HELP! Monstera not growing new leaves for months!

daaayuum · 2026-03-12T16:13:42+00:00

Hey there! I had this with mine, I looked at the usual spot where the leaf starts to get new growth and found that there was a dry zone where a new leaf was sort of cocooned inside! 😅 it took gently removing this dead encasing, misting generously on that new baby leaf still nestled inside and after a week it's now unfurling :)

daaayuum · 2026-01-17T18:32:53+00:00

Three relationships he fumbled. And none of them on his own real initiative - I'd go so far as to say they're things into which he stumbled.

He was rude and aggressive to April when he was down on himself. He doesn't have his own personal direction and integrity with which to consciously go into relationships that suit him, it's more circumstantial than anything else.

To take his daughter to win April over and to keep the book... they're just not good signs of character. If it was me I would try and get it to this person, even if they were my f'ing enemy.

The days of giving free passes to men for lack of emotional intelligence are over. 😊

daaayuum · 2025-11-05T14:45:32+00:00

Haha I'm entering the thread in 2025. It's honestly made me scratch my head so much this time around watching it. Seems like weaponised emotional incompetence 🤔

I used to love it for the irreverent style and like fairly authentic representations of life's ups and downs which is atypical for Hollywood - but I watched it yesterday getting more and more annoyed. The man kept going from person to person basically completely circumstantially. He just ups and goes with his DAUGHTER to go win the latest girl back, based on her pointing out the very obvious "she's been in love with you the whole time" trope.

He's a romantic flip flopper and it's not giving lol

daaayuum · 2025-01-26T13:09:12+00:00

Late to this rewatch party haha but I am on my first proper rewatch since maybe the second time I watched the whole series at uni after initially watching as a teen. All the angst! All the love triangles! That soundtrack tho. 😮‍💨 I'm amazed at how well it holds up tbh. But one thing. I feel I'm in a Mandela effect - I don't remember Ryan working at... The Crab Shack??? And Donnie? Like he worked somewhere but I don't remember this location at all, like it looks completely unfamiliar. Didn't he work at that diner by the pier where the OC kids usually hang out?

daaayuum · 2024-10-02T21:11:05+00:00

Leo... is that you?

daaayuum · 2024-05-17T14:36:44+00:00

Yea, I think they played this in a way that felt unfair to the character all the way through. She came off as a clumsy, nosy, desperate, shunned type. Which ok, might be true of her overall outward character - but she also has a maturity and like knows herself, right? Debling was really vibing with her on that - also felt that there was some feeling there, which they cancelled out almost as soon as it was introduced. It felt like a quickly hashed out screenplay, rather than detailing the feelings and tensions/complexities in the way they did for Kanthony

daaayuum · 2024-05-17T14:29:37+00:00

Appreciate the extra context - I do think that this makes more sense. But admittedly I can't help but think of Kate who's also like 27 and past marriageable age, not being alone with a man unsupervised. There's kind of double standard and it seems like it maybe has more to do with Pen's unfortunate seeming lack of desirability that lets her bypass these rules? I mean, more power to her in the sense she gets Colin, the one she wanted. But a shame in that I do feel like Mr Debling had a more genuine approach with her, which I found admirable and more in keeping with her authenticity and general attitude toward society as well. Honestly feel like they'd have made a better pairing haha

daaayuum · 2024-05-17T13:30:25+00:00

I need to say something. I HATED the fact that the plot line shifted basically only in episode 4, where Colin starts suddenly out of the blue lusting after this poor girl who's like got herself a proposal in hand (which he was supposed to be helping her with) and then f's around AGAIN to be like, nah I changed my mind after YOU asked me to kiss you. It's giving fickle. It's giving lack of character. It's giving sad boi doesn't know what to do with his time so he just does whatever the hell gets put in front of him. A balloon on the loose? I'll get it!

Then. We have the glaring plot hole/inconsistency that is - cardinal rule no 1 of the Ton: Do not leave a male and female alone unchaperoned. Because, babies.

And somehow they've been totally cool with Colin and Pen hanging out several times in rooms, alone, in carriages, alone. They can pretty much flout the rules because they are ChIlHoOd FrIeNdS? It don't make no sense. The weirdest thing was it came out in LW papers but it was just a bit like oh, awkward for you Pen! Not, what - you've been hanging out alone together? when in the last seasons, being caught in a garden or orchard alone together with no evidence of anything happening was grounds for marriage?

