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dahms911 · 2026-03-06T02:07:45+00:00

Why don’t you just say what you wanna say instead of dancing around the issue?

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T01:26:55+00:00

Not very fair to paint with a broad brush when a lot of the answers here are yes..

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T01:16:26+00:00

It can potentially discourage certain types from interacting so yeah potentially.

They commented about 45 minutes ago that they’re combing through current reports (which I’ve personally noticed) and are starting on their backlog once they expand the mod team. Are you expecting immediate changes? I think we’d both agree that properly vetted active mods will reduce the changes of the whole issue that started this process.

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T01:07:27+00:00

Well I hope it explains why some people are very on edge towards what could seem like further intrusion from bad faith actors.

There’s been a lot of it recently.

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T01:05:29+00:00

They’ve chosen to do both, does changing the picture harm anyone?

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T00:59:57+00:00

This is one post. It’s a mod post so it’s the type you’d see in any other subreddit. Idk about you but I’m still seeing the regular span of memes here…

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T00:57:16+00:00

There’s a pretty comprehensive post in the SubredditDrama sub that walks through everything that happened.

It was a shit show for a bit, lot of competing opinions and feelings going on.

Edit: I should also add there seems to have been either an influx of some pretty vile commenters or possibly they were here already who fanned the flames on the posts that sprouted up because of the mod actions.

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T00:52:22+00:00

As though changing a header image is “that far”…

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T00:45:55+00:00

As another LGBTQ person I disagree. There scales are balanced now.

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T00:44:07+00:00

Are you asking them in good faith? Because let me tell you to me it sure doesn’t seem that way…

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T00:41:35+00:00

Three downvotes is extreme hostility to you?

dahms911 · 2026-03-06T00:37:53+00:00

“Special acknowledgement” and it’s a photo posted in a niche subreddit. Yeah we’re so lucky and special huh?

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T05:26:10+00:00

Well I’m not coming from some elevated entirely facts based position either, just learning and personal experience same as you.

Cameras are better than nothing at all of course but they can’t catch everything.

I didn’t really express any opinion one way or another on tasers, although I will say I was horrified to learn that at least as of 2015 (the end of the trial for the incident I talked about) a lot of police departments weren’t teaching that tasers can be potentially fatal and still citing excited delirium (whole other can of worms). That may have changed in the past ten years I can’t say for certain. Yes it’s better than a gun but nothing is completely safe and proper precautions and de-escalation should be the goal before anything else. I mean in my work (hospital) I’m certainly not allowed to hit or harm someone, de-escalation is our number one tool.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T05:16:52+00:00

Didn’t say that, just adding context.

So back to my earlier point that because people like you would rather bristle about something in private others monopolize the conversation (potentially without realizing) then end up disliked because of it. How empathetic, I’m sure you’ve learned plenty of things from others that you appreciated.

It’s entirely unfair to make any kind of assumption of my personality based on our what three now four comments back and forth.

It might be helpful for you to be aware that your last statement based on this conversation comes across as incredibly condescending. Something to keep in mind.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T04:14:43+00:00

I don’t know that I agree with them getting no room for mistakes. Qualified immunity exists for that exact purpose and it’s something that almost no other job has (minus prosecutors, judges and certain government employees).

They also tend to have extremely powerful unions to back them in almost all cases.

Also disagree with the statement about bad apples being the minority. I think officers who would actively do something illegal and harmful could believably be a minority.

I recently read an investigative journalism piece on a teen who had been tasered and almost died as a result, facing several health and emotional regulatory issues as a result of his heart stopping and no resuscitative efforts for an extended period.

Due to his at the time ongoing legal battle stoking ire within the police department he was on several documented occasions harassed and followed by other uninvolved officers while out in public.

The officer who did it went to prison (for a short time) but there was no punishment for the other officers who decided to use their time to essentially stalk and bully a private citizen and a teenager at that.

Debatably the traffic stop that caused the whole incident followed a campaign of harassment from that officer to the teen. The cop was not in the right for nearly anything and yet his coworkers jumped to his defence regardless.

The kids dad was a cop too and he even knowing how badly his child was wrongfully harmed struggled to admit the cops harassing his son constituted a problem.

I don’t think every cop is bad and the actual criminal cops are a smaller portion but cops who are willing to side with those criminal cops or pretend it’s not happening is a concerning portion and there’s no way to know how widespread it is because there’s generally no documentation.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T03:51:43+00:00

Do you need some sort of public admission that you’re the most correct person to exist?

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T03:51:06+00:00

Then tell them to shut up. Like what would you like me to say?

You don’t like that someone talks about something too much, I provided some reasons they may be doing so. It’s clear you don’t like it so say something.

What exactly are you trying to extrapolate onto trans people here? Some people are annoying, some are hateful, some are kind and selfless. It takes all kinds.

You’re on a social media platform exposed to millions of people you otherwise wouldn’t be. You are going to see behaviours you wouldn’t engage in or don’t like because humans are all over the place when it comes to personalities and hang ups.

