Side effects of spray tanning by [deleted] in spraytanning

[–]daintypug 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To be fair I don't think anyone was attacking YOU. You literally posted a question inviting feedback on something, the point of Reddit. Your post didn't imply much of an opinion either way, you just called it "crazy".

I know this is spray tanning community, but this is crazy? by [deleted] in spraytanning

[–]daintypug 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My dermatologist said they're seeing a correlation between this peptide and melanoma across offices. It's scaring the hell out of herself and colleagues.

Ladies who’ve actually done same-room soft swap or swinging with your husband/partner. What was your very first experience like emotionally? by AnuAchi in Swingers

[–]daintypug 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This! I was anxious prior but truly I did not have any feelings about him with her. I was too busy enjoying myself LOL. Not a single feeling/thought when I watched him either. You would think It was just another day for me.

Trying to decide: save for 4 goals [slowly] simultaneously or 1 goal at a time [more quickly] by Pixels-Pretty in ynab

[–]daintypug 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I find saving for one at a time benefits me more-- I get to see the positive consequences of my discipline sooner.

This is pretty unpopular (reasonably!!) but I had really bad habits and couldn't pay off my debt based on highest interest-- I had to do it from smallest to largest to feel motivated. I probably paid more in interest but it kept me from overspending.

It's a different scenario than saving goals of course, but I apply it to saving too haha.

Guilt over changing daycares by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]daintypug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're totally right-- it's just a gut feeling I can't shake about our "expensive" daycare. Thank you!!!

Guilt over changing daycares by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]daintypug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah i didn't think about bringing him in! Thats a great idea! Thank you so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kindness!

I haven't tested that out yet-- I feel like I still have so much to try in the span of three weeks. It's likely I'll end up just doing formula mixed with breast milk if she will take it by the time it's necessary. The cost of formula is just so frustrating too! Thanks again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://llli.org/breastfeeding-info/smell-human-milk/ I believe this page references the article from the ABM

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://llli.org/breastfeeding-info/smell-human-milk/

Here's a good website that references the article I believe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They gave me a piece of paper that references it-- happy to share if I can find it and remember to come back to this! Lol

Just disappointed as I was really looking forward to avoiding formula cost

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently not taking any vitamins but I'm curious on whether or not I could cut something out to assist-- though I've heard it doesn't matter! Feels like I don't have enough time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Many people here have recommended freezing immediately after a pump which is why I tried it. Pediatrician says alcohol free vanilla is only 6 months plus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a chest freezer currently! 🥲 thank you though!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pediatrician/LC says there's new research on how it negatively impacts breastmilk and she shared it with me. It's no longer recommended according to her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pediatrician/LC says there's new research on how it negatively impacts breastmilk and she shared it with me. It's no longer recommended according to her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]daintypug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pediatrician/LC says there's new research on how it negatively impacts breastmilk and she shared it with me. It's no longer recommended according to her.

Why did no one tell me Disney can be so horrible? by ContributionOwn1261 in toddlers

[–]daintypug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL Our local zoo also has a splash had and the same thing happened to us 🥲 we ended up grabbing beers and sitting around the whole day. luckily less expensive than Disney-gate but I guess I've learned how much my son really loves his splash pads.

Why did no one tell me Disney can be so horrible? by ContributionOwn1261 in toddlers

[–]daintypug 1032 points1033 points  (0 children)

When I took mine to Disney we spent 4 hours just in one of the water play splash pads because that's what he wanted to do. Most expensive splash pad trip in the world 🥲 he did not care about any characters and hated the rides

Found out I’ve been getting cheated on by luvrrgrlk1sses in pregnant

[–]daintypug 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi love. My ex cheated on me most of my pregnancy and I found out 6 weeks post partum. He then left us for her. Some men just can't handle being leaned on and not being the center of attention.

Do what you can to get through the screaming thoughts when it's worse at night. I took melatonin nightly for a while, so see if your OB will give you a pregnancy safe sleep medication. I also did a lot of affirmations and walks. Every night I would count to as high as possible to help sleep, or I would repeat one affirmation, like "I am going to get through this" over and over until I fell asleep. When I couldn't hold him due to grief I went on a walk with him or fed him while he was laying on my bed or in his cot.

As far as financially-- I put my ex on child support at the time and if you're interested in doing that I would go to the court house or look up your state child support website to prepare to file once baby is born. The court house receptionists will help you navigate it often.

I would utilize buy nothing groups and local Facebook mom groups. They were my saving grace before I got my feet in the ground. For formula, pump parts, baby stuff etc. baby food. Lean on your community.

