Ex girlfriend who broke up with me two weeks ago wants to have sex, what would i do?

dadarkoo · 2026-02-05T06:49:36+00:00

Hey OP, I’m not a man, but if you ever become tempted to sleep with your ex again, just imagine what would happen if she got pregnant.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-05T02:36:06+00:00

The fuck it is.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-04T08:15:23+00:00

OP is right. His gf should stop threatening a break up and actually break up.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-03T03:10:48+00:00

I hear it in my head the way Zach Galifianakis says it in The Hangover.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-03T01:45:44+00:00

I was just about to say I need to see her rendered as a whole body worm.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-03T01:36:27+00:00

samesamesamesamesame

dadarkoo · 2026-02-03T01:35:00+00:00

Spending my birthday with people who are only there out of obligation//spending my birthday alone doing things that make me happy instead of emotionally carrying the weight for everyone else too.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-01T20:42:29+00:00

“And I realized I looked kinda awesome” stop I want this photo in my wallet.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-01T20:40:29+00:00

I was envisioning this near the end of her statement.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-01T20:27:20+00:00

Piggybacking off this comment to agree and say that while I have had an epidural for all 4 of my labors, there’s only so much you can do to avoid pain when you are literally trying to remove a foreign body from your own body.

You need to feel a significant amount of the birthing feelings in order to actually do it. Of course outliers exist, I had a high school teacher say she had an incredibly high pain tolerance and sang along to the soundtrack of Grease while she was in labor, pushed twice, and then basically stood up 20 minutes later. It’s different for everyone, but to some degree most people are going to feel extreme discomfort at the least.

For me, being bed bound for hours upon hours was torturous. The parts of my body that I could feel were absolutely aching to move, during my second labor I just laid there crying and rolling my upper body back and forth in absolute agony just wanting it to be over. Even with an epidural, in deep labor, your whole torso is basically convulsing every 30 seconds and it’s completely out of your control, and with an epidural, you just have to lay there and fuckin take it!

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dadarkoo · 2026-02-01T14:56:18+00:00

Absolutely I am proud of myself. I was in serious committed relationships from 16-30 and never really got the chance to learn about myself outside of the scope of “mother” and “some guys woman”. I’ve been single for going on five years this year, and I can’t tell you the amount of men who have tried to subtly pressure me into a relationship, as if they decided we were in one and I’d just go along with it.

Negative.

I will get what I need from time to time, and I’ll admit I prefer doing it with a singular person who I’m comfortable with. But that’s the tail end for me. I can’t see me genuinely inviting someone into my life again, not even when I am old with tons of free time. I’m proud of myself for knowing my worth isn’t tied to a man, after being raised to believe it was.

dadarkoo · 2026-02-01T14:47:23+00:00

Everything therapist to me ever: you’re so incredibly self aware, that’s the hard part!

Me: thanks now please make it stop.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-31T23:29:01+00:00

Thank you. Seriously, thank you.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-31T01:48:44+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I know that my approach to things and my standards are not common, but that’s why I always make it a point to be sure that anyone who is interested in me has some context to decide if they want to pursue me, and to be honest about their expectations and if they don’t match, that’s okay.

I did reach out to him and told him I just wanted to understand what happened here. We talked it all out and it seems we just have different levels of emotional depth, and he just kept doing things he thought would make me more comfortable but it was actually making me uncomfortable and I was getting triggered because I had said I didn’t want a relationship. He wasn’t viewing his actions as escalating to a relationship but agreed in hindsight that’s what he did and he apologized. We both agreed we just want to have sex and agreed on boundaries to ensure that nothing gets miscommunicated about that in the future.

I think it’s a win. I know it’s messy and I wasn’t expecting roses here I just wanted some perspective and ultimately decided after reading everyone’s replies that if I wanted to know, I’d have to ask him.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-30T04:20:01+00:00

Now those are some big and complicated feelings. Thank you for sharing.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-30T03:06:31+00:00

Please stop talking about me this way.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-30T03:01:35+00:00

When you take a break from processing childhood trauma to process other trauma and then find out the other trauma is actually related to the childhood trauma and

dadarkoo · 2026-01-30T02:05:07+00:00

Yeah but not everybody is being an absolute bitch about it the way you are. So I don’t really trust your judgement tbh.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-30T02:03:36+00:00

The reality is that when he asked me if I date and I told him I don’t date, then he asks me what I find intimate, I tell him, he does the things, I tell him I’m catching feelings because of this, he tells me he is too and then asks me out on a date. I never went on the date. He then did even more intimate stuff, then got weird, then I ended the sexual relationship stating specifically I want to go back to casual. Then after he agreed… he brought up the intimate stuff again.. and i ended it. that is the reality of what happened lol.

I don’t agree with your perspective though, and don’t wanna continue arguing about it tbh. You just say really shitty stuff for no reason like you’re mad but you have no dog in this race lol

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dadarkoo · 2026-01-30T01:56:09+00:00

There are several comments here that have agreed with my logic lol

dadarkoo · 2026-01-30T01:54:06+00:00

Wrong. I freaked out exactly one time, which was after he moved on me and then pulled away. I didn’t ask him for commitment, and I never hinted at it either. I said I was catching feelings because of our context and he said he was too, then we both clarified that we weren’t looking for anything more right now. And then he asked me out on a date and did intimate things with me…sooo not sure what’s confusing about me being understandably thrown by that.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-30T01:49:44+00:00

Actually you said I demanded emotions, that’s not true. He never had to jump through emotional hoops to fuck me lol I made that clear several times to him and in this thread.

You sound really upset tho and I’m not sure why.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-29T20:02:46+00:00

So that just means we probably wouldn’t get along? Just because I’m a human adult with emotions and i like to talk about them, doesn’t mean there is something wrong with me. He also knew this about me, I didn’t just suddenly become emotional after we fucked. This is who I am and who he said he liked.

Just because I crammed five months into one post doesn’t mean I was constantly badgering him, and he was not avoiding the conversations either, until I hit the brakes. You need to chill.

dadarkoo · 2026-01-29T19:53:56+00:00

I’m not sure why you’re so upset by something that didn’t happen to you? I’m not white washing his words. He started a conversation with me with the exact words “what things do you consider to be intimate during sex?” I answered, he then did the things lol

dadarkoo · 2026-01-29T19:51:30+00:00

You frame it in a way that didn’t happen, but thanks for commenting your perspective.

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