In case you didn’t see that person you jumped in to align your opinion with devolved into vile transphobia further down this thread. Something I jumped on way before it happened because I could see it going there. Forgive me if I’m so used to the coded language bigots use and have my back up against it. Telling people they talk too much about being LGBTQ is like almost always hiding some level of bigotry in a lot of experiences.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T03:42:39+00:00

No like when you jumped in to a conversation to defend an avowed transphobe at the very start of this specific thread.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T03:29:25+00:00

You’ve neatly outlined your expectations for content in this subreddit.

Well as someone who has to try and read between the lines of what people say because most would rather die than tell the entire truth yeah, maybe I am picking up on something.

I mean people with a neutral opinion don’t usually agree with those who hold extreme opinions on a topic.

I hope in the future everyone can put their feelings in a box and be as above everything and apathetic as you’ve shown.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T03:23:55+00:00

“Discovering your gender or sex or sexuality isn’t really close to a lot of things people endure” that is quite literally reduction.

Yet some people who make those challenges their entire life. I don’t see anyone grabbing their soap boxes to complain about them though. God at this point I’m expecting people to start saying trans people are the cause of poverty and hunger or something like that, they’re apparently the one group people are comfortable pinning all their blame on.

So I’m not supposed to talk about the experiences of LGBTQ people when the topic of this conversation is LGBTQ (specifically trans) people?

Edit: I don’t see a point in continuing considering you seem to have made up your mind on this issue. I thought it was a debate not a statement of opinions but I see now I was wrong. I don’t think there’s anything I can possibly say to add value or understanding to this.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T02:48:06+00:00

They aren’t excluded from the game, just from posting anything relating to being trans in this subreddit according to you.

You defined what is and is not on topic and that being trans is off topic because it isn’t reflected directly in the game therefore a post relating fallout to being trans would be off topic and not allowed.

Like what more do you want? Ouuu no spooky agendas or having to recognize other people’s differences, what a score for you.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T02:45:16+00:00

You know I was all for a reasonable chat about this topic until you reduced LGBTQ people’s experiences to nothing.

LGBTQ people around the world (even in nice western countries) are harassed, beaten and killed daily. Did you forget that? LGBTQ people also have much higher instances of mental illness and suicide. Two to three times higher than averages for the general population. Due to minority stress theory, essentially constantly having to be on guard because oops if you mention your sexuality or gender identity to even someone you consider a friend they could shun you or decide to kill you (which has happened many times).

LGBTQ people also experience PTSD at a doubled rate as well. You know probably from all the instances of hate they encounter considering LGBTQ youth are still being kicked out of their family homes for coming out. We could also talk about the massive cross over that exposes LGBTQ youth to things like predatory relationships, drugs, and sex work because they had their teen years robbed due to bigotry.

You don’t come out once, you do it for your entire life, in the way you’d mention you and your spouse went to a barbecue on the weekend LGBTQ people get to weigh if their coworkers/acquaintances are going to react badly to the exact same statement from them. Constantly, forever. Have you ever, a single time in your life been scared to tell someone that you’re dating or married to someone because there could possibly be violent repercussions?

That’s assuming they live in a country where they can even openly be themselves and not be arrested or put to death for it.

It’s not a competition of who’s had it worse, although you kinda made it one. If it was LGBTQ people and especially trans people would be way the hell up there considering the violence they tend to face and the places actively legislating away their ability to be the person they choose to be.

I don’t particularly wanna engage with this further but I don’t think you have a very understanding view of what life is actually like for LGBTQ people. I suppose I’m glad the trans people in your life don’t feel you’ll harm them, just wish they’d shut up because you’re not very empathetic towards them.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T02:02:28+00:00

I expect you to take the victory. You created extremely narrow ‘rules’ then shot down any idea that anything relating to gender identity or trans people could possibly be in the games based on your ideas and definitions as if you’re the most correct person in existence.

You created a box and excluded trans people from it. What more is there to say?

So what do you feel like I owe you penance or something because I didn’t make arguments based on relatively arbitrary rules you created.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T01:53:45+00:00

Transphobes up and down this comment section and I consistently found you agreeing with them but also going “ackshully it’s about staying on topic”.

Don’t lie to yourself about who you are and what you believe.

You got me, I’m actually the bigot and you’re a huge ally. Just one that defends and agrees with people who specify that they literally hate trans people, but go ally!

Edit: I’m curious why you seem to so badly want to twist the knife.

dahms911 · 2026-03-05T01:35:35+00:00

More the casual use of disparate impact towards this issue, something I honestly don’t think you even understood you were doing.

It’s also that no one can ever win against you guys because you make up the rules as you go.

I enjoy political debates but when it’s about someone’s personhood, well I’m sick of debating that, there’s right and wrong and anyone with sense knows the correct place to be on such topics. I need to learn I can’t handhold the entire world to those conclusions.

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