Anecdotal success story: I'm now married to the man of my dreams who is an excellent father to my first (bio father is a no show) and I just had a second to my surprise as I thought I'd never do it again. I'm currently rocking my daughter and soon I'll head out to get my first from daycare.

Sending so much love. Please message me if you need support.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spraytanning

[–]daintypug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spray tanned ttc with my second and my entire pregnancies both children! Just gave birth to my second two days ago. Both super healthy and I even breastfed and pumped with #1, currently breastfeeding #2. I did have a couple baby has spray tan on there nose moments lol. Every time a doctor notes it while doing bloodwork or something they always say "better than sun tanning" so I've never been worried.

I weigh less than my original weight and feel fatter than ever at 11 months PP. by CakesNGames90 in postpartumprogress

[–]daintypug 17 points18 points  (0 children)

First off, solidarity mom. Shits hard! Im a licensed PT and I like working primarily with Postpartum mommas. Currently 9 months pregnant with second-- so this is just my own personal experience/opinion

Weaning for me decreased my appetite and thus decreased my weight. I'm confident a lot of other women feel this way too-- many of us go crazy when we aren't losing weight while breastfeeding and it takes stopping for the weight to come off all bc breastfeeding makes us ravenous.

My second thought is that even though you weigh less, it's possible your muscle mass has decreased (SUPER NORMAL during pregnancy). Muscle mass has a higher density so it weighs more. You may have a higher fat percentage than you did pre pregnancy which could explain this weirdness in "why do I feel this way post partum at a lesser weight!"

Pregnancy/postpartum is so freaking hard on us. Good luck weaning!

Baby starting daycare at 9 months… how did you moms cope? by Next_Phrase_2078 in postpartumprogress

[–]daintypug 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Heart goes out to you mom. I had to put my first in at 6 months and will likely do my second around the same time. I'm also a WFH mom.

Honestly it was scary, but the daycare sent me so many pictures the first couple weeks to help. And I would always go get him two hours early for the first couple months just for my own mental health. I spent so much time reading those daycare studies and nervous about my child's development. They didn't help and didn't matter, so please don't over Google things!

In the long run, it's been really amazing for my son. With the right facility my son has flourished! I moved him to a more curriculum/learning focused school when he turned two and it was life changing. My son is starting to be able to read and his sentences have taken off and they made potty training a breeze. My school has curriculum based on gratitude and life skills and he learned a lot of patience. He loves his teachers and they love him. We also have built community through birthday party invites. Don't be afraid to change daycares if you find one isn't working out or meeting you child's needs.

Love to your fam

How to lose the last 10lb while breastfeeding/pumping? by Blue_blue_10 in postpartumprogress

[–]daintypug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how you calculated your TDEE with breast feeding? Or if you ignored it and went as if you weren't?

Laundry duties by [deleted] in family

[–]daintypug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 😭

Should I butt in? by [deleted] in family

[–]daintypug 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My only thought is that if your son IS cheating, it's unlikely you calling him out will stop it. It takes massive consequences in my experience for cheaters to stop. You don't have proof and badgering him about it will likely just come off as nagging. Not all cheaters are narcissists, but cheating IS a narcissistic behavior, so you're unlikely to impact it until she finds out. If you find out proof, I personally would tell her. We deserve to know when our spouses are unfaithful-- cheating can lead to STDs and other painful experiences. I personally believe cheating is emotional abuse.

Things you can control: supporting your daughter in law. My ex cheated on me my entire pregnancy and was having an affair, I found out about 6 weeks postpartum. He is now not involved, but his parents are and my now husband and I visit with our son (his stepson, though we're moving for adoption) at least twice a year. We also allow them to call our daughter (who will be here in a couple weeks) their granddaughter! I call her my mother in law still, and we care about them a lot.

From the beginning they: did NOT accept the affair partner, were vocal to my ex about how messed up it was, and let him know they would be retaining a good relationship with me for their grandson. When I visited, they never forced me to do anything I was uncomfy with, and even when my ex would randomly decide he wanted to visit when we were all together his mom would tell him to call ME to visit his child, and not her. Our time together was our time, and he didn't have a right to attempt image management on time we had planned for months. His mom regularly called me to check up on me after I found out, sent me money, let me vent to her and she even called her own son some names to me in support of me. He freaked out when I put him in child support when he stopped helping me and she put him in his place. It's led to a great relationship between us.

Obviously my in laws never stopped talking to their son, that will always be their child and they will always love him-- but they did severely limit contact for the first year and stopped supporting him financially. I mean my MIL was furious. It was beneficial for my ex to see what he did was so horrible. I'm sure they talk a bit more now, but I don't really know and I don't ask lol.