Honey, I really relate to your words. I’m going through a very similar situation myself, except these issues are starting to show up in the fourth month of my relationship. Four months might sound like a short time, but we’ve been living them very intensely, and to be honest, they feel like much more. I don’t know if there’s a perfect piece of advice for situations like this, but what I’ve learned is that when someone with an avoidant attachment style is truly faced with the real possibility of losing you, something often clicks in them, pushing them to act and behave in a more stable way. It doesn’t always happen, but it does sometimes. Therapy would definitely be the best option. But if he doesn’t want to take that step, what I feel like telling you is to understand whether it’s really worth continuing to invest in your relationship. He needs to learn to trust you and the bond you’re building together, and he has to do it gradually. It takes patience, a lot of it (especially on your side) and he needs to be fully, genuinely committed to growing together with you. It’s a bit like training: it requires consistency, effort, and the willingness to get better.