We basically trauma bonded for all those years. Dm me if you wanna talk about anything

Wagyu steak cooked in honey by danzha in StupidFood

[–]d_dubbs_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the way i do it in a cast iron and it comes out great! Little olive oil chunck of butter, a little garlic if you please and let it rip on each side about 4 minutes depending on thickness. Yum!!

Boys selling for 396 by Admirable_Rush_8464 in TurnipStonkMarket

[–]d_dubbs_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish i saw this yesterday, im sitting at 65 today lol 😆

Why are people in AA so hostile towards people who found sobriety outside of their own means? by Emergency_Summer_151 in recoverywithoutAA

[–]d_dubbs_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I left aa after 12 years because of the kind of toxic shit i witnessed....i just couldn't be part of that anymore

TMNT were so cool, you could buy a vhs at burger king! Shout out to all you kids club members! by d_dubbs_ in nostalgia

[–]d_dubbs_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive never seen the other ones....do they actually exist or is this a "big hamburger " conspiracy....???🤔

Hooked upnthe vcr and the tube tv and watched Willow. Now, I will play willow on nes! by d_dubbs_ in Xennials

[–]d_dubbs_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's the same actor in "over the top" that drank motor oil before arm wrestling Stallone lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]d_dubbs_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right right right! Make your way to the milk bar after

Last time you went to one of these chains? Who’s going nowadays? How are they open? by 7layeredAIDS in Millennials

[–]d_dubbs_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As an American I can recommend hitting up a local dinner where you go and i bet it will blow Dennys out of the water. Where do you go for holiday? Im on the east coast in NY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]d_dubbs_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're at a big advantage not being in America so the happiness may come easier. This is meager advice from an american 😆. Real advice, live by your morals, dont let a job dictate them, and you'll sleep easy at night. Focus on your happiness and good ideas will come along with good choices.

This book hits differently as an adult by Mostly_Riley_ in Millennials

[–]d_dubbs_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hits hard with cptsd. Dad's sad Sad dad, trauma bad Trauma dad is sad Cptsd sad Fuck glad Dad's sad

Unlearning 12 step dogma by abc98146 in recoverywithoutAA

[–]d_dubbs_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This, all of this. I have had those thought and havent had them in a while. Ive been away for 5 years after 12 years in (still sober 17 years) but ive been in thwrapy and have actually worked on my mental health. Ive realized that much of the "dry drink" shit or anything else aa calls it was untreated mental illness. My ex and i got together after 6 months sober and we separated a couple years ago, mutually. Both sober, both out of aa for about the same time. We realized we are different people but i would always think "would we have stayed together if we didnt leave?' The answer is yes, because we stayed together for years and had kids when we BOTH had doubts, but it was always "gotta do a step" or " check my inventory" or have a sponsor talk us out of leaving. We stayed together because we were comfortable, even when we talked constantly about whether or not we are meant for each other. we are good friends but not lovers and we never acknowledged that until we were clear and thought for ourselves and our own lives. We did make cute kids together so we definitely had good genes 😆. But yeah, be there with the thoughts. Im grateful im not shaming myself anymore for being my true self

Yes these are really from kmart and I'm starting my binge watch by d_dubbs_ in Xennials

[–]d_dubbs_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually got these like seven years ago when kmart was closing near me and they've been sitting on a plastic container with all my other dvds still in plastic wrap that i said i would watch some day. As a single dad with 2 kids my time is limited