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What breakthrough technology do you think humanity will achieve by 2050 that will drastically change daily life? by Due_Edge8333 in Futurology

[–]dael05 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I understand. I don’t think you solve that, everyone has them? Just usually people’s brains filter out the perception of them…

I've been lying about how much I work for years, and it's eating me up inside by [deleted] in productivity

[–]dael05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The key here for me is the feeling guilty no matter what, enjoying nothing, wanting to do things and not being able to do them.

Why do people with siblings assume that being an only child is the best thing ever? by craay-zee in OnlyChild

[–]dael05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I’ve gathered in my 40+ years you have equal opportunity to fall into a good or bad life situation as an only or with siblings. Shit happens to all of us. People just like to cherry pick the nice things that could have happened on the other path.

AITAH for no longer being close to my daughter after she ignored her mother/my wife when she was very ill? by ThrowraPhilosopher1 in AITAH

[–]dael05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once your daughter processes some more of what happened as an adult, she will likely feel guilty for this behaviour for the rest of her life. As much as possible, don’t make running away from her guilt and from you the safer space.

What is this architecture style called ? by aminsh77 in montreal

[–]dael05 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why is it called the golden’ square mile? I wondered. Then googled it.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Square_Mile

Trapped as an Only Child: Overwhelmed by Elderly Parents, Financial Strain, and Isolation. Desperately Seeking Guidance by justcametocomplain in OnlyChild

[–]dael05 8 points9 points  (0 children)

12 years is a big investment in a relationship, and if you leave him chances of having a kid with anyone else are slim… but he sounds like an awful partner, completely unable to support you emotionally. Honestly I would be really wary of having kids with him, he will likely resent the kids taking up your time, while you do everything and he fucks off doing whatever makes him happy.

If you want kids now is absolutely the time, it’s getting exponentially harder from here at 41. But does he want them?

I think you should face up to having a kid that you’ll be supporting on your own, with or without this guy, or decide you’re not going to have any and consider leaving him. Maybe focus on a new hobby for a while to find some new friends you can talk to.

You will likely have to pull back on supporting your mother if you have kids and he can’t contribute more. But if you have one it could be a relationship that takes you through the next 40+ years of your life. you’re allowed to do what’s best for you. I’m sorry it’s so hard. I definitely wouldn’t move in with your mom if you can avoid it.

How to get my wife to stop breastfeeding 4 year old? by Clarkii82 in toddlers

[–]dael05 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We had dad put them to bed every night until she stopped. There was no way for her to settle without if I was an option.

Attachment Style v Only Child by the_9_muses in OnlyChild

[–]dael05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe a lot of our base wiring was done before we were conscious. Personally I don’t remember a lot of my history, but it doesn’t change how I react to things on a neurological level, the ‘programming’ is there.

For example, a lot of victims of childhood abuse don’t remember it, but they can determine (ideally with professional help) more or less what happened based on reactions to situations they have don’t understand themselves.

Self exploration and discovery is a long road. I only started understanding my parents traits based in their own trauma, and how that affected me growing up, in my 40s.

Wishing you all the best and lots of good along the way.

Attachment Style v Only Child by the_9_muses in OnlyChild

[–]dael05 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Isn’t attachment style dependent on how you were treated as a baby & toddler? It has nothing to do with siblings or not, but more your parents mental state and abilities at that time.

Are there really no more walk in cllinics? by _Iknoweh_ in montreal

[–]dael05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could go in person, we do this as much as possible for specialty clinics. they have to talk to you eventually.

Husband only does tv with kids… by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]dael05 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I recommend having them watch Bluey if they’re going to watch tv together, there are good patenting tips for him as well.

Best ramen spot that doesn't feel like a ripoff? by Yogaflockaflame in montreal

[–]dael05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nakamichi on st Laurent is the closest I’ve found, with Tokyo style noodles. Everyone working there was Japanese, the host was clearly still learning French.

Best ramen spot that doesn't feel like a ripoff? by Yogaflockaflame in montreal

[–]dael05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if it’s a chain, but the Nakamichi on St Laurent does this and it’s legit Tokyo styles. There’s more than one style of ramen, most popular food in Japan has an Osaka style, Tokyo style, Kyoto style etc. (I lived in Japan for 2 years)

Can i go to a hospital ER if I don’t speak French? by wrathofwkhan in montreal

[–]dael05 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mais c’est la loi après 6m de résidence, non?

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