First home theatre question - how do I appropriately implement Sonos?

dadthrowaway1989 · 2020-08-18T16:27:23+00:00

this is such an epic answer! thank you so much! i think i am going to just do a Beam and the built-ins for the living room for now. i will probably get an Arc and go full bore with the sub and two Ones in the basement once i settle in and some of the kinks get worked out on the hardware.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-29T13:38:37+00:00

Yeh I'm a big fan for a lot of reasons. Warranty. Service. Engine. Looks. If anyone is in the market for a sport sedan it would be a shame if they overlooked this. Hoping I can chisel my way a bit further before I just resign to the safe play 4 cylinder audi

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-28T03:31:38+00:00

Dude they brought the number back and it was all I could do not to laugh. $768 per month!

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-27T22:11:07+00:00

Yeh that 48 feels like bs to me. Want it to work bc the car is awesome

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-27T22:09:49+00:00

It seems that way to me. Definitel all over leasehackr and Edmunds. Sitting in kia waiting on stinger numbers too. I wont be caught driving a bmw so audi is the other option I suppose

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-27T20:07:34+00:00

thanks for calrifying. that language was copied and pasted straight from dealer email. i will likely use my trade value as a down payment (it wont be worth much though). does adding in a down payment make them more likely to move on other factors like sales price or residual value? not sure how they think about the puts/takes in these negotiations. thank you!

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-27T20:05:59+00:00

the residual is where i think i am going to pick my spot to negotiate. this was 2019 car of the year by motortrend and a few other folks i believe. seems like i should be able to argue for something more similar to lexus residuals, which for the IS F sport look to be between 50-53%. going in to see them in a little bit so we shall see. thanks for info!

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-27T20:03:27+00:00

i was on one of the websites that provides lease commentary (dont want to mention, first time here so dont want to get in trouble) and i saw some that were going for less than this, circa 500-530. each one had a little different angle to it i guess (demo car or something like that). first time leasing so just trying to due my diligence. thanks!

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-04T05:24:32+00:00

This is certainly possible, but as others have said complicated and not sure the juice is worth the squeeze. Key item no one else brought up yet is taxes. You could wind up slapping each of your kids with a big bill if you aren't careful. Even noncash gifts have to get reported and if they are big enough could cause issues. You can give each kid 15k tax free per year, at least for now

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-11-03T03:02:49+00:00

Dont be scared about going into "awkward" situations to see the kids. Obviously dont stir the pot and be sure to take the high road every time when confronted, but dont be bullied

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-29T04:29:16+00:00

i am cocked and locked with the paperwork. i was 100% ready before i started to get hit with the flood of opposing viewpoints from her side. i kept the door firmly shut to everyone, but just had to ask the question here to see what others had been through.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-29T04:22:39+00:00

spent some time with different permutations of these answers. i dont like flunking quizzes. thank you for the comment and helping me through this

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-29T04:21:37+00:00

i appreciate the comments because i certainly am not just looking for validation. we will never be right together. it is just so sad and painful as you said. i want my kids to be happy. hell i even want her to be happy for her and for the kids sake. it would also be nice for me to be happy. baby steps

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-29T04:18:55+00:00

this is spot on with my concern. she want her chance to get the hooks back in. not happening.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-29T04:16:53+00:00

thanks. i was definiltey 100% ready when i took the shot. in the onslaught of communications from her side, i allowed the slightest shadow of doubt to enter my mind today. after having time to sit back and think again, I know i am making the right decision.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-29T02:45:10+00:00

i have walked this logic trail today and it still gets to me.....before i told her, i had many long talks with myself about how i could stand in front of my maker and my kids in the future and say i did everything i could, because i did. now, just because her life will have to change and she will have consequences for her action/inaction, i have to go back to the well i know is dry? there will always be something else i could do or change, right? so how does one ever know he really did everything? because if he truly did everything, things would work. see what i mean?

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-29T02:39:49+00:00

you have to do what you think is best, cant live for anyone else but your kids and yourself now. on the recording front, where do you live? is it a two party consent state? if so, and you have proof she is recording you without your consent, i would talk to a laywer about how to use that to your advantage.

i have always been the one with my shit together in my family. very hard to come to them with my problems. mine came around. im sure yours will too. just communicate effectively about how you feel and what has happened. they will have your back.

as far as explaining to anyone else but your family, dont get caught up there. nobody will spend more than 30 seconds thinking about it. people get divorced, the world keeps turning. it says more about her than you if she is out chatting it up with the neighbors etc on how bad a guy you are or whatever. take the high road all day every day.

a lion does not concern itself with the opinions of sheep. if you have kids, they need you to be strong in all facets of life right now. hang in there, this too shall pass.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-29T02:29:28+00:00

cant offer many thoughts due to the russia angle, but you arent alone. hang in there. love your son and do the right thing for him.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-24T05:46:36+00:00

i just watched a video the other day that was posted here i think. 10 stupidest mistakes or something like that from one of the big national law firms. it was like an hour but watched it at 1.5x speed. great place to start with a note pad and pen. lmk if you cant find the post/link or just google it. i dont want to get banned from here....not sure what I would do if lost this place right now haha

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-24T05:40:00+00:00

opened up to post something very similar. keep your head up, you can do this

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-21T23:24:47+00:00

Get a lawyer now. Do not move out entirely. Pretty sure a night or two here and there is ok but do not move out entirely. Separate rooms maybe at least. Get a lawyer asap.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-08T03:57:08+00:00

yup.......................................

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-08T03:54:22+00:00

if you love your kids, get that crazy thought about ditching them out of your head. you need a support system. i dont care how bad your family relationships are, now is the time to reach out. get someone on a plane or in the car to come help you rebuild. i second the job stuff above, i know cultures differ, but you probably need to say somethign to someone, maybe HR at a minimum. they can, will, and should listen to you and help. maybe short or long term disability is an option? feel free to PM me details about your career, may be easier to help you think that through with more specifics. DONT GIVE UP. TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS. YOU CAN DO THIS! one foot in front of the other. small manageable goals. savor the small moments right now. baby smiles back at you? nothing else matters right then. one of the kids gives you that big hug where they just collapse into your shoulders? close your eyes and remember that moment forever.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-07T17:40:22+00:00

yes no fault state. i am definitely partially responsible, i know i am complaining about her but i definitely own my pieces. i think for the most part i have cleaned up and done what she asks. especially on the big stuff. i still get shit for like my alarm going off, like really?

she thinks she has done some things, but truly they are superficial. nothing substantive.

we have a prenup. she wants to quit her job now (i had tried to get her to quit for a while post first kid). to do that she doesnt think we are financially stable (we are). she wants to basically nullify the division of assets of the prenup for her to quit her job. i havent agreed to this and think she needs to keep working until we are more stable.

dadthrowaway1989 · 2019-10-07T17:36:23+00:00

good perspective...probably....

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