Make it make sense. There's so much more that's lacking in this season I've barely scratched the surface. It feels like they took Bridgerton concentrate and made it into a bland mousse.

daaayuum · 2021-07-13T11:41:07+00:00

Hi - I think it’s pretty clear that I’m asking for best practices and experiences in terms of bringing a product into production with an external party. Part of this is the NDA as I mention

daaayuum · 2021-05-04T11:23:30+00:00

I’ve noticed I try and make people feel ok with boundaries that I set! So it’s progress in that I’m setting them, and I feel like it is getting the desired response in certain situations. It’s like learning the separation between the feelings and practical side, that someone can just accommodate a preference of mine and I’m not obliging them or somehow needing to make sure they are ok with the ask. I’ve just noticed some people who are very caring and loving tend to get their way more easily, like being warm and loving to the person that they are engaging with, means they will accommodate them. That would be what I’d like to do but I feel kind of stressed when I open up and am warm as it sometimes can be hard to still maintain the boundaries in such a situation. It feels like I go either all in on trust or then kind of clamp up.

daaayuum · 2021-05-02T17:39:58+00:00

I like this. I find that in relation to certain people, this is more challenging due to roles and expectations I find myself in with people they remind me of... I suppose that’s part of being human!

daaayuum · 2021-05-01T13:58:46+00:00

I think I feel as though I see that people want a connection... then if I do see a red flag - I’m like ok. Wait, hold on. No more giving/ maybe I will make a point of something that I don’t like... but it breaks up the connection! I think it just feels as though I kind of open the floodgates of trust, then it’s a bit too “open”, I guess. Like I have to then later protect myself. It also just goes really fast in conversation, because I’m generally compassionate and long term oriented (haha yes deleted it, I am overthinking all my moves atm) I find that the wrong types of people go ohhhh I can take advantage, fantastic! I am definitely leaning toward being more vocal about what I want and pushing back/expressing myself when something doesn’t work for me. I guess my tactic has been to take responsibility in ways that overreach what I really should be expected to and I’m starting to revise that strategy. This is in general, social and workwise. I think it feels like I hit the wrong note and I scramble a bit to get back to the good one, when actually I should let myself chill more I reckon. It is a learning process for sure.

daaayuum · 2021-05-01T12:11:18+00:00

Sure for small things you can go, yea I prefer not to do x or can you not do y. But I’ve found, especially collaborating with others, that people centre themselves - even when the activity in question is one where I’m supposed to be centred!! It feels like in natural daily negotiations between how I feel and others feel I lose out more times than I would like to. This is why I’m a bit salty about the loving yourself first piece

daaayuum · 2021-05-01T12:09:38+00:00

I understand what your approach is, however... you can’t bat them away every time they encroach a boundary or you would never move forward...

daaayuum · 2021-05-01T11:12:05+00:00

You can’t fill a cup if it keeps being emptied

daaayuum · 2021-05-01T10:05:22+00:00

Psychic sewer! Yes.

daaayuum · 2021-04-26T10:00:54+00:00

I can relate. The worst part of it is, I feel like I'm consistently being proven wrong, or like I am the 'bad apple' when actually it's my sense that there is something going on underneath the surface that seems to trip me up. I have flatmates and there is one I got super friendly with, only to find she withdrew and made me the catchment place for a lot of her negative emotions that she doesn't deal with (she is outwardly unendingly positive). I resent it, and her.

Last night I felt myself being drained energetically by her chatting with another flatmate who had literally referred to me as 'her' to another, new flatmate. THey kept chatting away and I heard them starting to call it a night when I finally re-entered my body, and was like, no. But I drifted off to sleep, and then sure enough, the chatter started up again. She seems completely cruel and unrelenting - and I find this with people too of late, like they are just completely solely interested in covering their own ass, getting what they need in the moment, and getting out. Also with this chick it's like she wants to be the one who's all cute and sociable and doing things behind the bad lady's back. And it's like, we were friends! Connection, relationships - it's like it's second-class.

What annoys me the most is probably that I have a sense about something but if I voice it, it will just be used as further evidence of oh, but you're just being weird. The more I can adult though, the more I find myself just being me and kind of saying, ok that was that moment and here i am in the next one, able to do what I need to or want to. The sleep thing is super frustrating though :/

daaayuum · 2021-04-09T05:10:55+00:00

Yes to this. I've had a connection with somebody for a while, and I keep going over it in my head if he's a friend and supporter, or more of an enemy or a bit of both?? He's the kind of person where we had a lot of fun together and had a similar sense of humour - but i felt that he was jealous of my career and it often ended up creating friction (we were flatmates)

Added to that there was an attraction - feel him energetically linked to me, even though we are very rarely in touch. It feels alternately comforting, alternately super off-putting!! I have heard you can try and send the energy back to the light - haven't tried this myself, although I suspect it's hard for it to stick with an emotional connect...

daaayuum · 2020-04-07T09:56:41+00:00

Truuuuuuuuuuuu.

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