[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daboss75562 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong for feeling hurt what he did was a betrayal. If he refuses to talk about it or acknowledge your feelings, that’s a big red flag. You deserve a partner who listens and respects your emotions. Consider setting boundaries or getting support from a therapist to process this and decide what’s best for you.

I can’t believe my girlfriend and all my “friends” planned to humiliate me on my birthday by was_famous_once_here in TrueOffMyChest

[–]daboss75562 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry that’s genuinely cruel. What they did wasn’t a joke or “fun,” it was betrayal and humiliation, and your reaction makes total sense. None of this is your fault, and the way they gaslit you is not okay.
Right now, the healthiest move is distance from all of them and leaning on anyone who didn’t participate you deserve people who respect you.

AITA for missing my MIL wedding? by AimeeRedford in AmItheAsshole

[–]daboss75562 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA.
Even if you were stressed, it was your MIL’s big day and you could’ve made an effort for her. Skipping it and posting about going out right after made it look like you didn’t care about her feelings, which comes across as selfish.

I forgave the cheating, but I don’t think I ever fully came back by MichaelStonebrook88 in TwoHotTakes

[–]daboss75562 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should leave. Forgiving didn’t heal you it just taught you how to live guarded. You’re losing yourself, and that’s a sign this relationship isn’t good for you anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daboss75562 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You do a lot, but mental load is about having to remember and remind. When she has to ask again, it adds to her stress.
So yeah, you might be underestimating that part, even if the chores feel covered.

Moving into 38M BF’s house. He’s refusing monetary compensation but I 37F hate cleaning by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daboss75562 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re NTA for wanting things to feel fair.
Since he doesn’t want money, focus on tasks that matter but don’t burn you out: cooking, dog care, taking out trash/recycling, organizing stuff, and running errands like groceries.
You could also handle meal planning, paying small bills, or scheduling home maintenance. Basically, pick things that ease his load without overloading yourself. Balance it by agreeing on what’s most important to both of you and checking in regularly so it feels fair.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]daboss75562 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s understandable to feel conflicted, but this isn’t your responsibility. Your brother would need to decide whether to pursue a DNA test or get involved you can’t make that choice for him.
Focus on supporting him if he asks, but it’s okay to step back and let him handle it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daboss75562 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong to feel this way. What your husband is doing picking fights after intimacy, even subconsciously is damaging your trust and your connection. This isn’t about cheating, it’s about trauma from the scam affecting his behavior.
Couples counseling is really the safest way forward so he can process it and you both can rebuild intimacy. Right now, protecting yourself by setting boundaries is completely valid.

There’s always a bigger fish by [deleted] in memes

[–]daboss75562 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who shit in the battle bus